What To Do When An Affair Ends Abruptly - 5 Ways To Stop Living In Agony

If you were involved in an affair and it suddenly ended, we know you are feeling a whirlwind of emotions. It feels like you're being torn apart and thinking, "that's it. No one will ever love me like that again." It hurts when the people we love leave us, especially when it comes out of nowhere.

It's even more painful if you've given up the most critical parts of your life to be with this person. Your marriage, your family, or your friends, all because you never felt a love that strongly before. You believed you would spend the rest of your life with this person, and the love would stay alive forever because no one understood you the way they did. No one made you feel as whole as they did.

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There are no magic words to say to win back their affections, but there are ways to heal when an affair ends abruptly. We believe in the power of forgiveness, getting your life back, and healing your old relationships from the emotional damage caused. Your world is crashing around you, but you can build it back up again and start over with the people you love the most. We reveal everything in this video if you feel the motions of an ended affair.

In this video, we cover:

-The grieving period of an ended affair

-The life cycles of an affair

-The 10,10,10 rule

-Limerence: The feeling of being in love

-How to move forward after an affair

-Getting your life together if you feel broken

-Resources to help you save your marriage

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Video Chapters:

0:00 - My Affair Also Ended
3:35 - The Truth About Limerence
5:00 - Start Facing Reality
5:25 - Think 10 - 10 - 10
6:39 - Your Future Will Go In One Of Two Directions
7:40 - How To Learn More About Limerence

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[betsyg]

Like the wife that was abandoned for the lover. She knows how it feels. It should teach you the pain the wife and kids went through, they feel it for longer than the person's who inflicted it.

[Samanthawaltonwackford]

…then it’s safe to say that the decision to return to the spouse that was cheated on was a choice to “settle” for the person you didn’t want because the person you did want did not want you? I can’t see how that could be a genuine decision… and what if the lover didn’t terminate the affair?? I’m sure returning to that wife and kids wouldn’t have been an option; I’m sure that wife and kids would be even more devastated, hurt, and damaged. How does one forgive the thought of that and move forward with that cheating spouse trusting that the decision to return and reconcile is genuine? How can one trust that choosing that lover, or some other lover for that matter, above the wife and kids would not be a repeated choice in the event the situation presents itself again? 😒

[BAMshazam]

So you got the super unpleasant grieve from the break up. So you got to feel like you made your wife (and children) feel when you left her. What goes around comes around.

[paulap]

So it's all about THEM . they decided to be with someone else without breaking previus commitment just because THEY felt like it, they go away because THEY felt like it, they come back because THEY don't want to be alone now, 10 years from now, or ever. It's never about anyone else but THEMSELVES

[SM..]

I honestly believe that to many people get married to early in life. People change there viewpoint in life. I am getting a divorce and at this point very tired of others trying to make me out to be a monster at times because at 43 I am not the 20yr old he married. And gladly so. I deserve to be happy and most importantly at peace with my life. As does everyone. Love is love. To guilt or shame someone into thinking otherwise is wrong.

[dianepolk]

Lack of accountability to God’s Word is what caused one to stray, disobey God and hurt ones own soul. It’s the love of God who restores one back to Himself, leading us to repentance and restoration. There are always life changing consequences to sin but thank You Jesus Christ for forgiveness.

[dianepolk]

Accountability to God’s Word is what caused one to stray, disobey God and hurt ones own soul. It’s the love of God who restores one back to Himself leading us to repentance and restoration. There are always life changing consequences to sin but thank You Jesus Christ for forgiveness.

[LordVoltRodc]

Only thing I want to know is how to let that person know we never needed them and would never have wanted them had we known they would find someone better looking. And also, to let them know, thank you for the ecstasy and how you made so happy, you were my drug, the best one I ever had, but now I have moved on from you, my new lover is just too shroomey to miss what you had to offer. 🍄🌆. Merry Christmas, I wrapped it up and sent with a note saying I love you... It's Always goodbye.

[susannahpearethcaning]

its the worst thing imaginable and i really hope he's doing okay.

[oambitiousone]

I see all these videos about reviving a marriage that has died, and there’s endless optimism. But for some reason, when it comes to an affair, there doesn’t seem to be such optimism. Deciding to be with someone decades ago is considered redeemable. A relationship undertaken recently is not.

Why is that?

[northshorelight]

I really need help by talking to someone.

[themusiccritic]

grow up and move on , hopefully you learned from this and will never do it again.

[k.s.ktheboogeyman]

An affair is an affair its wrong period this is not good advice nor a good practice if u are having an affair there is no way that will b better than the mairrage ur having an affair with you can not build a good foundation on sand if your watching this video your going to have to realities to face ur affair will end n because of ur affair and the way u feel about it ur probably gonna loose ur marriage to

[shepardsmith]

I am not one of these sensualists. They operate on emotion and that will always let you down. But the damage they can do and do do is incalculable when they get into and continue an affair. They will literatlly destroy their marriage, their family and their spouse to be with the one they are consumed by. But it is too late. And I think because of their nature they will repeat this. So what is the moral of this story?? You have to think long and hard about the person you make a decision on marrying. You have to ask the tough questions because if you don't you and your children may be the ones to suffer when your spouse has the affair. It would be nice if you could ask them. Have you been divorced. How many times and who filed. Clearly if your potential spouse has been divorced twice and they filed twice then you are kidding yourself if you think this is going to work out. Even if they are not divorced if they have been involved in affairs with married AP's then dont expect much from your portential spouse. But dont count on the potentilal spouse to be honest with you if they have anything to hide. I guess the best advice is get a nice dull person who is a real solid citizen to marry. They are probably in it for the long run. The person the speaker is talking about are not and will give you grief .

[fionac]

“I always tell the truth”…😆 this man just explained he had an affair, so I can guarantee he did not tell his wife the truth. Cheaters lack empathy. This whole video he’s feeling bad for the cheater, but let’s face it, what he did to his wife was a million times worse.

[lpsglitterpaws]

A word of advice…don’t get married! At 17 years of marriage I am living out Shawshank Redemption

[oambitiousone]

Why don’t marriages cycle then?

That’s a relationship, all of which end.

[RipenedKarma]

I wish I could show this to my fiancée but she doesn’t know that I know. But this is exactly what she is going through right now. All I can do is let her have her time to get over him.

[Mariyahfatima]

Hang on hes talking about his grieve after he left his wife and children for his cheating.. just show some empathy to your ex spouse? You’ll get over it faster.