Chosen Suffering VS Unchosen Suffering

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[lemonade]

Chosen suffering is also a lot less painful than unchosen suffering.

[Sir.DavidBruce]

Chosen suffering makes you stronger so you can endure the unchosen suffering. Nobody deserves to suffer but it is inevitable.
Good philosophy

[lilyvanilli]

I’ve been through all those unchosen sufferings you mentioned, before I had a chance to even understand the chosen suffering. Nothing would’ve prepared me. But I’m still here resilient af.

[raymondtendau]

When we feel that we are choosing our problems we feel empowered. When we feel that problems are being forced upon us against our will, we feel victimised and miserable.
-Mark Manson
Everything is f*cked

[Autogenification]

Weirdly this works for socializing/dating too. Chosing to make conversation with strangers (in an appropriate scenario) is difficult, but the more you do it, the better at socializing you become.

And this extends to dating and relationships in the sense of, the more you interact with the opposite gender, the more comfortable you'll be with them. Fortification for the future

[TraceyBarracloughInspiration]

Yes. There’s been plenty of unchosen suffering. Could’ve done without it but my resilience is off scale for sure. It bothers me how many aren’t resilient 🧡

[frstchan]

obviously, if you are successful (rich) even "bad periods" are easier... you can probably just stay home and take a break, while most people still have to go to a job they hate and suffer extra much, it has nothing to do with your person or how much you have experienced

[majordanger]

Arguing that the only way to avoid unchosen suffering is to choose suffering is like suggesting the only way to prevent a flood is to build a dam that overflows. Choosing suffering deliberately does not effectively prevent the unexpected challenges of life; it simply adds more burdens and fails to address the root causes of unchosen suffering. Seeking meaningful ways to manage and reduce unchosen suffering is more practical and less self-destructive.

[reneeREMichigan]

Chosen suffering 💯. Do. Hard. Things.

[ar]

It’s not the ONLY method. If you’ve ever received help via divine intervention after surrendering to God… You know that TRUST in God is everything. It’s sometimes the only option when all else fails you… whether you have intentionally suffered before or not.

[chu_bakka]

Check your blood pressure, the silent killer, almost got me.

[ExoticalT]

Yep! Can confirm!

You have to willingly do the tough stuff in order to toughen you up for the involuntary tough stuff.

👸🏻

[Christobar]

The temple defiled in many ways in flesh but we get through it self distruction but having great faith in God

[alexspurrell]

It’s less about choice and more generally about acceptance.
Life just is
Weather yourself sure, but life just is

[Theodore]

I remember 3 years back my gf back then got into accident lost her.
Too much pain.

Fortunately I was into gym and body building and chosen suffering like you mentioned actually worked pretty well.

[nelsonhibbert]

I chose to eat a box of Mr Kiplings French Fancies even though I've got coeliac disease. I shat through the eye of a needle for two days. Fantastic.

[JoshuaPryce-pshx]

Things happen to all people good and bad.

[PLF...]

Chosen suffering doesn't shield you against anything if the suffering is different. And VERY few of the things that make you suffer is a repeat. It's literally pointless.

[MattyT]

Everyone goes through unchosen suffering. Not everyone goes through chosen suffering.

[BrotherTree]

Take up your damn cross, and bear it! It's your best bet despite no guarantees. I am reminded of that, as a paraphrase of what Peterson once said.