10 Things You Are Not Responsible For

There are several things you may be taking responsibility for that you don't need to be, and doing so is likely causing you a lot of extra stress, overwhelm, anxiety, worry and maybe even some anger.

Today we're going to talk about what 10 of them are, why many of them are tied to people pleasing and some are even unintentional boundary violations, and how to stop taking these ones on.

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[juliakristinamah]

Truth time - which one of these have you been taking responsibility for?

[theforeigner]

2:35 1. Other peoples thoughts
3:10 2. Other peoples feelings
4:52 3. Guessing others needs
5:40 4. Meeting all of others needs
12:40 Making other people happy
14:27 Fixing other peoples problems
19:00 reading other people's minds
20:12 setting other peoples boundaries

[monicaconstantin]

I should probably watch this one once a week

[jennifermarie]

When you grow up in a super unhealthy environment where your parents make you feel like everything is your fault/resposibility, the worst part is being in a HEALTHY partnership later in life and assuming they are also an abuser but they're not! Trust issues. Your advice is so healing. <3

[nicktrevi]

One of the most underrated posts on YouTube. They should teach this at school. They never will.

[yh]

Some people take advantage and make us responsible for their problems. They hurt you and act like you hurt them.

[rebecaelizaplesa]

People pleasers raise your hands.
Me: 🖐 🖐 🖐
This video is an eyeopener! Thank you Julia Kristina!

[c]

I'm a card carrying people pleaser and empath. I need to hear this over and over until it sticks in my crazy subconscious mind. Thank you for posting. You are a great therapist.

[ErikaK]

Yes !!! Our thoughts create our emotions, we can't control someone else's thoughts, feelings and needs.

[ConsciouslyConnecting-ca]

"my responsibility is to be pure in my intentions" - these are powerful words; I said regarding myself just yesterday. <3

[tdawg]

I think that hearing that I’m not responsible for meeting other people’s needs, reading their minds, trying to guess their needs was the thing that hit me the most. This video is a HUGE help to me! I keep rewatching it! Thanks!!!

[yoyoyo]

Lol this made me sad because walking on eggshells was all i did when i was growing up at home with my family. Literally ALL i did. And now how i see how unhealthy it all was

[eshita]

'we are respectful of other people but not responsible for their thoughts or feelings'. wow. this just cleared it for me. Thank you.

[liliteo]

As a recovering people pleaser, I love your videos because they always shift my perspective!

[obertbrinley]

Dr Julia; I am so grateful for finding ur channel. You are a ray of sunshine in the darkness.

[solweigolsson]

My mother hold me responsibel for everything in her life. Even her happiness. I struggel with guilt so I love to hear you speak so clear! Thank

[j.a.sisson]

Watching and rewatching this and trying to unlearn my unhealthy baggage. Thanks for all you do. I’m grateful.

[aragsanuj]

“do not take responsibility something is not ur in control” thank u so much very good point and very clear.🌹🌹🌹

[shelleysims]

I have been guilty of taking responsibility for all of these. This is perfect timing for my current shift. Will help solidify it more. Thank you Julia

[Stacelicious]

This is so enlightening. I've struggled with low self esteem my entire life, and I've always felt responsible for everyone and all these things. Thank you for uploading this 💗