Sovereignty - a poem by Adam Roa

I romanticize a lot of things.
I get excited about having a crush.
I allow myself to daydream about what might be possible after only knowing someone for a week.

But blowing things up into their highest possible expression can have a shadow.
This can pull me into the analytical part of my brain.
I can start to search for hidden meanings inside of text messages.
I can start to second guess what I feel and what they say.

This used to derail me.
I would wind up completely engulfed in my own neurosis and find it hard to concentrate on anything else.
My work would suffer. My joy would suffer.
My overall quality of life would suffer.

But I shifted out of that. Not entirely, but to the point where it no longer has a detrimental impact on my life.
I can still allow myself to romanticize everything (after all that is a superpower too) but also release it with much more ease and grace.

How did I get here?

Self-love. I started to listen more deeply to my why.
Why I was romanticizing. Why I was holding on.

Once I started to listen to why, I began to see the needs underneath it.
So I began to give it to myself.
I began to create a deeper relationship to my inner child and show up for him in a much more powerful way.

This self-love now gives me a foundation of knowing I'll be okay.
No matter what, I've got me. I'll show up for myself and my needs.

Which means that I can give myself fully to another.
I can let them in. I can actually allow myself to love them from a place of wholeness, not co-dependency.
I don't NEED them.

Which lets me love them even more.

#ChooseLove / #LifeIsPoetry

[Infinityflowyoga]

I’ve listened to this three times. Sitting, closing my eyes and allowing the words to run through my being. Coming home to my sovereignty and essence❤🙏

[Immiy]

It's funny how much we focus on those three words. So often I think people say 'I love you' and what it really means is 'I need you to feel whole'. Instead of it being an offering, it's a plea for one, or a demand 'make me feel good'. More and more I see love as a choice, and act of will. While we can feel the feeling of love unconditionally and universally, aligning our actions to serve love is a path that definitely does not always 'feel' good' for our ego.

[ledyanemoraes]

Wowwww!!! ❤ Deeply touching! Tears of joy.. felling in awe! Thank you, Adam!

[Unhinged-chicken-nugget]

This poem was the first I'd heard that I hadn't been made to listen to at school. It's why I started writing my own poetry. Thank you❤

[Scoomzzz]

I love that I found someone to be like this with. My husband and I were terribly codependent with others before us. Now, it's been 11 years and 1 9 year old son. No trust ever broken. No where are you? Tracking. No giving up ourselves to chase someone else.
It feels amazing starting a relationship being true to you and having a conversation early about boundaries and needs without the fear that them leaving will kill you, setting up a beautiful life.
Love this. More young teens should watch it.
I came here on accident looking for more crazy sovereign citizens, but this was a beautiful break up to that gross research of their viewpoint.

[majordeegan]

I wish for someone Special in my life to watch this and say "Hey I remember how genuine I was with them, and I really did love them."

[anafilipa]

This is perfect... And so relatable ❤ i love Open hearts... Yeah, we break a lot.. but the light shines through 🌸 i wish you find the perfect Open heart that Will Shine right back at you 🤍

[sylwiamochol-swiatek]

The story of my life! I love you Adam! Your voice is deeply touching my soul. Thank you.

[Luc]

Everyone thinks it's the first love that's like this. But for me this was the second. I was 15 at the time and it was high school, that time when you want to be like everyone else. Where everyone is so concerned with what other people think that you don't even try to be yourself for fear of being judged.
And maybe that was it. Or maybe it was the fact that I was going through a very tough time at the moment and needed a distraction. Or maybe I was so caught up in the idea of love that I didn't realize that what I was doing and experiencing wasn't real love at all.
Either way, I ended up falling for a girl that was in every way my opposite. Chaotic, a routine rule breaker, and, as I figured out later, not a very honest or nice person. She was just a mess of a person, really. And maybe I thought that if I could find some order to her chaos, I could start to fix my own.
But that's not what ended up happening. She was all I talked about. She was all I thought about. I loved her so much that, when she cast me aside, I didn't know what to do. I didn't know who I was or where I was going.
That experience forever altered the trajectory of my life. I haven't loved anyone in that all-consuming way since. I'm not going to beg for your attention. I'm not going to be at your beck and call. I'm not going to make you the center of my universe. If there's one thing I learned from that it's that you have to respect yourself more than you love anyone.

[annikasfrey]

Incredibly beautiful ❤ the last line had me in tears.

[BilalQadirKhan]

Its like you have spoken on my behalf in such a powerful and beautiful way that even i didn't seems to grasp or realise. Amazing, Thank you. The neurosis 🥺

[beniaminblidariu]

Describing my life..right now. All these feelings and..pains just so she can be happy.
Good job, brother!

[arusham]

Incredibly written & performed 🫶🏽🫶🏽

[bouzidboutchicha]

Just wow

I am waiting the day when I could say this from my heart, ❤

[johnnyronca]

Brilliant my brother! Yes we must love ourselves first to be whole and happy before a healthy partnership

[ashellmundodzi]

Wow amazing super cool.. That's art Creativity love
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[TheMbaude]

I wonder who the person was who inspired your words.... For me, she's the brightest star in the sky. I held her in my hands, and because I was lost in a storm confusing achievement with happiness, I squandered the love we had. Months go by and suddenly it hits me. I tore my narcissism away, crying. And I realized that behind it all she is there. We talk, we reconnect. And I am driven by this insatiable desire to change everything for her love. But you're right, that's not love; for I did not love myself. I was ashamed of who I was and I was desperate to show her I changed and have her say those three sweet words. Absolvement. Atonement. I thought it came from her. I was wrong. It's only by learning to love me again, a new me, and realizing how I belong that I can truly learn to love her again.

So your poem resonnates in me deeply. Thank you for helping me find a path that would have taken longer to reach on my own. This work, and the entirety of The Journey Back To You have helped me beyond words. Thank you, Adam. Really, thank you.

[dindin_aidan]

I love her and thats why I had to let her go

[alexismelger]

My Noah my one true love passed two days ago ❤

[harrylambrou]

Amazing, is there a chance I can get the name of the music