I HAVE A CONFESSION TO MAKE

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[Ell]

I’m saddened by so many negative comments here, this woman was raised in the public eye, not by her choice, she’s experienced raw humiliation and turmoil within her family and the religion she was raised in. None of this by choice. She’s now taking her experiences and using them to come out and help others. I think that’s incredibly brave. I am not at all a religious person, and I see such beauty in what she’s doing with her life now. She was given a platform and now she’s using it to help others. Please give her a break. For the comment about Jeremy getting a real job? I believe he’s a pastor, that looks like a real job to me. ❤ congratulations to this incredibly brave woman.

[kandmelinda]

Isn't she just a breath of fresh air. I am so happy for her. She has risen above her circumstances and not let them control her life. BEAUTIFUL ❤❤

[lorileewalters]

Good for you sweetie, I’ve been manipulated my entire life, afraid to say no, people telling me if you do that I’m never going to speak to you again, it’s taken its toll, I’m 59 and fighting to find myself, depression, anxiety, ptsd, anxiety and loneliness. I’ve been bullied in school and even just a few years ago in my job as a phlebotomist, I was hit in the head by a co-worker and threatened to have my head ran through a concrete wall, nothing was done except I lost my job. And that’s just 1 story of many I could tell. Jinger you are a blessing and a treasure. You have an amazing husband and beautiful little girls. Thank you for being here, I listen to you and Jeremy every video you make. I so hope to purchase your book someday, but I just can’t afford to. Thank you again you’re a very special gift from God, Love and Blessings from

[rwms]

I admire your courage to boldly share your faith as you grow in Him.

[Julie-uqsz]

So excited for you! I was a people pleaser until about 5 years ago when I realized that God wants us to be "peace makers" not "peacekeepers". Enjoy this journey! Its so freeing!!!

[donnaeckler]

I’m 63 and still a people pleaser. I’m happy for you and that you were able to break free from that. I has literally made me very sick with numerous chronic illnesses. But I am trying, when I was growing up there wasn’t help out there and you were considered weak if you ever spoke up about things so you just sucked it up and carried on. I truly so happy for you and your children and husband. You and your siblings have been through a lot at no fault of your own.❤

[kandiecrider]

Omgshhh THANK YOU ❤ My entire life I've found myself in situations I would say "I'm sorry" to someone because I've felt like I didn't please them enough or say to someone "Yes, no problem." When they need something even though it would take a toll on me physically spiritually and mentally. Being a people pleaser isn't easy.

[jbauntie]

Looking forward to reading this.I’ve struggled with people pleasing my whole life and especially when I was younger.I’ve gotten to a better place when it comes to people pleasing over the years and with spiritual & personal growth but I think I’ll always struggle with it to a degree.I like peace. I don’t like confrontation or upset in relationships…I don’t like letting people down but it’s impossible to please everyone all the time.I realized I was spending so much time & energy trying to please others and worrying about pleasing others that I lost focus of the only one I should be aiming to please & that’s God and even He knows I’m human and imperfect & despite my best efforts I will and do fail Him sometimes and He understands that and loves me anyway.God Himself is not a people pleaser…nor was Jesus ….and we’re supposed to walk in their image…so although we should love & respect others and help people and nurture our relationships….we’re not supposed to be people pleasers all the time. I’m interested to hear Jinger’s thoughts on this.Will definitely be getting this book.Congratulations on your new book Jinger😊

[tiffanymitchellsetliff]

You are so strong... I'm like you... Thanks for being yourself. You are teaching others. I would love to have your book!

[evangelicful]

Codependency is so hard to battle. People pleasing is hard to battle. When you change...nobody gets to mistreat you anymore bc you defend yourself!!
Prayers for you!@

[CHBT]

Just an observation from what I’ve seen watching via a small screen your years on tv shows, read in books, seeing you grow into an amazing adult, you use the phrase “imaginary expectations” when many of those expectations aren’t imaginary they are legitimate focused expectations on you. Expectations on you as a girl, young woman into marriage by the fundamentalist cult you were conditioned by. Along with expectations placed on you by family and even yourself. I’m sure there are imaginary expectations that you experienced. However, you are such a nice kind person you seem to have difficulty with labeling blame on individuals. Hun it’s okay and can be so freeing to put a name to those who’ve put those expectations on you leading you to those destructive tendencies of people pleasing and co-dependency behaviors. I am very much looking forward to read what you have to say in your new book. And see how you’ve grown and developed on your journey of self development and growth with G*d. Many Blessings.

[nn-dodu]

Thank you Jinger for this message. To God be the Glory !
Hebrews 12: 1-3
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us,  2 fixing our eyes on Jesus,  the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross,  scorning its shame,  and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3 Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners,

so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.

[juiciebt]

I bet many out there can relate to this. I'm so happy that u recognized it so young bcuz it took me into my 60's bfor I realized it. It's a process & a hard habit to break. Recognizing it is the first step...

[tammyharper]

So thankful you find your voice and you have a wonderful support network behind you

[carrielynn]

I'm the same way, Jinger. Everything you're saying describes me too. If I feel i disappointed someone or made them mad, my anxiety takes over and I get upset and stressed.

[lindadroege]

Congratulations Jinger! I hope it becomes #1 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[teresak]

I am so excited to hear that you have written a book on this topic!! I thought I was so much farther along in being a people pleaser, but the last months, people pleasing has shown up over and over. The timing for this book could not be better! Thank you, Jinger!!

[jenniferdepuydt]

Oh Jinger, this hit me SO hard because I felt like you were talking about me!! I too have been a people pleaser and have heard too many times to count, "stop apologizing! Stop saying I'm sorry! You didn't do anything wrong!" Yes. I just wanted everyone around me to be happy. I have sat there too many times and kept my mouth closed and my voice silent when I should have been shouting from rooftops. THANK YOU for talking about this painful subject and for being so vulnerable and transparent by writing your book. I can't wait read it!!! Keep doing what you are doing. You and Jeremy and your girls are going to change the world everywhere you go. Thank you. 🙏🏼 ❤

[topazzsky]

I was a people pleaser, but now I'm putting myself and my happiness first. That doesn't mean I don't help or care for people. It means if its going to drain me too much, or make me unhappy, or exhausted I stop and consider my health, my mental well being, and then choose me. I politely turn people down, or just dont go do what I used to. I have lost people in my life because I no longer allow myself to be used by narcissists, or co-dependants, or even users. My world is smaller now, but I'm more comfortable in in, in myself. I still have to heal from the damage of the past, from family, friends and others, but at least now the future is open to what do I want, instead of putting it on a back burner then realizing 30 years have gone by and I have none of my own dreams.

[donnajoyner]

Keep growing and going Jinger! We celebrate your journey!🙏🏽✝️🙌🏽🎉🎊 Congratulations!