WHAT TO DO when a guy pays attention to you.

Let's real talk about throwing your dating standards out the window the moment a guy says, "Hello." Keep your heart and heart NSYNC* with one another and you could prevent a lot of hurt for your heart!

[emwilss]

And hey, when the answer is YES, he does meet my standards/hopes/expectations, I want you to high-five yourself (or clap, whatever you want to call it), holler out a big, "AMEN, HALLELUJAH!" and see where it

[BethThereseReacts]

Ok but can we talk about how good her "throwing out" sound effect was

[annagarnet]

3 years ago I "dated" a man who threw me bread crumbs (he wasn't cute, I think that I kept trying to make it work because I wanted a relationship) eventually I woke up and walked away from him. A couple of months later I met an amazing Catholic man who I'm now engaged to. Girls, have high standards and don't rest until you find the right man. Don't let someone waste your time!

[ivannaarchila]

Said it once and I’ll say it again: Crazy Chiquita is like my older sister giving me advice!! Loveeee it !!

[fourtenandproud]

“Don’t ever ever ever be afraid to protect your heart from the hurt you can prevent in your life.”

LOUDER 👏🏽FOR 👏🏽THE👏🏽 PEOPLE 👏🏽IN 👏🏽THE 👏🏽BACK

Crazy Chiquita is on fire 🔥🔥🔥

[marissac]

My test for whether I should pursue a relationship with a guy is the question, "If I wasn't around, would I trust this man to raise my children and get them to heaven." Thanks for another fantastic Crazy Chiquita video <3

[NatureSmarter]

I was afraid to click on this because I knew you'd speak the truth into my heart...this hit home. Could you, please, pray for me? I am in serious need of those. God bless you all.

[stephanielema]

This was starting to speak to me, and then you said "Stephanie, what about your standards??!" And I was like, okay, this is definitely speaking to me hahhahha

[jamesmerone]

For both men and women, we often tend to put our preferences over standards. Standards, virtues should be put over our preferences no matter what. Whether he's only 5'0" or looks like Ryan Gosling, whether she looks like a Victoria Secret model or just Plain Jane, the qualities that'll help raise your family and get them to heaven is far more important. Don't compromise on virtues.

[Amazing_Mark]

This goes for both guys and girls (who aren't as attractive as Emily):
Getting attention from a member of the opposite sex is so rare that when it does occur you feel that you MUST act on it.

[mlmj]

I agree about preventing hurt in your life. That’s why I’m 25 and haven’t been in a relationship yet. I don’t want to spend time with someone because it brings temporary joy or thrills. I hope that when the time comes to date, I’m able to make wise decisions about who I let into my life.

[momimperfect]

This is great advice! I am 6 years into a marriage with baby #3 on the way and let me tell you... It is not the honeymoon phase anymore! Parenting young children is hard! If you and your partner do not have a mutual respect and love for each other I would think it would be impossible. The thing is when the relationship becomes long term, it doesn't matter how pretty and smooth talking the man is. It matters how you live together on a daily basis, the small things, the mundane things. Anyway, good advice again Emily! Love your heart for encouraging young women.

[cassandrafischer]

AMEN! The day after I broke up with my ex, I went back over my standards because I realized I strayed from some of them. Not only did I return to my original standards, but I ended up adding several to them which I realized I needed in a future husband.

[RoxxieDymond]

Me: *sees the crazy chiquita sweater*
Me: you best believe I'm giving this a thumbs up!

[MusicbyMazie]

The bread crumbs. I’m cracking up.
I love everything about this!!!

[Khlo_xo]

Emily you’re literally always on time with these videos it’s INSANE.

[emmah]

Deeply needed this. I let a bad relationship go on for too long because he said the right things and I felt loved. I’m 19. He’s 34. Lowest point I’ve ever been at in life.

[genevieveleopold]

When I need a reminder of what I’m TRULY looking for, what God has in store for me (if I’m called to marriage), I go back and watch your wedding video. I have wasted (grown, yes, but with unnecessary pain) YEARS of my life on men I knew weren’t right for me. I am now at a point in my life where I barely desire attention anymore from men who aren’t virtuous and respectful and convicted in their faith. It feels so freeing to finally be in a place where I am confident enough to hold my standards where they are. Thank YOU for your incredible example and I will continue to watch your wedding video every so often as a reminder of the sacrificial love we are all called to, married or not.

[TheGeekApprentice]

Yep! I had a bad gut feeling about a guy I went on one date with...I ignored it and well...let's just say I should've listened to my heart which said he was a flat out "no!" :P There is NOTHING WRONG with simply not being interested in someone, even if they seem decent when you go on that date. :) But I fell into the "but he notices me" trap XD

[stationaryobsessed]

My name is literally Stephanie and I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately so crazy how this came about