Right Person Wrong Time - A True Story

Have you ever met the right person at the wrong time? Well I have. And this is the true story. I wasn't expecting to still be hurt by telling it. Falling in love can be so painful when bad timing is involved. Relationships are hared. But I'm so grateful for the experience.

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Nathan Proctor is a story teller, author, speaker, and art curator. By weaving together his personal story with the illuminating magic of art and literature, Nathan hopes to:

► help people better connect with themselves and their loved ones
► help them be courageous, kind, and empowered
► let them know they are cared for, that their existence matters
► impel them, no matter the circumstances, to be unique, always

[loyalarcher]

The way I see it, if he/she really is the right person for you, then it’s meant to be, regardless of the timing. If you both meet at the wrong time, it means that you both still need to grow and work on becoming the best version of yourselves. Once you both have reached that point, you’ll mysteriously find your way to each other again.

[sickbeaniebro]

I went through this four years ago. I am thankful for that experience but...no matter what I try, I can never shake them off my head. When I close my eyes, I can see her face, her smile, and hear her giggles. I, sometime wish, there was a drug that made you forget about the past.

[noahhambling]

“And then we were strangers again, this time with memories.”
- the void

[juliafit]

I'm going through the exact same now. I'm still having faith that me and him will come back together, but accepting the truth about meeting the right person at the wrong time is so hard for me to accept. Like what if we can get back together? Even though it might take years and we meet others on the way? I just want to keep this faith..

[jaskaur]

This is what I'm going through now. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

[taceldi]

I lived the same story. It hurts. It hurts a lot. Thank you for sharing.

[Call_Me_Stylish_Auntie]

I have a similar experience with you. I met a guy in the church this February. We were attracted to each other. We had great conversations and we both enjoyed spending time with each other. I have never felt so connected to a person before. However, he will graduate in June and work in a different place. When I found out he will be living in May, I felt hopeless because I have been trying so hard to find the right person. But now, he will leave soon. One month before he left, I didn't refuse hanging out with him because I hope memories will be the gift of this experience although it is painful. I still remember the unspeakable pain I experienced in his farewell party. It is hard to say goodbye to him. Right person, wrong time.

[dameionduran]

this just recently happened to me and i feel everything youre saying deeply... She showed me something so pure and beautiful and it changed my life forever.. now im stuck with those great memories not knowing if ill ever be able make more...

[Rooftopdreams]

I know that feeling :( but I look forward to the future! The person can some back, or someone better will step in !

[Saraljinx]

Dear Nate, I’m finding this video 3 years later. This video makes me feel less alone in my experience . I fell in love for the first time with my best friend last year. We dated for 4 months but split off, didn’t talk for 3 months, reconnected with each other and we fell in love again. But both of us knew it couldn’t work out . We were both in school and trying to find our careers, and find out who we are. I saw him yesterday and he was different, it felt different. The romantic, accepting love that I felt from him for so many months was gone, and all that was left was a platonic friend. My heart is breaking right now and I have to pick up the pieces. But he would want me to be strong so I’ll try to be. Thank you for this video and I hope you’re in a better place now, as I hope to be.

[deliredalice]

Same thing happened to me today with someone wonderfull.
I needed to hear this. Thanks.
Timing is a bitch.

[vvendetta]

We connected immediately and were inseparable, nonstop conversations about anything and everything. Our first date was amazing and wasn’t awkward at all. Our conversation flowed and we got along great. We talked about our past and we made plans for the future, what we were going to do in the next couple of months, planning dates

After several weeks and I thought everything was fine until he had some kind of sudden realization that as he was feeling so connected to me he was still not completely over his ex

Left me pretty shellshocked and devastated
I’ve never felt so connected to anyone not even my ex but our timing wasn’t right
He needed to grow more as an individual and he needed to let go of his ex and just be happy with himself

[austinwallace]

Brother your story just made me really feel for you bro. You can not only hear how much you love her, but you can also physically see how much you love her by your expression and tone. I am going through the same thing right now. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I feel like Im hearing your heart break as you speak. You should let us know if it ever works out for y’all one day or if you two end up being different people over time and staying apart.

[BernicePuleng]

Lovely, heartfelt story. In that moment, she probably believed that she couldn't be with anyone but then, with time, she must have realised that that wasn't the case anymore after learning and growing on her own. It wasn't you at all. She just wasn't ready. And when she was, she was in a different place physically. You basically said all this though. As a creative, it's incredibly easy to idealise people and situations and memories, but when you think back, was there no fault that would have affected your compatibility? Perhaps it is a blessing to have such fond memories of an almost instead of what the relationship could have been. Writers are consumed with what if's and you seem consumed with "what if she chose me" on some level, which justifies the resentment. She didn't choose him over you, she chose herself. She chose her healing, her growth and her journey. You seem to actively be choosing this for yourself in your everyday life right now so your great love seems due.
I recently meet a lovely human at my last poetry reading. Hopefully it's right person, right time. Or wrong person, wrong time. Right person, wrong time is really difficult to deal with.

[Flufero]

So sorry for your loss. It appears she had not healed from the loss of her husband. Unless one heals, he cannot be truly present in a new relationship. Unless she has dealt with her pain, her new relationship will not last. The cycle repeats itself over and over.

[flyingwhales]

It hurts watching this. I can tell you’re a huge empath. The way you remember things in detail. It hurts much more when you’re an empath. I was looking for some wisdom on YouTube. I came across this old video of yours. Instead, I want to wish you well. I hope you’ve been taking care of yourself and those feelings. It may or may not go away, but we’ll always remember what happened. There’s a silver lining somewhere. 🌹

[TheVelvetkitn]

Ok. I'm crying. .... and can't stop. At work and don't even care. My heart goes out to you Nate. You're such a beautiful, bright, inspiring soul with so much to offer this world. It kills me to see you in this kind of pain. If I could reach through the screen and hug you, I would. Please promise yourself that you will bounce back from this. There is no way but up, from this point. 💕 It took so much courage to make this video. Your truth and honesty and humility makes you the incredible man you are. Grow from this experience. Keep looking up. Know that you are important and know that you have 30 million people loving what you do and who you are. ....you just haven't met them all.... yet. ⭐️

[kurooaisu]

That's just like watching 500 Days of Summer all over again, with all the same exact characters featured and all the plot points intact.

[deathdownbelow]

my heart hurts but I’ll be okay, thank you for this amazing story

[seb.evidente]

Hey Nate. Your story really inspired me and kinda broke my heart at the same time as well. I'm currently having trouble keeping the girl of my dreams from being taken away from me and your video just really touched me. Keep doing these type of videos. You have no idea how much help these are to people going through hard times like me. Bless 💕