Right Person, Wrong Time?

I don't believe in the idea of the "right person, wrong time". If it's the wrong time for someone to commit to you or be in a relationship with you, then, by definition, they cannot be the right person. Because for someone to be right, they also need to be ready.

If you're struggling to move on from the concept of the "right person, wrong time," you can't miss my new YouTube video where Audrey and I delve deeper into this topic and discuss why it can be so damaging to people's love lives.

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[southwestgen]

Matthew is so wise. We lose so many years by giving meaning to relationships or more so people who ultimately aren't the right person for us. The right person at the wrong time is the wrong person! It took me many years to learn this🤦🏽‍♀️

[TheNellybird]

Mathew Hussey... killing the Disney Princess in us all, one video at a time. 😂😂😂
Love you really.

[astrelle-]

Thank you. I’m so sick of that saying “right person, wrong time”… there is never a wrong time for the right person..

[TravelBug]

I believe it can be the right person wrong time but this concept can become very dangerous when you’re putting your life on pause until they might or might not come back. It’s the ruminating thoughts over that person and this story you’re fantasizing about that’s holding your heart back. I’m currently going through this and it’s gut wrenching. I saw this quote somewhere recently that said “trauma isn’t just the bad things that happened, it’s also the good things that didn’t happen” and that’s very true. Maybe you wanted this relationship so bad but the other person didn’t and it’s difficult to move on because you’re mourning a loss of what could have been. Meanwhile the other person is enjoying their life. It’s different if for whatever reason both parties separated (maybe moved away, got married then divorced or had family issues) but years later got reunited.

[veronicamwania]

Sometimes you are not in that head space to commit, but you really have the right person infront of you, you even let go of the person but a time comes when stars align and it is the right time, you find the person again and this time you are in the right state of mind and ready to give the person the seriousness they deserve, you adress issues and things move really fast because you already know each other and boom you are engaged!

[Elyfairy]

I believe it’s true. I’ve experienced it. Economic factors can keep people apart.

[lovestyleangel]

I understand. I had been in a casual relationship with a friend and I felt we were becoming really close but he just left the country for a whole year because he's looking for a "purpose". I will always wonder what it could have been if he had stayed but I understand he wasn't in the right place for something serious so now I consider it only as a special memory and I know now is a good time for me to move on and find real love with the right person.

[rthrizzle]

This is again so astounding. I love everything you’re saying about not living in reality, not living in our real life but living in our minds. Spot on !

[DizzyRock]

You’re very right . I have fallen in what I think was limerence in the past with someone I had an on and off connection with. I held on for along time almost a year and I’m glad I finally came to the realization that I was in an illusion I build in my mind . If someone is the right person they would want to be there and work with me and it shouldn’t feel like I’m trying to conquer something or to make someone see my worth . I have learned to keep the relationship I need and want as the goal and not the person . We need to see if the person can fit the right relationship otherwise it’s not your person . Thanks for making the videos and sharing different advice with us ❤

[avaneeshbharadwaj]

I saw this at the right time. Thanks! ❤

[Idkaboutyoubutimfeelin]

The times i felt it could be right person wrong time is more like we are on different wavelengths because im further along in my healing and self awareness than they are, so they have more they need to process and learn about themselves before we could ever even be on the same playing field.

[jey-keepon]

Agreed!!! Some people do waste their time and their precious days on thinking about individuals that they are no longer, even with wondering and wishing why and hoping for things that are not going to occur. It's really kind of sad to watch and once you learn how to get away from that you are so much better off! Good point in this video

[annahayes]

The right person always comes at the right time ❤

[kunstdesschämens]

This is true and I am thrilled that someone who gives online dating advice actually has the guts to say it instead of feeding into all those fantasies that people create. Back to the here and now, back to life, back to reality. I really appreciate this perspective.

[sandraivo]

What’s wrong time anyhow? Time is time, a precisous moment where we either succeed and if not, we learn. As Nelson Mandela said - I never lose. Either I win or I LEARN❤️

[audreylove]

The way Matt calls me out on my shit every video 😂❤ thanks Matt ❤️

[faridaaktar]

I am so happy. You know after such a long time hearing something good. Always be happy

[ogechukwuokpala]

This section of the full video hit me like a tonne of bricks! I have been doing this. I want to live my life fully and not imagine something that's not real

[al]

I think that a “right” person will always be “right” … or a “wrong” person will always be “wrong”… I just don’t think people change enough to only be computable (or non-compatible) at different times.

[royalhighness]

Omgosssshhhh so grateful to hear this, this is accurate 😊😊😊