r/Bestof Why Does Everyone Think I'm a Swinger?

0:00 Intro
0:08 Hiding money
5:10 Couple swap
10:45 Hair cut
15:03 Comment

[lanychabot-laroche]

The more story 1 went, the more I thought it was addiction.
Rummaging in the entire house, calling frantically, insisting OP was "hiding" money sounds like someone in withdrawal getting desperate.

[pumpkinlightsfanservice]

1. He needs to be locked up for longer, and no. Guys don’t “stray” when they learn they’re dads. Don’t do drugs kids.

[Rj-ijko]

Story 1: …WHAT THE UNHOLY HELL DID I JUST READ…
Husband: cheats, unemployed, steals Op’s money, gets arrested, yells at Op when she doesn’t do whatever he says…?
I just…it’s genuinely scary that Op thought she was somehow in the wrong…
NTA Op and idk how you thought for even a second you were in the wrong…

[buddyburrows]

A lot of guys do NOT "stray" when finding out they're about to have a kid. He's acting like a child and either acting on a time crunch to party as much as he can before going sober for the kid, or just showing his true self. With the update it's hard to tell because drugs are a hell of thing that truly changes you

[izraelburgess]

That Craig guy is actually a hero in all this . He comes across as creepy but he likely did what that comment or did where he reverse image searched to verify that op was into this. And then when he realized what happened he didn’t press the issue he just explained, tried to help, and backed off .

[Hybrid]

By “Getting rid of them both”, I think he meant OP and the unborn child. Not himself. Which is even worse.

[gaffawebber]

He had an affair, stole your money, and is telling people YOU are abusive?

D-I-V-O-R-C-E

[d.phantomfan]

Story 1: OP probably already knows this, but any, and everyone that had defended him even once should never receive any personal information. None of your contact information, no updates, don’t even tell how much you have in your pocket.

At least one self-righteous JA is going to give him your information, it’s either going to be because they think he deserve to be in a child’s life despite everything, or he chained for the better so you should try again, or You weren’t easy to live with, but he’s willing to take you back.

[silverflight]

Story 1: Wow, no wonder he was going nuts and getting possessive over the money. He was an addict, and when the money was running out, he was going to take the worst "solution." That was one hell of spiral.

[danielbrant]

*2nd Story:* Craig inadvertently became the hero OP didn't know she needed.

[silverflight]

Story 3: All over someone getting a haircut because of hair deterioration. Like, OP would've looked worse in those photos if she DIDN'T cut her hair I bet, so she might've actually done the bride a favor, but nope, the bride decides to kick OP out but keep the stuff OP paid for, and OP had to justifiably take her to court for it. Whoops

[coppercorn]

Rslash: For story 1, "Us" being her and the baby. The husband had no intentions of 'self silencing'.

[dennisblankenship]

Story 1: “a lot of guys stray when they first find out”??? Wha??? Oh honey, you need to get out more.

[HumbleWooper]

If the bride in that last story hated OP's hair THAT much, she should have offered to buy OP a wig long enough to style to match everyone else. THAT is how you keep your "vision" intact while being empathetic to a friend's health-related hair loss. Bridezilla just flat-out told one of her biggest supporters that the bridal party looking perfect is more important than having her friends by her side on the special day(s).

Maybe I'm being over-harsh, but if I were in OP's shoes I'd skip the wedding, return any gifts I'd bought, and go minimum-contact because our priorities and personal values are clearly too different to stay friends.

[kpopninja]

11:40 That is not a fucking boundary. That is an arbitrary rule you made up for your wedding. How dare she abuse that term.

[d.phantomfan]

Last story: I’m not surprised OP won at all. She was kicked out of the bridal party three days before the wedding because she got sick and her hair was falling out, after already paying for all the bridal stuff. Did everything asking for the money before going to court, and had all the evidence to prove that she paid for the dresses and was kicked out at a very inconvenient time.

At least in that relationship, didn’t cost her all the money she spent on her friends’s wedding.

[nicholassanabria]

Story 1 and update: ok that husband is insane and I’m glad op is safe with her baby. There were so many red flags that i couldn’t see straight.

Story 2 and update: i never thought that today i would learn about swinger lifestyle (no shame it’s what people like it’s what people like) and I’m glad op is ok and broke up with her boyfriend

Story 3 and update: what a bridezila op can’t change her heath concern and op should get paid back because she literally accommodated with her crazy demand. She literally just wants op to suffer basically I’m glad op won and I’m happy she’s op

[d.phantomfan]

Story 2: he posted vulgar pictures of his GF without her knowledge or consent to strangers on the Internet, which resulted in someone finding her social media. It also doesn’t help that he’s been lying about your ages on the platform so he can lower more people in. Because 18 and 19 are in fact legal, it still considered sus and that’s why most people avoid that age group anyway.


I will say there’s a chance nothing is going to happen since he deleted the evidence, unless you can get the guy who message you on Facebook to explain where he found you. But he seems adamant on not keeping in contact with you, which I do get, even though he was lied about your age and consent.

[PotterBrony]

“A lot of guys stray when they find out”
No…no we do not. Real men keep it in their pants.

[jamiesuejeffery]

I've been a pastor for 30 years. For the most part, I HATE presiding at weddings. There are WAY too many bridezillas. Give me a funeral any day...they are usually very predictable (KISS: tragic or sad).