Why I ran away from Indonesia for being gay (and how I did it)

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I talk about my struggles with growing up gay in Indonesia and how I planned my escape in order to be free. I also touch on lgbt issues in kids growing up in religious households. I honestly don't think I would still be here if I didn't do what I did back then... I regret how I did it but at the time, it truly was survival for me.

Also I keep saying in the video that I moved to NY in 2016 but it was actually 2014 so just keep that in mind lol

I wanted to be transparent with you guys for my first video on this channel, it felt like I wouldn't be doing you guys justice by uploading a "cute" couple vlog. Hopefully this video will clarify whatever questions you have about me or my life. I did not disclose a lot of details about what exactly happened with my family because I didn't make this video to spite them, I would like to have a relationship with them in the future.

[miumithea]

such a deep voice for such a small guy. lovely.

edit: guys, 2k? really?

[maggieryan]

Yos, your story breaks my heart! I am a 73 year old American Mom/Grandmother. My oldest son and my oldest grandson are both gay. I have NEVER had a problem with this! I love them, I love their friends and partners as if they were my own. Please know that you and Max have my love and acceptance, as well! Much love, warm hugs, many blessings! ❤

[CL-kehf]

I’m not surprised that his family reacted the way they did. Indonesians can be judgmental and I come from an Indonesian family. So I completely understand what he’s going through

[jesslim]

As a mother, my heart breaks hearing your story. You are so strong and I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through all of that but so glad that you can now be yourself.

[svnkm]

Being a gay/lesbian in asian country is not fun at all...

[reveranttangent]

My sympathies, I haven't spoken to my family for 16 years.

[patriciaross]

Dear Yos, as a great grandmother of 78, my oldest son is trans. Your story broke my heart. I’ll never get to New York, or wherever you two are, so please consider this as a giant hug for you. Many blessings to you both and continued success. 🙏 grams

[medenaandrada]

I am mom. And I want to tell you that I'm so sorry for everything you went through telling the truth to your family. I wish you to be happy and healthy to live with your husband ❤

[jennyliao]

I’m actually bi, living in Taiwan. Even though it’s legal for gay couple to get marry in Taiwan, my parents are still homophobic. It’s really hurt that every time my parents say “I’m not homophobic, but I don’t want my children to be a gay.” As one of the victim, I just want to give you a huge hug and tell you how amazing you are. Take care.

[bsb]

I understand all about the topic, but... I really like his voice

[cherylbatiste]

I’m a mother and three years ago my daughter came out as bisexual. I have no problem with it, but she didn’t tell me first. I always told my kids I would support them and love them no matter what.

When parents love their kids, it should be no matter what. As long as they are happy and not getting hurt. I’m glad that you are living your life the way you want to.❤️

[tasyanadiah]

Wtf he is really Indonesian? I thought he was Korean or Japan... i still can't beleive 😱

[intanmunir]

Family: Trying to lock him and make him go through a conversion therapy..

Yos: Yeah.. Im gonna do whats called a pro-gamer move.

[kurofxa]

So actually one of my friends couple of days ago confessed that he was gay, I was supportive because if you want to love someone it doesn't matter what gender you are, if you're happy that's all that matters.

[jayz]

i apologize of behalf netizen of Indonesia if they leave negative comments or negative though on ur all page but they still read n keep still watching just leave negative. i apologize for theirs ignorance. perhaps they better in future.i am sorry if i have negative comment or negative though on ur page from bottom of my heart I'm sorry 🙏🏿 gbu y'all n have a nice day❤️

[radhiyahf]

Damn I'm from Indonesia and I know exactly stereotype of being gay in here. I'm so sorry for your terrible time back then, but you went through it and I'm so proud of you, you're amazing and I'm glad you did it. Just wanted you to know that I always support you from here. Can't wait to see your vlog that coming. Last I'm so sorry for my poor English 🙏

[inay]

when I ran away from home wasnt because my parents is homophobic, but they just doesnt understand me as a person it self. I ran away to AUS, was the BEST experience ever. I know how it feels to be free! it’s amazing!
be it they are our parent, still.. we are human being, not a possession nor an object. we have feelings. pain is real. getting away from pain for the goodness of ourself by all means away from our parent or family is the only choice we have. kudos to you Yos! wish you much blessing and happiness you deserve!!

[marieamiss]

Listening to your story of what happened to you when your family found out you are gay broke my heart and I cried. I was raised as a Catholic, going to church every Sunday and holy days, attending a Catholic school and my mum was an old fashioned Catholic Irish woman. When she died I was 25 and that's when I stopped going to church. I have 2 beautiful children, daughter and son out of wedlock and I raised them with the help from my brothers and sister as a single parent. My son came out to me about 6 years ago, we were walking along the road we live on and I was so proud of him that I hugged him and told him how much I love him. I still say I love him everyday and how much I'm proud of him. He's my beautiful boy and so are you ❤️ I hope one day your family will say they're sorry for what they did to you and that they were wrong to do what they did to you. I know my mum would have loved my son for being gay because she knew that my brother was gay before she died. If I could I would hug you and say I love you and I'm proud of you for being you 🥰❤️ sorry I prattled on 🥴

[girlnextdoor]

You’re such a survivor. You flourished despite everything and you’re amazing.

[vendwinas.r]

I'm an Indonesian and... Indonesian people are really that scary about sexual orientation. BUT THE ONE I REALIZED THAT YOU'RE SO BRAVE AND I'M SO PROUD OF YOU. Makasih sudah bercerita tentang semuanya 💚💚