Terrible Christian Dating Advice

They Lied To You About Christian Dating

My name is Ally Poirot, and I am joined with my husband, ​⁠ to discuss ten of the worst pieces of Christian dating advice that have infiltrated the church and created a lot of misconceptions about dating as a Christian. We take a Biblical look into God’s heart when it comes to dating in order to bring clarity and light to these claims. We will cover topics such as whether dating is biblical or not, “God told me you’re my spouse,” saving your first kiss, waiting for marriage, family approval of the relationship, and much more. We are sure you have heard many of the claims we are correcting in this video, and if this is something you have been praying about, our hope and prayer is that it brings clarity to you. Please let us know your thoughts and whether this was helpful or not. God is calling His children forth to learn the truth about His plans and promises.

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[gabepoirot]

Thank you for leading this babe. You always have such wisdom to share.

[bandit]

Currently dating someone who came to my life when i was done with relationships, turns out we think the same, like the same things and we are not virgins nor with each other, ive started my journey with Christ and sugested we wait now until marrige and shes fine with it, she is still open to God i just pray she feels the holy spirit in time as i do, i was watching your video on your DM video and felt this calling that this was what i needed to do and she said she felt the same thing around the same time. Still new to everything and still learning but after some learning this is feeling right. Good content you two.

[RealYuhBoyCam]

You guys have been helping me a lot with these great videos! I’m currently going through a break up with a Godly woman I thought I would marry so it’s been very hard. But I know God has a plan for me, and I will keep trusting in Him. Thank you for the great videos 🤍

[SFayeLewis]

Yeah I honestly feel like I may be alone simply because my beliefs are looked down on or just brushed aside by most Christians. Like keeping Sabbath, like not celebrating pagan holidays etc. I'm not sda. And they automatically think I'm just legalistic. And some of the people that have some of my same doctrinal beliefs aren't interested. smh.

[camryn]

this was such a good video! i’m currently single and just trying to focus on Jesus and ask Him to prepare me for what He has for me! hopefully i’ll be with my God willing future husband soon but until then just praying!

[tianadaugett]

There is a difference between dating and courting. I do not believe dating is biblical. That is a term and idea that Christians are borrowing from the world. Just because one believes that dating is not biblical does not mean that one thinks you don't have to get to know the person first. There is a way to get to know a person, who they are, their values, what makes them tick, what makes them happy, what makes them angry, and what Godly characteristics they have, without this concept of dating that has been pulled from the world and slightly altered for us to use in our own context. As Christians, the Bible says we are not to draw anything from the world and try and make it our own or use it for His glory. There is a way to get to know someone without having extra feelings and emotions in the mix that could cloud your judgment which often comes even from these Christian dating relationships.

I also don't understand why people think if you're not dating, you'll never meet someone, as if we don't meet people in our every day lives. If someone says they don't date, it's immediately assumed most of the time, that the person just stays in the house all day or they don't do anything, you can't can possibly meet someone like that. But who said that person just stays in the house all day and doesn't do anything? I always get asked the question, "Well how are you ever going to meet someone if you don't date?" I meet new people every time I go out to the park, or to the store, or at my job, or when I go on trips. You don't have to be actively looking to date someone to meet someone who might be your spouse. Most of the time, it's when you're not looking for that the person that God brings them. I met the first person I courted at their church because their church invited me to dance at the event the church was putting on. After the event, the guy I courted came and talked to me and that's how we met. I wasn't look for anyone at the time, in fact I was just focused to doing the ministry that God gave me. In the end, it did not work out with that person, but I got to see a lot of things about him as we courted, and learned a lot about him, his values, most importantly where he was spiritually and after about 6 months it was very clear that he wasn't the one God had for me, and I was able to see that and have a relationship with that person where there were no extra feelings and emotions attached to make me feel heart broken like what probably would have happened if we dated.

I also think you all slightly miss interpreted the scripture when talking about marriage. If 2 believers are married, yes they can not leave each other. If The believer is married to an unbeliever, and the unbeliever does not want to be with the believer, Paul tells the believer to let that person go and they are not bonded to that person, and only in that case are they not bonded. It is only when the unbelieving person wants to stay with the Christian that the Christian has to stay with them. It should also be noted that these scriptures are directed to married people not those that are dating which as I said above is not biblical anyways.

"1 Corinthians 7: 12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.

13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace."

[esthermwenya]

Don't go out there looking for love but let God bring love to you ❤❤❤
Still waiting for the Lord i know he will come through for me ...

[Jesusisalive-gc]

Hey Gabe and Ally❤ I really needed to hear this

[thevaldezfamily]

wowww, Jackie Van Tine literally made the exact same video the other day, amen Ally! God is definitely speaking!!

[ralphortega]

Im a bit confused.. if its good its from GOD.. but right before GOD gives you his best the enemy send you something good? How can the enemy send something good?

[xicetrayx]

When I was young I was very dumb. I wanted to date a virgin because I was a virgin but over the years God has taught me that I’m a guilty sinner too. And though sex is an entirely different sin it doesn’t mean that the person in the relationship who made the mistake it’s less worthy… as a matter of fact it should show God’s mercy and that persons love for the person who made the mistake to show that even though the mistakes were made you are still of so much value and equal to the one who didn’t make the mistake. It would create so much healing for the person who made the mistake in the end

[enocholawumi]

Hello, what does having a deep conviction/confirmation from the lord about a potential partner look like ? And I mean practically. Any books of the Bible you guys would suggest that would aid someone in a process like this.

[saoreyes]

I would have loved if I find out this video back on 2015. I wasn't Christian at that time, I was catholic, but the Lord was working with me. Now I'm married dragging my cross everyday until Jesus call her.

[matianakin]

I am confused about what you said about kissing. I have a girlfriend and we are both Christian and we intend to get married and we are waiting for marriage. But we kiss a lot, and it's great. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Especially since we have set some boundaries like no kissing while laying down cuddling so it doesn't get "too nice" we call it

[auroraruby]

Do you think attraction to a persons physical appearance is still important in a relationship?
(Also i love your videos and you have helped me turn to Christ and grow my relationship with the Lord.)

[deavenreed]

I met my future wife and we are developing our friendship until God gives us the okay to get married. Taking proper steps.

I’m thankful for your faithfulness in posting these videos

[janoycresva]

1:58-3:08 No there is hope for you with someone who is in your circumstances too but NOT with someone who waited. I will never be with a woman who isn't a virgin because I am one. I don't have to forgive her because she didn't do anything wrong to me but she still did it. Whereas if I didn't, I have every right to say goodbye & will to a woman if I realize she isn't a virgin too. That being said, you both waited so that perspective of yours is afforded to you from a place of having both been virgins so it's hypocritical on your part.

[TheMan]

I dont date non virgins. Its not about forgiveness. I just dont want to invest my time and effort into someone who will have difficulty appreciating it because they are emotionally attached to an ex/exes and have pair bonding issues. Promiscuity is a tendency of masculinity. These amongst other things. You can be forgiven for cutting your arm off, your arm is still gone.

[TheCaugheyFam]

I think the word dating and how the world views it is what we would disagree with. We tried to avoid using the word. Not because it is sin, but because it is common and viewed wrong usually. Biblically speaking it would be considered courting. The main difference between dating and courting is the couple's intentions and the level of involvement of family and others. Courting is a relationship with the primary goal of marriage. Dating can be like test driving multiple cars to see which one you like. But God is big enough to put the car He knows you need in your life. And you will KNOW THAT YOU KNOW! Dating relationships may not have a clear purpose or intention, and people may not discuss the future.