5 Habits That Ruin Relationships

There are certain thoughts and behavior patterns that tend to sabotage relationships. Some of these patterns are obvious red flags, while others are more subtle and can be harder to spot.

You go on two or three awesome dates with someone, then—POOF!—they’re a ghost. No text, no DM, no call. Sounds familiar? Have your exes told you that you have too much baggage? Or do you keep dating different versions of the same person? Faces might change, but the relationship patterns stay the same. Think about all of the questions surrounding your relationship— where is your new relationship headed, why are they pulling away, are they cheating, will you ever meet your soulmate? So, here are five patterns that can mess up your relationships.

The references used in this video can be found in the original article. Link below!

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Writer: Spicevious
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Skyler
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[scorpionwins]

In summary:

1) Stop obsessing over finding the perfect mate. No one is.
2) Don't be selfish.
3) Don't be a pushover.
4) Stop comparing every potential partner to the previous one. You're depriving yourself of finding happiness with another.
5) Know your worth and be willing to walk away at any sign of trouble early on.

Solid advice here.

[didjaseemyjams]

"Think about your past relationships"
Me: *Opens an empty album* Ahh yes, those relationships...

[badluacoder]

This video inspired me to finally ask my boyfriend if "is everything alright between us?". We talked about the problems we've had with eachother, and it was a real eye opener, because I didn't even know that I was hurting him with some of the stuff I was doing.

If anyone else is feeling is going thru a period like this, try to talk it out with your partner. It might seem scary at first, but you'll thank yourself later.

[bradenboe]

“First word that comes to mind when you hear Ex”

And I deadass said X-men out loud🤦🏻‍♂️

[Hyurno]

Point 3 felt like a slap to the face HELP

[BrixBuild]

0:05 Checking off the Boxes
1:22 Making it all about you
2:35 Making it all about them
3:40 Allowing your EX to influence you
5:12 Overlooking red flags

[homuras]

my overthinking mindset is always the downfall of all my relationships :(

[beyza.]

Man these people who keep asking why and how they got here while they aren't in a relationship...

There's nothing wrong with educating urself for Ur future relationship, period.

[Spectorwing]

I actually relate to number 2 a lot.... not just romantically but with my friendships too. I feel this constant need to earn my keep and make myself worth my their time. Im constantly apologizing to everything and center my life around their schedules and what they need. When my attempts fail to cheer them up I feel like a failure and fear they will leave me in favor of someone different.

[riellemargaretreyes]

Im not in a relationship but this channel makes me feel like missing someone :3 im so lonely help

[taabishkhanself-improvemen]

“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”
―C. S. Lewis

Love from a small YouTuber💙

[dramaticdog]

The part about manipulating the argument to make your partner apologize really hit me. My ex was extremely abusive, our relationship was horrible and this is something eh would do all the time. Started as little things and before i knew it i was always the monster and he was always the poor victime.

And just recently, after 3 years of no contact at all, he contacted me again and this honestly confirmed what i thought. He didn't change at all. He says he's "grown and changed so much" and his first message ended with "i want to reconnect with you". Not "maybe there's a chance we could be friends again" or "would you be okay with reconnecting" no. "i want". "i want to reconnect" "i hope i will hear from you". Me me me. As usual it's all about him.

Didn't even think about the impact it would have on me. To see him suddenly try to be back into my life after i thought this was behind me and while i'm still trying to fix the damage he's done.

[kairukun]

I've never been in a relationship but I'm taking notes😅:
1. Relationships are unique and when you love someone, you love them for who they are, not by what you want or like about them.
2. Relationships are composed of two people loving each other, it shouldn't be a one-sided thing.
3. Never let your past affect the present. If you've broken up with someone, you have to move on first, the past is just a reflection of who we were and what we used to be, it mustn't linger in the present.
4. Never overlook red flags, things that trouble you and your partner, it can be toxic and end up hurting you both.
Hopefully I can use these when I finally meet someone I can love, I know it wouldn't be perfect but hey, nothing in this world is, we make mistakes and in the end, as long as we make up for it, we'll be alright
😊❤️

[luzh]

I love how this videos, the way they’re explained is from a perspective where YOU can be the toxic person, or the one that has toxic behaviors. Instead of looking for toxic behaviors in your partner, as if other people could be toxic but not yourself. Everybody has to take accountability and responsibility for their actions! This video is great thank you :)

[AutisticJesusGaming]

I can confirm. Being overly selfless can really take a toll on your mental health and eventually everything just kind of crumples down and you realize you need to focus on yourself

[LivingALifeOfAbundance]

J. Cole said it best, “Don’t save her, she don’t wanna be saved”.

[forgottendoors]

Hi everyone I'm Diana.
I started writing about myself in comments and alot of people replied with similar stories and great advice🧡
Now I'm out of my abusive relationship.. I'm finally free. I don't feel attached and I'm not scared anymore. I'm slowly gaining back my confidence and fixing my health. I'm grateful for all the support I got even though it was through strangers. #feelingblessed😇

[InfrequentOutrage]

0:06 checking off the boxes

1:22 making it all about you

2:35 making it all about them

3:42 allowing your ex to influence you

5:13 overlooking red flags

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Psych2go: “now, think of this one word: EX.”
Me: “CINEMASINS EX-MACHINA”

[jacobs.]

The best way I avoid ruining relationships is to rarely make them.
I cannot ruin what I do not have.