ONE SIMPLE HABIT to improve any relationship ❤️

TIMELINE
0:00 Intro
0:18 Romantic relationships, for example
1:04 Bids for connection
1:49 3 ways to respond
2:08 Towards
2:33 Away
2:51 Against
3:41 What so many people don't realize
4:31 Tip 1
4:58 Tip 2
5:17 Tip 3
6:02 Outro
6:17 Bloopers 😜

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❤ Sadia

[PickUpLimes]

I've found that examples are incredibly helpful for understanding how we might be inadvertently turning away or against others in our conversations without realizing it:

BID: This article is so interesting!

RESPONSES:

- Towards: Oh yeah? What's it about?

- Away: Mhmmm, cool.

- Against: It must be nice to have so much time to read.

BID: You wouldn’t believe how difficult my day’s been.

RESPONSES:

- Towards: Oh no, what happened?

- Away: You think you had a hard day? Well, I have a story for you!

- Against: When do you not have a bad day?

BID: That was such an intense rainfall last night!

RESPONSES:

- Towards: Yeah, that was super weird, right?

- Away: I guess.

- Against: You’re always so dramatic, it wasn’t that bad.

BID: This isn’t working, could you come help me out for a second?

RESPONSES:

- Towards: Sure thing, I’m just in the middle of something right now, but I can come in 10 minutes.

- Away: (ignores the request)

- Against: Figure it out yourself!

Lots of love to you, thanks for taking the time to watch and read! 🫶

[FWBFrancesss]

A standing ovation for Robin's acting skills is mandatory 😂😂😂

[arty_stick]

A friend and I were discussing how people fall out of love a while back, and my friend said, "Love is a verb (action) and not a feeling, and feelings follows actions." The friend eventually turned out to be my partner. :)

[nandinisehar]

Robin’s responses were actually hilarious

[sukikayanderson]

I ' m in a relationship for 13 years now and I can totally agree. Also, I would like to add: You don't always need to agree (sunset e.g.), but if you have a different opinion, it helps to just react with curiosity: "Ah you like this flower? What do you like about it?" or "You like the sound of the bird, what does it make you feel / think of?" You don't always need to agree or tell your opinion, but be interested in the other person.

[agataesinska]

I guess the advice that I am still learning is to not assume what the other person thinks if you do not know, better ask. A lot of miscommunication, arguments and bad mood can be avoided that way.

[neigeelisabeth]

The best piece of advice I got from my mum, when I was a teenager was: consider that the way you see the world is your personal ''map of the world'' filled with your experiences, filters, education... And that the other person in front of you has its own personal map of the world... It has helped me soooo much understanding that we do not see things perfectly the same way. Simple but so so much impact on any of my relationship❤❤

[donnaadkins]

Loved this video! My husband and I who have been together for over 30 years have a '10 talk' everyday. This is a simple conscious effort to talk to each other exclusively everyday about anything that's on our mind. We have a large, messy and loud family so it's often difficult to grab that moment so before our beautiful family were around we developed this daily habit. Sometimes it's just 5 minutes and a hug, others it can turn into 30 minutes of intense conversation but we make time because it makes us, us!

[areiland]

I love the Lumineers line: The opposite of love is indifference

[taraevans]

When I am having a bad day with work or anything outside my relationship, I will sometimes walk by my husband and literally say, I need a hug... and I get one. It makes me feel supported, even though I know my husband can't fix things for me. It also help him feel supportive, without having to come up with solutions.

[MandySam]

Robin was so funny in the outtakes. “Drama Queen much?” Was my favourite. 😂

[meetandinspire]

"The secret to strong, healthy relationships isn't in grand gestures, but in these small, often overlooked ways we can turn towards the people we most care about."

"The strongest relationships are those where the effort is consistently made in those tiny moments."

[tmmeliz]

I once read something very important: if you need to tell your partner about something you don’t like that they did, don’t say: “you are because this and that” but instead say “you not doing this/when you said this MADE ME FEEL x way”. The second way is better because you’re letting them know how you feel without criticizing them, since that makes them focus more on the fact that you only critize instead of the fact that they did something that hurt you

[MarshaJohnson]

I think one of the relationships where this is really underrated is the parent-to-kid relationship. We get so busy with everything else that turning toward them is a fight in itself. But if we don't, we could face them locking us out of their lives during their teen years and strained relationships as adults.

[TheNat]

I'm crying little tears of joy right now, because i just realised that this is what makes my relationship so special.

[kay_writesnhikes]

Thanks Sadia. I’m on vacation with my husband and we had a bad fight. I was in a sour mood and found this video while desperately searching for something to make me feel better. The video is VERY helpful AND the best part was Robin’s bloopers. I was NOT expecting them and was caught completely off guard and his lines made me laugh out loud and I remembered… beneath all the crazy, my husband is a good man who’s doing his best. So I’m ready to shower and get dressed up for a nice little evening date. Thanks so much!!

[drit]

For me the most valuable advice was that relationships are in cycles, every few years the agreement of what that relationship means needs to be renewed. Sometimes an old relationship needs to die to let a new one be born. Maybe with other people or with the same one. I heard my therapist saying she married many times... the same man.

[ThisMadeMyWeek]

My biggest takeaway is that "bids for connection are everywhere". Just looking at this comment section it is clear that we are wired to engage, see one another, discuss, share, learn, teach, show up, laugh... Beautiful video, it made my week, thank you! :)

[mportal]

This video’s tip is a great one! I’m married 30 years and the tip I would to share is that we all thrive with some appreciation. Anything your partner does for…any action, support, comfort is worth saying thank you …showing appreciation encourages your partner to repeat these kindnesses, feel seen, heard and appreciated. It’s almost magic! Love your channel! Ellen

[DrMaryVision]

We have been very happily married for 36 years. We still say please, and thank each other routinely for contributing to the care of our family and house. We also ALWAYS greet each other when we come in from being away, and when we depart we always say goodbye. Sometimes we tell each other when we need time to wind down alone when we are tired and cranky. We both give and receive that gift freely, so it’s never a cause for conflict. Treat your lover like the most important person you have ever met… because they are!