A Deeper Look at the Dismissive Avoidant

The DA is typically the most sought after to understand, of all the attachment styles. In this video I delve deeper into their wounds and reactions around conflict and vulnerability.

[certifiedhoarder]

If you wanna be in a one way relationship where you endure constant criticism but cant give it, where you pour out affection and attention but never recieve it.. where what theyve done for you is credited and invoiced, but what youve done for them is dismissed as a cheap gift or even a debt you naturally owe them... invest in a dismissive avoidant. Youll get back pennies on the dollar every time. Enjoy the cold lonely heartache until the divorce.

[ralucamera]

I know many people say, oh we should be more understanding with a DA, but from my experience they do not value or appreciate your understanding and appreciation for what they been through. It’s a trap. When they show you their true face this is who they are, and you can bend and give space and communicate at the end it’s all waste of time. My ex told me I don’t want to change, is just I didn’t meet the right person, after 6 relationships failed. They victimise themselves saying that they don’t have any luck to meet the one.

[oscaresquire]

Ugggh, this is too real for me. Just went through a break up as a DA and it just feels awful 😞

[grantclark]

I love your content and would love a session. I went to your site, and $1300.00 an hour with you is both out of my reach, as well as most of the “average income” viewers (that’s 1 months rent in some communities). $800 for 30 minutes, I feel like would not even scratch the surface. Please keep your content coming as I hope to pull more value out of your perspectives, content, and information. I hope to arrive at conclusions and pull value from what is presented. Thank you.

[brendatorres]

This described my most recent relationship to a T. You're my main source for information on attachment, your videos have helped me so much. Still looking for tools to self regulate though!

[ashton]

Very well explained, thanks. This has to be the most misunderstood attachment style

[olii]

Thank you for this content. Would it be possible for you to delve deeper into the behaviors and characteristics of a DA who DID ensure capital T Trauma as a child? What key differences have you seen between DAs with PTSD and those without?
Thank you

[instagamrr]

Suppression via distraction. Literally my entire life

[lisaalum]

OMG this is my husband to a T. Thank you!

[greywolf]

They struggle with….

Everything.

Feelings.
Intimacy.
Expression.
Emotions.
Conflict.

they are the worst people to invest your time with

[JustMeAndMyBoy]

In the school bullying example u cite …. Idk any parents who would say “Let’s practice some breathing through it.” My parents certainly didn’t parent that way, and neither did I. We probably would be concerned/agitated/protective, and given solutions. What does this say …. anything?

[JustMeAndMyBoy]

I really believe he is FA with strong DA lean. What do I do, follow videos for both attachment styles??? 😢🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[swapplegate]

How did we ever make it to 25 years of marriage?

[JustMeAndMyBoy]

Is it hard for an avoidant to pay a compliment? I know it is hard complimenting their partner, but even the partner’s possessions like a house, car, etc.?