How to Give Effective Criticism | The Art of Manliness

[ioannak.]

How to give effective criticism?

0:46 1. Be cool [Calm & Collected]
- No anger ot sarcasm
- Keep your emotions in check

1:10 2. Make a Criticism Sandwich
- Compliment > Critisicm > Compliment

2:16 3. Be Specific
- Compl. > Specific Criticism > Compl.

2:49 4. Criticise the action, not the person
- We'll have bad days and bad habits,
that's don't make us BAD

3:28 5. Use Diplomatic Language
- "Perhaps if..."
- "It seems to me..."
- "I'm feeling that this could be just a
little more..."

3:56 6. Follow Up
- "How about meeting up the next
week, to see how your changes are
coming along", schedule a day for
practice"

*The Biggest part of delivering effective criticism is ensuring that the recipient doesn't get defensive (putting up a wall up).

I would appreaciate it, if you like it. :)

[artofmanliness]

I really thought that in putting a note at the beginning acknowledging the messy bookshelf and saying it had already been cleaned up, I could preempt comments about my messy bookshelf. In this I was wrong. Because, internet.

[LarlemMagic]

This channel is more like, "how to be a decent human"

[adrianwhitmire]

Thank you Bret! I am a sales manager. I deliver criticism daily and it helps to here a few points to think about when preparing for and delivering criticism! Highest appreciation!

[artofmanliness]

How to Give Effective Criticism [VIDEO]

[Jimmmiee]

It's very true, what he mentioned about positivity. Just by talking in a calm and positive voice will make the person being critiqued be open to ideas and feel as if they are being helped rather than being shut down and belittled.

[RobbieStarburster]

>Throws paper at guy.
"This sucks!"

So doing that.

[andreyv]

Teachers are masters at the compliment, criticism, compliment technique.

[Swiheezy]

Your presentation is always great and easy to watch. Loved it

[reynolds]

Great video Brett! A good book on this subject is "How to Win Friends and Influence People". Probably my favorite book of all time.

[VEGETADTX]

I always enjoy watching and reading Art Of Manliness...always promoting all the true values and nobleness. World seriously needs more of this.

[astutusmortuus]

These videos are gold. The zooming in and out to keep attention on what you're saying, is genius. Hope you keep them coming.

[jakegingrich]

Unfortunately the best way to critique someone is to not do it at all. But if one must absolutely do it, you have some good points.

[unclearimage]

As a manager, leader, or law enforcement officer (especially) these books are basically what's he's talking about, and what you need to read. 


Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion, Updated Edition
(By: George J. Thompson)

How To Win Friends and Influence People
(Dale Carnegie)

If you're in a leadership/ customer relations/ or interact with human beings.... ever, you need to read these books.

[Mayankbhattacharya]

Great video Brett! And I so love that intro and outro music. LD

[SilentMover]

For those who like to know more, I recommend "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. A great read. Read it numerous times myself

[magnoid]

All good points. The only one I'd add is #7 know when you should and shouldn't give criticism.

[Kiwinnit]

I think another good tip for giving criticism with the compliments is to use the phrase "what went well..." then "even better if..." it is far easier to digest as the person taking the criticism. Hopefully that helps someone!

[Hassony]

You know he's real when he's showing us his library behind him.

[thepokekid]

I did not even notice the bookshelf until the annotation, now I can't unsee it! lol, at least you could argue that it is a well used book shelf, not one with books just for decoration!