What I Learned From Struggling With Infertility

One mom shares what she learned from infertility struggles.

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[hidayahnankinga]

may everyone here struggling with infertility be blessed with a healthy bby

[Alice-mvpj]

I had to stop working for one month...the depression was too much. I've received so many horrible comments by other women who conceived easily, like if I were not enough or it was my fault. I'm surrounding myself with childfree women who have been very supportive, I'm trying to focus on my faith and my marriage.

[BeatzByMK]

i'm crying hard right now, the thought of not being a mother hurts so much. i want to be a mama so freaking bad 💔

[GinoTheDon]

Just a man looking for insight, it’s hard to understand how a woman feels about sensitive topics like this one. I’ll continue to pray for all the great future moms out there.

[kenyagorl]

For me. The hardest thing to hear is your not trying hard enough. Try harder.. I still hear that and I stopped sharing my struggle and hope it will happen for us someday. I am 33 and I have been trying 4 years. I wish the best foe everyone struggling with this. :)

[savannahturner]

I struggled with infertility for 8 years. 3 years ago, my doctor told me all I needed to do was quit smoking cigarettes and I was sure the doctor didn’t know what he was talking about. Feb 1, I quit smoking cigarettes and started vaping. I wasn’t trying for a baby anymore but on Feb 23, found out I was pregnant. 8 years!!!! Lol!!!! So much pain and heart ache has lifted off of me. God bless you all!

[cheybloom]

When you're struggling with infertility, you're thinking about it 24/7. DO NOT let infertility take away your will to keep living your normal life! Infertility doesn’t define us! It isn’t all that life has to give us it doesn’t have to consume our every single thought. Count your blessings often. It will keep you sane and it will help you remember that there’s a lot more to life than trying to become parents. My husband and I love to take our dog on camping trips. We have 2 cats that we adore. We love spending time with our friends and family and much much more! I know this is hard to LIVE when you're struggling. Last year I've had 2 m/c. I was so devastated and felt so broken. It was so hard not to blame myself. Of course, we should give ourselves some time to be sad, to grieve, to cry. We need time to heal and that's normal. But do not turn these things into a routine.

[bellatwilghtlover]

A few days ago I was diagnosed with PCOS, and was told that my progesterone levels where so low that my doctor told me there was a very low chance I could have a natural pregnancy... I’m only 20. I’m going on hormonal therapy to hopefully reverse, or at least partially reverse, the progesterone levels to a healthy level again. If that doesn’t work she suggested that I look into getting my eggs frozen to possibly have the opportunity in the future to try IVF. I wish more people talked about this so someone like me wouldn’t feel alone or like they are a failure at their own biology.

[kelb]

1 Adoption is very expensive, long and difficult process, you can't "just go adopt" 2 IVF is expensive and difficult.

[livthejellysquid]

My auntie suffered with this and recently suffered a miscarriage. She is now pregnant but doesn’t feel like she should be excited. She’s 20 weeks now and feels like she’s allowed to be pregnant

[emmar]

My mother suffered from 2 miscarriages and it was brutal. I know god always does things for a reason but my mother was full of grief and thought that the only reason they died was her. She thought it was her fault. People don’t think that these things will happen to them until they do. It’s heartbreaking. I praise all families who had to go with miscarriages because it is horrible. Just horrible.

[pbrown]

Why are all these videos have "successful" endings? Some of us don't want to see a happy ending. It just makes us without feel crapper!

[jackiehammerton]

For me it’s heartbreaking getting left behind. My husband and I are watching our friends, some of them older than us, become effortlessly pregnant. The doctors can’t even explain why we can’t conceive (we’re young, very fertile, regular cycles every month). Nothing unusual has come up in any tests. Our first IUI failed (just got the negative blood test results today). This dream may never happen for us, and I’m losing hope.

[milaras]

Thank you so much. I have been feeling very alone during my experience of trying to get pregnant.

[midsummersnight]

To anyone reading... I KNOW how random this is, but if any of you are inclined to pray or are spiritual... or even believe in sending positive energy/vibes, it would mean the entire world if you could pray for me.
My husband & I have been trying to conceive for over 4 years. Within that time I got pregnant once, only to lose our baby to a miscarriage. I'm getting older everyday and starting to lose faith. We are hoping to try IVF, but it is so difficult physically, financially & emotionally.
I am just so devastated and lost. 😞 I could go on & on for hours about how badly I want to be a mother, but I'll stop.
Any and all thoughts & prayers would be SO incredibly appreciated. ❤💙🙏💛💜

[francinefranny]

Every day is an emotional rollercoaster. It's unbelievable how just one thing can change your mood and your thoughts for the rest of the day. I hate it when you feel happy(and it happens not that often!!) but suddenly someone decides to ask you about children/to announce they're pg/to send you an invitation to a baby shower - and that's it, all happiness is gone, you feel miserable for the rest of the week. I'm 44. Last year I had 2 failed cycles of IVF with my own eggs. Now I want to use donor eggs. I feel this is a great chance for me to become a mother. My husband and I discussed this option. We've been thinking about it for a couple of months now... The thing is both of us feel like we are not mentally ready for this step. It will be a child from a stranger... Kind of... But still, it will be his baby (but not mine???). I'm confused! How will I feel about this child? Maybe I have such thoughts only bc of the lack of information. Maybe I'm stupid and don't get it right. How do you ladies feel now after you were carrying them for 9 months and gave birth and they call you "mommy"?

[sevanseropian]

Thank you...I am still in the journey...I am happy that you are articulation my sadness...

[caraghallbright]

Thank you, I was having a very dark day. Watching you discuss your infertility experience has helped me. I will definitely try to do some meditation soon ❤

[vwygokf]

My mom lost my twin. I still hear her whispers at night. She wasnt even born yet

[PreetyIndianGalnk]

Ppl in india treat u differentnly.. Thy gv u different kind of trauma.. If thy get pregnant.. Thy will hide from u.. Avoid u.. Which hurts badly.. Family n friends as wel😔..it hurts