High Conflict Child Custody: Joint Custody Makes It Worse?

I explain why I disagree with the notion that joint-custody makes high conflict child custody worse.

I'm not an attorney. Nothing in this video is intended to constitute legal advice.

[happytosti]

This is my childhood story. My father felt like he had no choice. I asked him once “dad why did you leave us with mom if you knew how abusive she was?” His response was “honey men didn’t get kids back then.” That was 1979. I had to rebuild my relationship with my father in my 20s and I am so glad I did. I see what your talking about though. The courts need a lot of training to weed through the BS of the high conflict. I look at your hearing videos and often think how the hell can either of your judges not see what I am seeing with my own eyes.

[ericjohnson]

As a divorce attorney who has been practicing 25 years, your observations and reasoning are spot on.

[madewithrealdiamonds]

I don't think you should say it like a simple "I give up." I think it's more like "I'm out of money, and don't know what else to do. I can't afford the legal fees."

[redress]

Here in Australia there are feminist legal "academics" attempting to regress the law to remove the joint custody presumption.

[crystalcoffey]

Do you do phone call advice? Just curious. I’m in a horrible high conflict custody battle

[anonymousbuckeyefan]

Exactly! I am still working on a Petition to Modify, and I am now about 2 months into it. I am stressed, but there seems to be so many issues to address but mostly how things got worse with joint custody, not better.

[lammshepherd]

Thanks Alex. I have 50/50 conservatorship every lawyer says it's the best I can hope for b/c my 3 teens want to live with their Disney land dad and he isn't physically abusive. He has them so out of touch with reality. So frustrating.

[JustActNormal]

Because you can't co-parent with a unwilling person with personality disorder

[brianhart]

Great comments, thank you! For parental alienation (PA) cases, I think the challenge is that the judicial training needed due to PA case’s counterintuitive nature and complexity to sort out alienation versus several varieties of estrangement. (And attorneys and forensic therapists and GALS also need to learn PA so the proper evidence is considered.) Maybe specialty courts are the best solution.