[cafemaddy podcast] ep.7 I Quit My Dentist Job

The usual Cafe Maddy Podcast is *paused* this week because maddy went through a major life crisis. Here's the tea.

Thank you everyone for being so kind and encouraging. I wanted to tell this story for so long, and glad to be able to share with you. One day we'll look back at this video and laugh, right?

xx
maddy

music in this video:
🎈Song : Daystar - May your night be at peace /

[oxfordbambooshootify]

I quit my job as a doctor too recently. I was severely burnt out and felt I was at the breaking point of my mental and emotional health so I made the same decision as you did. The day I submitted my resignation it rained a storm and I rode home in the rain crying underneath my helmet and it felt as if the skies cried with me

[jobinaclody]

I can totally understand this. Not a Korean but a Indian we have the same expectation from our parents and it’s so stressful to live up to their and society’s expectations.

[CafeMaddy]

Thank you guys always!! for being so kind and supportive 😭💜 i was in this limbo for the longest time, hesitating and stalling. But every day of it was so necessary for me to reach a point of making a decision. So if you are in the thick of it, I assure you you are exactly where you are supposed to be, and the hard times will bring u to a better place :)

[oluwaninsola]

I am a dentist, an NHS dentist
I am very very miserable
I am quite depressed at the moment
I cannot tell you how bad my experience has been, it’s the grace of God that I have survived this far

I am definitely going to do something about it

[alyaayob]

Thank you for this, Maddy. I quit my job 6 months ago and still haven't got another job. I expected it, I quit in the middle of a pandemic where everyone got laid off. I know it is the best decision because I started to not be able to sleep at night thinking about work, crying on my way to and from work, I was miserable. But again I am struggling financially, watching other people very-put-together life on social medias doesn't help either. Here's a reminder to everyone and also myself that putting you and your mental health first is the right thing to do, you can't buy health with money. Wish me luck in getting a really good job soon :)

[fulasadetaylor]

As a final year dental student that's been fighting this degree through blood and so much tears for the past 7 years, not having the passion my colleagues do and has always feared not enjoying Dentistry after graduation, this hits SO close to home. I absolutely LOVE cooking, exploring and experiencing new things, it's the only things that really make me happy so by the end of this video I was in literal tears😭. I'm SO HAPPY for you🎉🥳!! ThisDentistry life is tough and it takes so much courage to do what you did but you did it anyway. You made that leap for the sake of your own happiness and I admire that so much. A few weeks from final DDS and your video gave me so much hope and comfort that even if I end up hating Dentistry I CAN do something else that makes me happy too. Thank you so much for sharing your experience😭❤

[cuttugirl]

I finished medical school in 2020. I’m so burnt out right now. As a junior, fy1/FY2 doctor my work timings are horrible. I’m on call (24-30h shifts) once during the weekdays, and on most weekends. I have no time for myself or my family. The atmosphere at the hospital is so toxic, i feel like do we as doctors all hate each other? The consultants hate the registrars and the regs hate the interns, it’s exhausting. And I really really want to quit, but I have no other life skills, and I feel so so stuck.

So proud of you for being able to quit and move on. It’s a daunting and scaring thought, and to work on it requires a lot of courage.

[Doobydobap]

i love every second of this episode-- thank you for sharing Maddy <3

[Forest]

I’m a pharmacist and an immigrant as well. I can relate so much to how you felt. My burn out was extreme and I quit after working for 8 years, just as I was pregnant with my second baby. I’m really living life now as a stay at home mom. I honestly couldn’t be happier. Cheers to us !

[Patternlogic]

Hey Maddy, I completely relate to you. I’m a dentist and Asian. Ever since COVID I have been burning out just like you and the toxicity of dentistry overall. The stability of dentistry or honestly any job traps you. I’m so glad you found a passion that generate an income. I would love to do something I’m passionate but I still looking for my passion. This video honestly inspires me to look for something else! Thank you!

[valerie]

The part where you said “The moment I handed my two week notice I felt like I would never be the same person again” was exactly how I felt when I quit my 9-5 to become a freelancer. You’ll be okay Maddy ☺️

[hihellothere]

Quit my job as a dentist too! Honestly, it was the happiest moment in my life! Moved to to the states and now looking for a new perspective.

[amandaparkerdesign]

When I was 28 I did the same!! Quit my interior design job and went back to school for glass 😂 it was so necessary and amazing. Sometimes a reset is needed!!

[emkojima]

Maddy, I’m so proud of you! I feel like I can relate to you in a lot of ways — I’m a D1 in dental school and I come from an Asian household where there has definitely been pressure to find stability. I’m so happy that you had the courage to step out of your comfort zone and follow your heart, even if there are unknowns and it’s scary. You are going to be amazing! Thank you for being such a wonderful role model!

[doctoravi]

"this is not living"

This was an incredible episode and story. I am on my path to doing the same. It is inspiring to see others lean into their passion and not look back! So happy for you Maddy!

[verybarebones]

I feel you, I've quit my career as a lawyer after a single year because the burnout was crazy. Society wastes so much talent by making jobs that require so much specialization simply toxic to work in. So much unpaid overtime just to keep your employment.

[famousamos]

Deep down, you gotta go with your passion. Being a free spirit creator, going into a 9 to 5 is life draining. I know because I left my six figure (not to brag) corporate career to do YouTube full time. Koreans do love stability but that's a part of the old generation's mindset. Good to hear your story because some nights I question if I made the right decision. But ultimately, happiness matters more than RSUs, 401k, etc.

[MrOkShin]

Was ready to listen to this podcast with my morning coffee, going through emails and ended up dropping everything to watch this. What a beautifully emotional video. Wasn't ready to be moved like this... Congratulations on such a big step, wishing you nothing but the best on your "new" journey!

[TeenyThainy]

I’m a dentist too and I really admire you for taking this leap of faith. The great thing about our job is we always can go back to it. Congratulations for following your passion!

[ptdtruong]

I am a dentist myself and I just regret it. I’m slowly making my mind to quit a place because I feel unhappy. Thanks for making this video your story is so relatable and the tone was so calming that it made me realize that it’s ok to quit. Cheers to being happy