What do we gain by forgiving people who hurt us?

[creationministriesintl]

See the full interview with Dr Jeffrey Benjamin here: youtu.be/AvZCpq7ktVY

For more information and further reading, see:

→ Dawkins’ dilemma: how God forgives sin – creation.com/dawkins-dilemma
→ Good news – creation.com/good-news
→ How to have a right relationship with God –

[christtheonlyhope]

Forgiveness is good for healing us. It's also good to apologize when we've done wrong and very humbling.

[callen]

What we all have to gain is the forgiveness and love from Jehovah, our Creator.

[Theories__Real]

Picking a scab is ensuring that the wound continues to bleed.

[centariprime]

Forgiveness benefits the forgiver more than the forgiven. We cannot be forgiven by God if we hold a grudge. "Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who have sinned against us."

[siegfried]

Forgiving somebody is the antidote to vengeance!!! Forgiving is also a choice, a deliberate unilateral decision to forgive and nothing to do with the attitude of the forgivee.

[rhythmyr]

It is wrong belief to hold on to this idea that we have to forgive someone to be free of the experience we are having, the reaction we are having, that is sinful. When someone hurts us, we are responsible for what we naturally do with the hurt we experience, and if we lash out in retort and reaction, that's our fault. When we harbour a grudge, it's our fault. When we hold on to bitterness, it's our fault too. It is not the fault of the person who hurt us. They are at fault for their own wrong. If we are walking in the righteousness of Christ, and humility, we can just deal with those personal things with Him and be free of them, without thinking we can absolve the person who hurt us of something they haven't repented of. Forgiveness is something God does! He is the only One who is worthy to forgive ANYONE! We don't get to do that on our own. It doesn't mean anything! It's actually blasphemous. We join God in the freedom He gives us from our sinful response to pain, or mistreatment of any sort. He gives us the freedom to pray in love for those who hurt us, free of anything that would keep us from laying down our lives for them. He gives us the freedom to walk in the relationship of repentance with Him where we experience conviction about things like our pride, that would stand in the way of the humility we need to be able to love a person like that. He enables us to do so and to even plead on their behalf, that He would bring them to repentance, so we can join Him in the work He is doing already by leading us to pray for those people and love them selflessly. Then He will lead them to repentance, and we can rejoice with Him, rejoice with them, join Him in the forgiveness He is giving them, sharing in their newfound humility, and whatever other joyous aspect of that experience there would be. We just don't need to say "I forgive you" to any person who's not repentant though. You'd completely miss out on the beautiful experience you're supposed to have with God, and the hope that would bring that other person to experience it too.

So, in summary, we don't say "I forgive you" until we can say "God forgives you" after they say "I repent." Until then, we can just say, "I love you, " and if we can't, we need to go to God and ask Him to show us how He loves us.

[reverentalexanderchezeley-]

and apologies mean nothing without a change of behaviour.

Aso ammends to, sometimes financially also, plus interest, like Zechariah the tax collector did in the gospel after Jesus saved him.

Any idiot can say

"I'm sorry."

It's all about change, only Christ can help us to change.