How some Narcissists use money to control you | A Narcissist Explains

How some Narcissists use money to control you | A Narcissist Explains

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

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There's also the double bind. When the narc controls the money while you're a stay at home mom who does everything but the narc complains you don't work, so you go to work and then they complain you don't take care of the house hold...fkd if you do and fkd if you don't!

[nopereradicator]

Their control with money is twice as bad because not only do they spend with abandon they’re super reckless with what they spend it on.

[flightydancer]

They give you money and buy you stuff and then expect you to be submissive and obedient.

[Ciara]

16 years living with my partner
He was earning big money
I was a stay at home mum and a slave to him… it was never a 2 way relationship
I know now it was just transactional
He used abused and wasted my years…
Only to find out he was living a double life and a porn webcam addict from way BEFORE he met me…
Used me to show everyone he was living a normal life but behind the scenes he was notning but a nasty mental emotional abuser !!
In the end I left… with nothing
Having to start a new life from scratch at the age of 45
I never knew evil existed but being with him proved it
❤️🙏🏻🇬🇧

[irbyfr]

I was almost in the position of being financial controlled because he was the bread winner of us, I left just in time

[samco]

I’ve also had in dating situations where the man (in my situation) would pay for everything and never accept my payment even small, ever - but with that, I paid a price and ended up being so controlled and being expected to turn a blind eye to cheating and disappearing acts, and acts of general disrespect.

[dancemomerika]

The narc in my life tried that "you pay the mortgage and daycare" move. So excuse me? I'm paying the mortgage on the house YOU wanted. Nope. I quit my job.😆 ... He divorced me. Then I went and got a better job. Winning.

[arica]

You're describing my 3rd exhusband, except he quit his job after he moved in. He called me when I was at work and lied to me about quitting his job because he's starting a business. I was about 5 months pregnant, and I felt trapped. I'm happy we're divorced. I'm on my healing journey ♥️

[LexLeo_]

Mine had hundreds of thousands and refused to pay rent. The craziest part is, I know my stuff now after years of being out, and this skit worked on me!!!! I didn’t know who was who at first. Well played.

[indianaa]

My spouse just spewed this at me - "If you're able to travel alone with the children for the past 5 out of town trips, why are you asking me now? Perhaps as their mother, if you can't afford to take them out of town, then maybe you shouldn't travel with them. You had Beyoncé concert money, why didn't you budget for this trip?" Meanwhile, I am taking OUR kids to see both sides of the family on the other side of the country and this man literally makes $40, 000 more than I do a year. Ugh!!! I'm reaching the end of my rope.

[laminage]

My cousin lost his job because the company he worked for went bankrupt. I told him to get on the good foot and put in a job application to other companies, he's upset that folks are on his case but even though he knew for a month, he still won't take on responsibility. I told him that people who are on your case it's because they care.

[bethtaylor]

"What's mine is mine, and what's yours is mine."

[ND-orso]

Lee:
This is my husband. You wouldn't believe the sh-t he's done to me with the money and without warning. That's not marriage right there. And that's not love right there.

[MegaFooji]

My husband wouldn’t put my name on the house even after we got married because he said I needed to prove by paying bills that I deserved to have my name on the house. Also when he met me I moved in with him and his parents and he told me I didn’t have to pay for anything because I was fresh out of school and struggling then he bought a home and we got married and even when I did pay bills he still never put my name on

[amking]

I’m dating somebody I KNOW IS A NARCISSIST but not exactly described in your videos he bread crumbs me with money and gifts and he doesn’t promise a future but uses WE and OUR a lot and reassures that he’s not goin anywhere we don’t live together and he openly dates other people but always plays on my hearts strings I’ve said I feel like God said you’re my husband he’ll say when I leave me alone “well if you feel like it wasn’t God speaking to u” do what’s best but you know how I feel about u

[finetrue]

Thanks for the perspective. Maybe that is why the narcs in my life care about money so much. I though it is because they crave for power since money is power. Now I think it is more to them. Money is weapon for them.

[cathyh]

One of the most common forms of financial abuses is when both people in the relationship or marraige are working and one person, alot of times the man but could be a non-binary couple or some other situation will leave all the chore of the household shopping for food, utensils, toiletries, even lawn fertilizer etc for the woman to take care of and pay for by minimizing the huge extent of that cost under the pretence that mowing the lawn or something minimal like that and paying half the rent or mortage is an equal contribution to that when it is an extreme unequal one. This amounts to embezzelling potentially thousands of dollars per year out of the woman who is usually earning a lower wage to start with, so he profits and she is always financially destitute and over-contributing. He will also cover up for this by portraying what she is contributing as of low or even no value while embezzelling in this way. Added to this when she needs new tires for her car or some other expence like dentist etc., she is expected to pay for that out of her wage on top of what she is already over-paying, but when his car needs new tires he says because he has to buy new tires for his car she will need to pay for all the bills that month or something to that effect. He is either spending all the extra money he constantly keeps for himself or saving it up somewhere. I know it isn't always the man, but it would be different for a woman doing this because she could be unable to work for periods of time due to childbirth and pregnancy complications, a child with needs etc, and have to support children on her own and usually won't be able to maintain the same earning capacity over time so just my opinion she does need substantial money of her own saved because she can't rely on someone else handing her the money she needs when she no longer has any or enough comming in.

[nancyfavour]

The father of my children is the well off one, he stopped me from working to take care of the children, he promised me a business for 7 years. He feeds us on breadcrumbs, I managed to leave but he fooled me again with a lie of starting for me a business. He left me in the house with children with nothing so I still have to beg him to feed us😭😭😭, after being home for 7 years, getting a job is hard

[mrlehse]

Listening to your content on your channels has helped me more than you can understand. Thank you so much 🙏

[SKGang]

This one hit home for me! My baby daddy is just like this !!!