The Truth About the Five Stages of Grief

The Five Stages of Grief show up in media everywhere from The Simpsons to Robot Chicken, but scientists have long been working on better ways to think about grief.

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[l.bailey]

It took me three years to get over losing my son, 2 years to get over losing my best friend. 5 years losing my husband and I'm two years into the loss of my mother still grieving pretty heavily monthly. It is beginning to get better

[RGLove]

there's nothing worse than grieving someone and thinking that you aren't really grieving them because you haven't experienced all the stages. Thank you for this video, I hope more people see it

[darkbeauty]

watching Sci Show is a way i keep a lasting relationship with someone I lost. I always feel closer to him whenever I watch this channel.

[BuddyL]

0:40: "It's a totally normal process... and it's different fir everyone." THANK you!

There is no 'one way to grieve'! Take your own time, and get help (if you need it).💓

[vonneely]

It feels like it never ends because it never ends.

[WhitneyDahlin]

No one ever thinks about how a serious and bad break up (or divorce) is grief too. You are grieving the loss of the future you thought you had, you're grieving the loss of the person you are no longer with, grieving the loss of the most important relationship in your life and if that relationship had been the most important relationship for years it will be even worse for you. That relationship died and that's a very painful thing to deal with. To our society it doesn't seem like as big a deal as someone dying but in a lot of cases it is just as painful as someone dying, if not more, because the person who died in most cases didn't choose to leave you. All break ups hurt to some extent, some more than others, and that hurt you're feeling is grief.

[mafic]

"and that soggy casserole that your neighbor made for you."

Perfect timing

[ksub]

The hardest grieving process I had was for one of my rabbits. She was always there when I was sad, laying next to me and letting me pet her, and I had her when I was 15-24 years old, which was a very hard time of my life. She was so kind, and when we played (she loved to play 'noseball', like soccer but with her nose) she was so mischievous and funny. So when she was gone everything felt very different. It took long time to deal with the grief.

[elizabethshaw]

My dad passed away 5 years ago last month and the only family I have a live right now is my mother. When my mother passes away I will have zero family! I am middle-aged but I still find this a scary proposition, to be completely alone on this planet.

[cantbeleveitsnotnaru]

I have a friend that definitely has Persistent Complex Bereavement Dissorder. After 5 years she still regularly breaks down when thinking of her mother's death and has regular dreams about it. To top it off, her father died recently.
I'm glad that even though my own loss of my brother was hard, it gives me a good knowledge to talk to other people who have lost love one's. I love hearing stories about her mom and dad, because I know how lonely it can be when people don't want to ask or listen because they're scared you'll just cry immediately or act awkward when you mention them.
But, even after 16 years I still have bad days where I just cry, when missing my brother and the potential of who he could have been just rushes over me. Grief is weird

[Master_Therion]

1 Cut. 2 Marinate. 3 Season. 4 Cook. 5 Dehydrate.
The five stages of beef jerky.

[kAntonta]

My brother passed few months ago and I will suggest that the stages is somewhat correct, at least for me. But I think it would be hard to study through interviews, because I would also had said that I had accepted the passing just after the funeral, but I really don't know what that meant. When he passed everything felt unreal and i floated between in a state of reality and a dream, conflicting thoughts of future and the present. Like a foot in the common sense of thoughts, but also a deep suppressing feeling of it. Just a week ago I felt total acceptance, but the recent days I felt more present to the reality of him being gone and cried like never before. It's really complicated as you say, but also I kind of can relate to the 5 stages.

[hustlehank]

I only know the five stages of getting arrested

[Thessalin]

Thank you for clearing up the common misconception. I got tired of "What stage are you in?" when my father died. As a wonderful woman (one of my best friend's mother) who said this when she lost her second husband to cancer, "You grieve how you grieve. Don't let anyone tell you how to grieve. But please be as healthy as you can while you do it." Much love for everyone who's been through it.
[And the answer to the question, "Is there anything... ANYTHING I can do?" is quite simple. "I want my father back you son of a (beep)!"]

[emilyr]

"Freud had a lot of ideas, and they weren't always great" - Quoted for Truth!

[irismoreira]

Psychologist can only suggest that you can go through however many stages of grief, but only that person who has lost a loved one feels the heartbreak and can most likely never get to stage 2. No acceptance no matter what anyone tells you is ever accepted 😥

[JessicaSanchezzz]

It makes a LOT more sense that the 5 stages were initially applied to the dying person. I am curious, though - is there much research on grief when it comes to losing a pet? I'd be interested in learning more about that.

[seansullivan]

What a perfectly timely topic. We just had the funeral for my Dad and my reaction has not looked like the Kubler-Ross model. It's been a lot more like the Task Based Model you described. I kind of felt like something may be off with me, but it's good to understand that there is not as much empirically based. I'm also a very resilient person in general, so this helped me gain some much appreciated perspective. Thanks. :)

[mangaluver]

It's really a shame that disenfranchised grief isn't that accepted. I remember when my ex's parents got divorced. It really affected me but I couldn't have the chance to properly grieve over that loss because "they weren't my parents and I don't know what it's like so what right do I have to be sad?" I hope this does one day become more accepted in society. We all deserve the chance to grieve and heal.

[two_owls]

Her face when talking about Freud - the disdain basically leaps off the screen!