6 tips on texting someone with BPD

[thebpdbunch]

1. Contact Preferences - I prefer text or email over phone calls unless we’re close. If reaching out to someone with BPD, it can be helpful to message first, mentioning the topic and your number (if they don’t have it). But always check first which type of communication they prefer!

2. Punctuation Matters - Messages without any punctuation can be unclear - especially questions without question marks. Is it a statement? A demand? I don’t know!

3. Clear Language - It helps when messages avoid ambiguity and sarcasm. Simple language is easier to understand, and I am less likely to see ill intent where there is none.

4. Emojis and Tone - Emojis and tone tags help me interpret messages, especially from unfamiliar contacts.

5. Responding Etiquette - A quick acknowledgment, even if delayed, eases anxiety about unanswered messages.

6. Respect Differences - Everyone approaches digital communication differently, and that’s ok as long as respect is maintained!

BONUS: ASK the person what works best for them! These tips are what work the best for me, but everyone with BPD is going to be a little bit different. It’s important to take that into consideration as not everyone with a BPD diagnosis is the same, and therefore won’t have the same preferences.

~Katja





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[Blinkybottom]

And just remember for each second you don't text back they will have multiple scenarios running through their minds getting worse with every second 😀

[kimrose]

Love this..Especially #5 is important for me..

[peacheyearth]

Thank you so much for sharing your story and insight AJ. It was extremely helpful to hear the reality under this dynamic.. I resonate with really allowing the grace of God to come through us by finally choosing ourselves and facing everything we perhaps haven't wanted to, in order to finally heal and relieve the same kind of suffering that seems to endlessly repeat itself. On both sides. We always have a choice even if childhood patterns make us feel like we don't. Oof.

I will continue walking and digesting all of this going forward, its a very real truth.

Thanks again, and bless you 🙏

[ralphholland]

why stop messaging abruptly in mid-conversation? is this a characteristic? 🤷‍♂️