When someone who’s never experienced relationship says “you’ll just know when you meet the one”

Some people trust themselves and by extension their decisions about love.

Some people don’t— for a myriad of reasons.

Conflicting, confusing bombardments of messages from friends, family, therapists, peers, media, movies, books.

Traumatic events or old heartbreaks causing you to lose trust in yourself (you thought you were right about someone… and you weren’t. Ouch. Of course your self-trust got rattled).

High degrees of sensitivity and empathy to perceive multiple realities at once.

It’s not always as simple as “trust your intuition” or “you’ll just know.”

Not for everyone. For some.

If you tend to second-guess EVERYTHING, are terrified of making mistakes, have perfectionistic tendencies and hypersensitivity… your relationship will fall under that microscope too, even if logically we know it is safe and good for us.

Pair that with a culture that is obsessed with a happy face and feeling good, and you’ve got yourself a nightmare society of people unwilling to tolerate the slightest discomfort… in anything. Let alone our relationships.

Don’t take this to the extreme— although… I find a twisted joy in the catharsis and reward of working through a big conflict sometimes. So… it comes down to self-trust again, haha.

How would you think differently if you knew you couldn’t make a mistake— that in many cases, you are deliberately choosing the discomfort that you want most?

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