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[moyaking]

My husband and I have been married now for 42 years. For the last 4.5 years he has had a on off affair with the same woman. She has actually now ended it. My husband moved into his own place a year ago. Now he doesn't want to move back (his place is too small for the 2 of us) he says he hasn't got any passion for me and hasn't had for quite some time and the irony of this is that he doesn't want me to find a new man, my husband is a selfish person who wants the best of both worlds. He flatly refuses to seek ANY kind of help, he says it's no one else's business. I still love him, by the way he's 76 and I'm 61 so as of yesterday I decided that enough was enough as the whole situation is making me ill. I have now given up the fight for him. There are times in our lives where we must put ourselves first as no on eles will.

[laniec.f.]

You may not have all the answers, but what you do offer is top notch advice and guidance. Bless you.

[Imjustsayin]

I guess I did pretty good in finding these videos within a year, but so true you can’t just go to any therapist. In fact, if it’s a good therapist they should point couples over to Affair Recovery instead of just taking your money. It should be required information. Instead they waste time on the ‘Gottman method’ on how to predict divorce; I mean, of course the four horseman have arrived after D-day!

[mandihall]

My situation is very similar to yours but my husband‘s affair ended our marriage he had an affair with a younger coworker for one year prior to us getting divorced last year September 2018 we have four children together we were together for 19 years and I couldn’t handle how he was treating me the last year of our marriage now I know that was all because he was having an affair it’s Ben 10 months since our divorce and I have missed him every single day. In just June he came to me claiming how much he was still in love with me and had always been. He bared his soul to me. Over these past 2 months he knows how much I am still in love with him but he’s broken up with homewrecker/affair/rebound 3 times but continues to stay with her out of guilt of the affair. Do you have any suggestions for me. Mandi Hall