Emotional Abuse: 15 Signs and How To Spot this Unhealthy Relationship!

Emotional Abuse: 15 Signs and How To Spot this Unhealthy Relationship!

In this video, I am going to give you examples of how to spot emotional abuse in your relationship, and explain why being in a relationship with an emotional abuser is unhealthy and puts you in an emotionally abusive relationship.

The purpose of emotional abuse is so your partner can essentially control you. It is a way to manipulate your emotions so he/she gain a sense of superiority over you to have more power.

An emotional abuser will not get physical with you such as hitting, biting, choking, punching, pushing etc. They might throw things across the room, but not directed in your direction.

The purpose of throwing objects is usually for intimidation and dominance. The power and control for emotional abuse is purely a mental approach.

The first step to determine if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship is to be honest with yourself by evaluating your own relationship and be able to see the red flags of emotional abuse.

We cannot change the situations we are in if we are not authentic, real, and candid about our experiences.

If you have been denying, minimizing, or hiding the unhealthy aspects of your relationship, I hope that this video gives you space to wake up and see it for what it is.

15 signs of emotional abuse in relationships:

1. Your partner accuses you of being "too sensitive" or "too emotional" or "having too much attitude" which is a way to put the blame that they are being abusive onto yourself

2. Your spouse or partner makes it seem as though you are always wrong, and they are always right

3. Your partner often points out mistakes or flaws

4. They blame you for things you did not do

5. They make excuses for their behavior and try to blame others, not taking any personal responsibility

6. You are humiliated and put down at times.

7. They hardly or never apologize for being wrong or hurting you

8. They blame you or other people for life difficulties and problems

9. They curse at you and call you names when they are angry

10. Your needs, suggestions, and opinions are not factored in

11. They are emotionally distant, especially when they are upset

12. They don't show you empathy or compassion

13. You feel "teased", resulting in you feeling put down

14. They view you as an extension of themselves rather than an individual

15. They share personal information about you with others

Being in a relationship with someone who is emotionally abusing you can often mimic the pattern of physical abuse where the abuser will often apologize and give you gifts after rage full and angry moments in an attempt to get you to not leave them.

The abuser wants you be to confused by showing you how he/she can be a good partner and manipulates you to the point that you question leaving him/her.

But as soon as the fight is over and you make up, the abuser will do another pattern that will make you feel disrespected, controlled, sad, and trapped.

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Thank you for watching!! This is Kristin Coaching, and I am a dating and relationship coach.

Kristin Coaching is a relationship coach and dating expert for both men and women. Kristin Coaching loves offering relationship advice to anyone who wants to strengthen their relationship, and have that long-lasting, happy relationship they deserve!

[felicitysaliba]

Your video helped me identify that my relationship was toxic and that I had to leave. I did it I left my relationship 2 days after watching this relationship and that was two months ago and haven't looked back! Thank you so much!

[sjwillis]

I have been in this situation for years and yet I have pushed it into the margins . Deluding myself that everything was fine . The thing that really hurt was that there was a female cousin of his I had never met . We invited this cousin to our wedding . She couldn't come . Then about two years later his grandmother died and we attended her funeral . This female cousin was there, she came up to embrace my husband . I was standing right next to him and he didn't introduce me . No acknowledgement was made of me at all . But I thought... don't be childish and churlish . It's their granny's funeral . Later in the pub where we all gathered, he failed again to introduce me to this person . Even when the opportunity was shoved in his face . I felt so unvalued, and humiliated . It was awful . I went to the toilets and had to breath and fight back tears .
My husband disown me pretty much at family gatherings . I talk to his sister's, and his brother but he is floating around on the other side of the room . He teases me constantly when we are alone . It sometimes borders on spiteful and hurtful . He says, he's joking. He never wants to do anything with me .He gets agitated with me when I talk . If I wake up from a bad dream he never ever asks me what the dream was about. Ever . I always ask him . Kristen this video was pretty spot on . I've been feeling like rubbish with him for too many years . I am unhappy, because I had so much to give him and to share, and it's just not working out . My story is long . I could write a book . Through videos lime yours I am discovering that maybe I am not the defective one after all. He made me believe that I was. ♡ 🙏

[KristinCoaching]

Thank you all for watching this video. Pls leave your comments and feedback below and I'll get back to you

[CindyPiper]

What if the controlling is goi g both ways? Sometimes I done some of these things. I am working on it in therapy. My husband doesn’t think marriage therapy helps, but will go if I really push it.

[thebranhamfamily]

Thankyou soo much for this ive watched two videos and im been n this crap for almost 10years tryinf to make me believe everything is my fault and ive withdrawl3d from my family i feel i cant say no n everything is my fault my feelings don't matter man thankyou. Also i love watching your mucbumbs

[amyar-w]

Hi, what about being really confusing. How do you know when it's miscommunication vs purposeful?

[TheTbenson]

What if the response to you saying: I get that you don’t think you did anything wrong. But I still got hurt, and your intent doesn’t change the impact of what happened. I hope you can see that….their reaction is…if I’m so awful then why are you with me? How do you even respond to that???? Please help!

[Christina-uymn]

I had been feeling sad lately because my partner was scolding me for mistakes I'd make. Ex: I accidentally put colors in the washer and didn't see that she had washed whites, they got washed together. I made a mistake putting together a file drawer I bought for her which I fixed. I got distracted and forgot to lock the back door and it stayed unlocked for about three hours while we were napping. I forgot to give her back her credit card when I went to buy some stuff for her. Each if these mistakes resulted in lectures about how careless I am. How she can't trust me and I inconvenience her. She said "do you ever get tired of fixing mistakes?" 😒 I've been feeling uncomfortable around her and on edge. She often tells me to move out when I upset her. She tells me not to talk about work. She tells me not to tell her I miss her because it feels needy. She tells me she shouldn't have to teach me about (fill in the blank). Its not her job. When I try understand her feelings she tells me "you don't get it, there's nothing more to say." "You've shown me who you are." "I have what I need to know now." "You treat me like shit." "You can't freeloader off me." I make a lot more money than she does so I give her a lot and buy her things she needs for the house. I usually buy groceries and pay for dinner. I put her on my bank account and told her she always has access to whatever amount she needs. We encountered a situation that triggered some bad memories and we talked about it. I needed to take some time to process it and my feelings so I didn't text her when I was on my way to work. When I did call her, I told her I felt guilty for not texting and that I was struggling with my thoughts and needed to cope quietly. She told me I'm selfish and abandoned her, that I took care of myself instead of her. I usually text her around 6:30 am but I waited until about 9:50 am. It upset her a lot and she continued to tell me I need to move out so I left her. Was I wrong? I just couldn't handle being told to leave anymore. And I needed a quiet moment to calm myself and think. I never do that so it was out of character for me. I know she needed me to text her that morning and express care for the situation. I just didn't have the energy yet. Was I wrong to do this? I'm so sad, I love her a lot but I couldn't take it anymore. I miss her but I feel like running far away from her.

[markgalarza]

Is there still hope if the partner is willing to get help?

[kharessaclaireacaylar]

My boyfriend curses me whenever he gets angry. It hurts so so much :(