BISEXUAL WOMEN: STOP SAYING THIS

who has said or heard the “ya I have a boyfriend but he’s just my person” line before? bisexual women don’t apologize for yourselves or your partner from the jump! you don’t owe anyone that. Love who you love. 🏳️‍🌈🤘🏼 #bisexual #lgbtq #gaygirltip #bisexual🏳️‍🌈

[sydneychapman]

i'm bisexual and i've only had 5 relationships in my life. my first was female and the other 4 were male. when me and my first boyfriend got together my grandmother told me "i think you don't really like girls" and my mom called it my first "real" relationship and when i told her "no [insert ex-girlfriends name] was my first relationship" she waved her hand at me and said "no it wasn't" and she changed the subject. they claimed to have accepted me when i came out to both of them as bisexual but they always had their internalized biphobia. this video made me feel very seen. thank you

[astolat]

Some people actually feel like this though. Bisexuality is a spectrum - some people are usually more attracted to one gender than another, and that's valid.

[kid-ava]

thanks for this!! I feel like being bi is like playing a balancing act betwen being "gay" enough for queer people and "straight/tolerable" enough for straight people. but at the end of the day, I'm not partially straight or partially gay I'm 100% bi and that's more than okay 💓💓

[jenniferparks]

They definitely do this from biphobia. I think it's a work in progress for us. The bi community gets hate from everyone and has a constant need to hide their identity or feel bad about it. Like, not queer enough or not straight enough. I definitely agree though that standing proud in your identity is beautiful and not discrediting the person you're with. It's very nuanced and either way no judgement is needed.

[nicolegulino]

I had the opposite problem where i was just hyper independent and felt like straight and gay people alike were biphobic so i just didn't tell anyone anything about it or my sexuality because i had this indignant mentality of well i really don't owe anyone anything so I am glad the community has developed and moved forward enough for me to feel comfortable being myself and sharing more and its fr helpful when lesbians like you bre help advocate for us so ty

[wareforcoin]

I'm too dumb to be affected by biphobia, so I've never once apologized or explained why I was with a man. I'm with a man because I'm into men. Not sorry about that. When I'm with a woman, same thing. I don't need to explain it, it's pretty self explanatory.

[helloimnicole]

I was actually not knowing where it was going but was pleasantly surprised by the end lol thank you- it feels like they're fine with one or the other but both they just get so angry i feel like im naturally defending myself.

[nyssaarai]

That's interesting. I've personally never heard this and never felt like I owed anyone a run down of my private life. Nothing good happens when people overshare. They end up digging themselves into a hole and make bigger fools of themselves saying dumber things to try to dig themselves out. Better not to go there at all.

[JohnGow-lo]

This is a thing soem people normally like one gender but there's just that one

[nicolegulino]

I have never done this, and I have never heard anyone else do this. Do people really do this? Why? I just happened to be with my first love for a long time, but that's it.

[Paul_Atreides]

As a straight young guy I gotta say…. I love bisexual women the most.

[allysonbeaulieu]

when i saw the thumbnail for this video i was prepared to be rage baited but that was just sweet. love from a bi girlie who was definitely bi before i met my boyfriend 😂

[TinhaRolfsdotter]

To be honest I don't know what I am but I really enjoy the company of some men and I am very attracted to some women even though I haven't tried yet. If people doesn’t like it then it is their problem not mine.

[PhantmGams]

I don't do this but I have heard my fellow bi baes say this. Personally I don't care what is in your pants girl or guy everyone can be fine af. If I wasn't with my husband I would be with whoever makes me happy. Men are not gross.

[rawumber]

Love this! To be honest, I will equally love every gender no matter what. I have a boyfriend because I love him and his gender is valid in my mind, and it’s the same way if he was a girl. Bi people also need to understand that because they might like that one person, it shouldn’t negate that other attraction. One other thing that sucks is how bisexual woman would sometimes treat lesbian woman or straight men terribly, which honestly makes it hard to be prideful.

[jamdoe]

Appreciate the tip but this also needs to be directed at the people who say/do the biphobic things which cause bi people to overcompensate.

[deepwaters]

I was shamed for my sexuality by lesbians and hated myself for it, while I was socialized for heteronormativity. Women were mean to me, men were not. I adored every woman I was with, and they had way more complex communication so I rarely understood where I stood with them, and got hurt and confused a lot, while society encouraged me to have better skills with men that ended up being easier. A common gripe amongst bi and pan people who are on the Internet - many more men in DMs vs women. You say you're bi, and you get 80 dudes for each lady. Now I understand my sexuality better but ended up with a man.

[xxxxxx-uk]

Можете пожалуйста перевести фразу про которую она говорит? Прослушала, но не поняла :(

[lisab]

Hahaha, never have I ever said this though, so I guess that's good 😛🤣

[bananacarnage]

Just let me have it lol. Your queerness gets erased sometimes when you’re in a cishetero relationship and bisexuals get erased enough as it is.