When They Don’t Love You Back | Russell Brand

Unrequited love is one of the most painful feelings, causing huge lows, sadness and a sense of worthlessness. Here is how I see it and hopefully a helpful way for you to work through it if you're currently experiencing this kind of heartbreak.

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[larrypeters]

You can’t love someone into loving you. Remember this: they lost someone who loved them and you lost someone who didn’t.

[noahdanielg]

The problem with being in love (or infatuated), is that you never actually fall in love with the real person. You find someone attractive but you may not know them very well or at all, so you project qualities you find attractive onto them. Ultimately, so is often the case, you fall in love with someone almost entirely of your own creation who has little to do with the actual person, and this will inevitably let you down.

[NationalistJeff]

"Even though I feel really bad now, I will feel better again." Best line ever. Thanks, Russell.

[meladkareme]

"None of the things you are seeking, are in the other person." This is GOLD

[joelandrews]

"All pain is an invitation to burn ego." What an amazing quote.

[EUR]

you miss great things in your life when you think about someone who doesn't want you

[NobodieCro]

"None of the things you are seeking are in the other person" listened to it 10 times. Because It's nothing but the truth and reality. It's all in our heads and make-believe.
And it's kinda sad when you realize that.

[steveo]

Being able to love someone else is the greatest gift we have and I don't care whether its reciprocal or not because that's not the point. It's about you, not them.

[markandresen]

No one broke my heart. I broke my own. So, I get this.

[plenarygrace]

I healed from by biggest heartbreak by realizing that it wasn't so much HIM with whom I was in love, as it was that I loved ME as *seen through his eyes* (he made me feel fabulous about myself - until he didn't). Of course, then I knew I could love myself that way. I've been a much happier and healthier person ever since.

[Zombie-adventures]

It’s so hard to smile and say I’m doing fine when my heart is broken. But I hope that soon I will be happy again.❤️

[geoffpoole]

This has really helped me dealing with an unrequited love situation. I want that person so much, but you can't make someone want to be with you. All you can do as Russ alluded to is value yourself, accept it's not going to happen & move on in your life. Wise words mate. Thank you :)

[TheDoomWizard]

We don't fall in love with people for who they are, but who we want them to be.
— Don Draper

[Lunimiranza]

Unrequited love lesson teaches us to love ourself deeply.

[lucf]

I should listen to this 100 times
I passed some very dark moments recently, and yesterday I got rejected by a person I completely opened my heart to, in total honesty
What an incredibly painful experience, I didn't even remember it was this bad

[jimmymusic]

I just opened up to her and she said she didnt feel the same, which i expected. But just going through it is absoultely killing me. I love her so much i cant imagine wanting anyone else like i want her..

[jordenr]

A man so painfully in love is capable of self torture beyond belief

[Emzotic]

For me, unrequited love was the wakeup call I needed that no matter how much any man pours into my cup (love, attention, affection, kindness), it will never be enough to fill a cracked cup. So I’m choosing to put a ‘Do Not Disturb’ sign on my heart whilst I mend my cup with self-love, gratitude and a greater awareness of my intentions and what I can do to fulfill my needs myself.
Some days are better than others, but if my most painful problem right now is that I love someone who will not/does not love me back, that’s a first world problem, and I am blessed.

[oambitiousone]

What makes heartbreak so visceral is that you see yourself in someone else, you see how you can be loved through someone else’s eyes, and you want to love that person the way you crave being loved yourself. So when he turns you away, it negates your value. It says : you are not enough.

[christopherhardy-jones]

I'm still healing from a heartbreak from 3 years ago and I came across this video, thank you mr Brand