How to Motivate a Lazy Teenager (6 Proven Tips You Can Apply Today)

If you’re struggling with how to motivate a lazy teenager, this video is for you.

I’ll share with you exactly how to get lazy teens to fulfill their responsibilities, without you needing to nag or lecture them at all.

It’s challenging to get through to teenagers, but after working with teenagers around the world for more than 10 years, I know which strategies are effective.

You probably feel like you’ve tried everything when it comes to motivating your teen, but nothing has worked in the long run.

Teens are going through a lot of changes physically, emotionally and mentally. So the same approaches that worked when they were younger won’t work any longer.

In fact, if you try using things like rewards and punishments, it’s almost definitely going to backfire.

The good news is that there are a handful of key principles to keep in mind, which few parents are aware of.

In this video, I’ll share those principles with you. I'll also cover the 6 proven tips that will enable you to turn your lazy teens into ones who are more hardworking and intrinsically motivated.

As a result, your teens will start making the most of their potential, and your relationship with them will improve too!

🕛 TIMESTAMPS
0:00 Intro
1:13 Tip #1: Focus less on your teens’ problematic behavior, and more on their underlying emotions
3:51 Tip #2: Share your feelings with your teens instead of criticizing them
5:14 Tip #3: Show your teens that hard work is fun
6:46 Tip #4: Acknowledge your teens’ effort and progress
9:39 Tip #5: Show an interest in all aspects of your teens’ lives
11:34 Tip #6: Turn the conflict with your teen into a collaboration
12:59 Conclusion

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[AskDanielWong]

What's the biggest challenge you're currently facing with your teen? Leave a comment and let me know.

[sheetalsaini]

Phone addiction and chatting with friends all the time.

[AR-fhuh]

My 17-year-old is really nice when he is getting what he wants, and nobody expects anything from him.
The moment you say no to him or ask for the bare minimum effort, he becomes abusive and aggressive.
Our requests are very basic, be respectful to people and their belongings, clean up after yourself, and no aggressive behaviour or language.
We occasionally have to withhold privileges like internet access, transportation, or other luxuries if he strays too far outside these lines.
Unfortunately, that starts a heated power struggle.

[mscraig]

The biggest problem Im currently facing with my almost 16 yr old son is disrespect of other people, their views, ideas, imperfections, mistakes. I feel it is stemming from insecurity and things but he stopped talking to me the past year and has had fits of rage. If he would open up more, I could support him thru this. This is a very challenging and touchy, delicate age and time.

[leannehansen]

Most of this generation of teens are actually lonely and o overwhelmed with everything going on in the world! When we were teens we didn’t have social media… our world was friendlier ….
I think part of their lack
Of motivation is a ‘ why even try’ attitude.😢

[lauraarevalo]

The biggest challenge I face with my 15 year old is his unwillingness to open up and start a conversation, especially when he is upset.

[jacoblowe]

Discipline is crucial to motivate your teen
My parents were strict
And that’s why I am motivated to do things because if I dident I would loose my phone for a month
When parents are going to discipline you they aren’t doing it to be mean they are doing it because they love you it took me awhile to learn this

[aarizanas]

Watching this as a teenager. This is somewhat true, but you can tell us whatever you want, and we won’t change. It’s really just up to us

[tc-cfhv]

5:41 cause hard work isn't fun...it's hard...but it's always worth it

[sumandatta]

My daughter is 14 yrs old studying in a hostel. She doesn't love studying. She doesn't like to have an ambition in life. She likes to have fun only.

[Curlyninja]

Right now I'm playing this video out loud while I wash dishes and my teen lays on the couch!!

[ElizondoTribe]

Thanks for creating videos!! I can listen while I’m on the go. Appreciate your insight.

[tanchongsoo]

Excellent video. Clear and helpful tips. Thank you, Daniel, for sharing.

[momkoh]

1) How to get a teen to work out a schedule or minimally a list of objectives on how to use time during weekends instead of wasting time away. Objection given is too restrictive. (2) How to motivate to study, when teen questions need to study and graduate, thinking one can simply “live off the land”?

[stellangozi]

Thsnk you so much Daniel. My teenagers have been on holidays. I am about to address them before they go back. This will help me a lot.

[AnjaLSL]

Thank you, this is good stuff. Love your respectful attitude towards teens. Makes perfect sense. ❤

[bryanpanjavan]

Been watching a lot of “how to motivate your teen” videos and THIS one is the best. Daniel’s examples speak directly to situations we have found ourselves in, practicing piano, doing laundry, ensuring her grades are up, etc.

[christianaphoumivongdhiman]

Such a powerful video, with amazing tips that are so practical. Thank you so much for all your helpful videos, they are so appreciated!

[sylviakhoo]

Daniel, your tips are very useful. Thank you. Hope to see your next video.

[daztalk]

Thank you Daniel for the sharing. It is alert me to be a more wise parent.

The issue with teenage is how to make them understand with their own goal. Thanks