Did The Sexual Revolution Actually Benefit Women? - Mary Eberstadt

Mary Eberstadt is a senior fellow at the Ethics and Public Policy Center and an author.

We're told that more freedom is a good thing. That the more options and choices a person has, the better their life will be. With this in mind, the sexual revolution should have been one of the biggest improvements ever for women and their quality of life, but all might not be quite as rosy as it seems.

Expect to learn who really benefitted from the sexual revolution, how the introduction of the pill increased the number of single mothers, where Mary thinks the newfound psychological fragility of young people is coming from, whether inventing hormonal birth control reduced or increased the number of abortions, why so many people are checking out of dating and much more...

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00:00 The Biggest Winners & Losers of the Sexual Revolution
03:07 Did the Pill Increase Abortions?
06:56 Would the Sexual Revolution Happen Without the Pill?
12:55 Did the Sexual Revolution Fail Children?
17:18 Feminism Is Failing Women
24:36 Why Young Girls Are Struggling
29:43 Advice to People Who Think Kids Are Restrictive
35:09 Interacting with the Other Sex in a Non-Sexual Way
40:02 Can Men & Women Work Together to Find a Better Way?
45:43 Society’s Disdain for Sexual Morality
50:29 How the Sexual Revolution Relates to Identity Politics
56:16 People Are Struggling & Need Sympathy
1:07:16 Where to Find Mary

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[ChrisWillx]

00:00 The Biggest Winners & Losers of the Sexual Revolution
03:07 Did the Pill Increase Abortions?
06:56 Would the Sexual Revolution Happen Without the Pill?
12:55 Did the Sexual Revolution Fail Children?
17:18 Feminism Is Failing Women
24:36 Why Young Girls Are Struggling
29:43 Advice to People Who Think Kids Are Restrictive
35:09 Interacting with the Other Sex in a Non-Sexual Way
40:02 Can Men & Women Work Together to Find a Better Way?
45:43 Society’s Disdain for Sexual Morality
50:29 How the Sexual Revolution Relates to Identity Politics
56:16 People Are Struggling & Need Sympathy
1:07:16 Where to Find Mary

[kristen]

I am 59 years old and I grew up at the onset of the women's movement - my mother pushed it on me like nobody's business. It ruined my life. It ruined my experience as a mother. It deeply adversely impacted my children who are still suffering as adults from the brokenness of our family throughout their entire childhood. Today, I hear young women joking about "Plan B" after a rough night out - the abortion pill is now referred to as "birth control" or "women's health care". That's how low the bar is today.

[christianpatton]

Feminism was really about almost doubling the tax base and consumer base. It also gets children into state institutions early in life for indoctrination. Parents who are both working are also more tired, stressed and distracted and therefore more compliant to state and corporate agendas and messaging.

[riazr]

Using dark rap lyrics to break down a persons psyche is something i never thought someone of her era would consider. Big respect.

[bhosterman]

The point made at 35:45 is absolutely spot on. When I’m with my friends or band mates I hardly feel the need to look at social media. I can go hours without looking at my phone. When I’m bored or lonely I can’t put it down. I have to make a conscious decision to set it down and look around from time to time.

[thecliftonsniper]

Can we all take a moment to show Chris & his team some appreciation for this content ... 👏

[martyfenton]

I am a boomer and the oldest of three boys. Our father REQUIRED that we introduce ourselves to any girl's parents and ask them for permission before we took them out. It was a HUGE advantage.

[chrissi]

Chris is always polite, informed and well able to ask the deepest questions in the fewest words. Then he takes the answers, no interruptions . And builds again. Excellent example to watch.

[thegang]

I can’t believe actions have consequences! If only history didn’t start 50 years ago we could’ve had thousands of years of philosophy and wisdom to look to.

[akumacode]

She's saying everything I've thought about the feminist culture of the last 10+ years

[AndyJarman]

Thomas Sowell has a few things to add to this women's thesis. Welfare has reduced our dependency on our families and made us more dependant on the state as our "daddy".

[thomasvest]

I have listened to a lot of Chris's podcasts, and enjoyed almost every one, but I have to say that this woman interviewed is simply beyond brilliant and massively knowledgeable. This session needs to be seen in every high school health or college psych 101 class.

[kurosan]

To sum it up, it helped no one except the bad people. It ruined families, especially the children. It ruined general happiness.

[wileyann]

I was a teen girl in the 80s. I felt a lot of pressure to have a career because having a family and being a housewife was frowned on (at least where I was). I think this has had an impact also. I remember guys at school saying things about women needing to contribute financially equally and that they were not interested in women who wanted to be stay at home moms.

[gonzo]

Mary is so good at articulating her view points. thanks for another amazing episode.

[christyhall]

Loved this discussion. Thank you. I noticed a previous comment from a fellow 80’s teen and I graduated from high school in ‘89. I too experienced pressure to have a career “equal” to my future marriage partner. I knew that meant equal earning power, yet my own personal experience was that my Mother was the bread earner and my Father stayed home with “the kids”, so I didn’t buy into the idea that it had to be one particular way. When you begin to realize we were created to complement one another rather than compete, you begin to question everything you were taught in school and society in general. Where are the narratives, music, culture that show us HOW, WHEN or the PROCESS of change when living life? We only highlight the very top and very bottom of people’s lives, but disregard the important choices that carried them to the top or bottom. If we could all grasp the whole picture of a single lifetime, we can also grasp an honest mistake from the past regarding the grand new invention of birth control and how it lead to sad destinations we never imagined. Human beings make sense of life through stories and we also need other people. I have noticed (without scientific studies), that those people in my life who focus upon autonomy are less happy than those that focus upon connections. It was that simple for me. I didn’t understand change when I was young, but I understood happiness and followed the people in my life I saw living happily and that meant living for LONG TERM stability mixed with some please and fun in between. 33 years of a marriage and two healthy thriving adult children who lead other young kids has made me realize that you can do better than you think by simply watching models of other people who live healthy, emotionally robust lives. I am a god-mother too of two teen boys that are only children and one doesn’t have a father in his life. We attend every event we can. We witness things for these kids and tell them they are loved and that they have other sources of support than just their parents so that they know connection is present. We have fun with them. Enjoy their stage of life. Include them. This is what life is. A big circle. Don’t “opt out” of it.

[StephensCrazyHour]

Tell me the ridiculed Christian conservatives were right without saying the ridiculed Christian conservatives were right.

[tempsoda]

These episodes always do 2 things for me:
Reaffirm life choices I just made instinctively, but that were always questioned by other people.
Make me realise how fortunate I was having the parents and upbringing I had as a kid.

I feel quite a bit of a disconnect with a lot of the problems people of my age struggle with (millennials) and I'm pretty sure having a secure loving relationship, as well as a positive example of masculinity and femininity modelled to me in my formative years is at the core of that.
Which makes me think if we could gift that to the majority of children, we would stand a much better chance at avoiding many of the pitfalls that await them too.

[marty]

" There's pleasure and there's long-term happiness ". Great statement. Long-term happiness is what you have to aim for.

[terryzabon]

In 1976, girls in my Boston elementary school wore t-shirts that said: Anything a boy can do, a girl can do better. And, this was the feminist mantra at the time. I remember female teachers prioritizing girls over boys. ( Even though as a boy I could clearly see that I was stronger and faster at the 20 yard dash than any girl ) I had no father to talk to about this, divorced. My mother told me it was true about the shirt... Everything in America is BS... I learned that fact back in 76 @ 10 years old. Horrible to confuse little boy at that age. Garbage liberal society