Always Make Your Intentions Clear From The Start!

How to approach people... Without being creepy!

Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.

Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!

His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!

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Always Make Your Intentions Clear From The Start!

How to improve your social skills! In this short, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals why clarity of intent is so important when meeting new people and working on your social skills!

Discover how to start a conversation with anyone and how to approach without being creepy!

You will learn how to start a conversation with strangers and how to approach people without being creepy and without feeling awkward.

#authenticity #bereal #socialskills

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[santiagosenoran]

Today I came out of my house and a stranger was standing outside looking at my door and started talking to me about my door and how much he liked it, I did stop and started chatting with him in a friendly manner but was a bit confused about why he was talking to me, until he told me he was an architect and liked to admire pretty houses in the street and then I felt like everything made sense and was much more comfortable talking to him afterwards

[harryjezreel]

One of my biggest sticking points. Thanks for bringing awareness to this.🙏

[RobinMcBeth]

Yes, they're always weird in the beginning. That tone usually changes around the second-week-mark in my basement.

[victormiranda]

I drive for Lyft and I have some really deep conversations with passengers. I asked myself why can that happen in that situation and not in regular social interactions, and the reason why is because there is an endpoint and a purpose for the conversation, kinda assimilates what is said in this video.

[koan__]

Dman this does make sense. Because if the convo doesn't have a set clear goal from the start, the uncertainty makes everything sus and unnerving. But, if there is a point to the conversation, even if it's kinda boring, a sales pitch or asking for something, the added conversation makes everything smoother. Unless you're being robbed by the guy who asked you for a cigarette

[YoUtUbEhAnDlEsArEgReAt]

Had a couple of really awkward middle-aged guys come up to me to ask me if there were any good places to eat that night. I thought they were a gay couple on holiday, so I started giving them all the info on restaurants and pubs and how places don't stay open late here so they should hurry..
but then one of them starts recommending places to me..
and then he asked me if I needed something to eat..
I jokingly said "Oh, I'm not actually homeless, despite how I look". They just sort of smiled with blank eyes, unsure if they should laugh.
Then one of them asks me if I've ever thought about heaven or the afterlife and everything clicks in my head.
They were Christians trying to convert people. I hinted that I wasn't interested and luckily they understood. I accepted their leaflet about Saint Patrick and we said our goodbyes. One of them added a cautious "May God bless you" at the end which I politely returned.

If they had just run up to me and said "JESUS! YEA OR NAY?!" I would've totally been up for a chat about Jesus, but I ended up just feeling bad about how they probably tried the same thing on a few not-so-keen drunks who scared them away from trying to socialise outside of their church ever again.

[misswill]

🎯 Literally just dealt with this the other day but online, and I literally just straight up asked what are their intentions and they never answered and disappeared. I guess that answers my questions.

[tylerbush]

"The fuck away from me"

Is what i said to my phone

[ashleypeterson]

Gahh I called my neighbor today and started with “do you leave your car doors unlocked at night?” And she was like…..”…uhhhm…”
And it occurred to me how weird that sounded and clarified that we had some things stolen out of our unlocked car and wanted to make sure she checks her car 😆

[Zzz]

Faaxxxx i actually started using this unconciously when i started questoning what people want when they talk to me. So this right here is a game changer when you want to know and meet new people.

[timotimorrison]

I like this short type nuggets of wisdom. We all know the achiles ankle of the company was they were wasted massive amount of time and blabber to say woo woo that would lead you nowhere and feeling overindontrinated and confuse. Glad to see a change.

[jeanbarque]

That's what I say, you can speak to a girl anywhere, you just need an excuse, a reason, it can be stupid and just to speak to her, she would maybe not even notice it..
I went to a girl that was sitting with her phone, went to tell her that I want to buy a new phone but don't know nothing about.. we speak, she's my gf since 4 years.. 😉

[ljb]

I guess it wouldn’t be so hard to start a conversation if I knew how to maintain and end it. Going in blind is just a train wreck for me without fail, which I why I just avoid it.

[PAKallman]

This is the first of this guys videos that ive seen where he said something actually useful

[sethehman]

I can't stop picturing grandpa Joe from Charlie and the Chocolate factory with that shirt

[breakingthemasks]

This is only half of it.

Yes, an interaction with no plausible reason is uncomfortable because there is suspicion of ulterior motives.

So yes, proving context is critical.

But, going straight to complements or directly stating romantic interest defines the interaction in terms that favor the girl.

If you can, I'd say it's generally better to frame the interaction with some other plausible context.

Often it's good to verbally make romance impossible, since eliminating that concern can allow women to relax and be less on guard.

So, something like...

"Hey, I know this is weird, but ...
I saw your shopping cart had coconut in it, and I love the flavor of coconut, but I'm kind of lost on how to use it. Do you have a meal that uses or or anything like that?"

Or something like that.
It can focus on any environmental trigger... But ideals it's
1. Not romantic
2. Not closed ended. Meaning that it's not just a yes or no or similar. It's something that can expand to become a conversation. In this case about cuisine and flavor.

Finally... Look for a good exit.
Leave before she wants you to leave, and try to connect the conversation to something at a later time.

"Shoot, I've got a conference call in a little bit, but it's been really fun meeting you.
... Actually, this is kind of out of character for me, but ... I'm going to try that coconut meal you mentioned... Is it crazy for me to get your number to make sure I do it right?"

Or similar.

Note the last sentence. That's straight from a professional negotiator. Because asking a question where the "no" answer is the one you want is easier for people. We are all trained that saying "no" is safe. So in this case, it's a pretty low pain thing for her to respond with "no, that's not crazy." Which l would logically lead to you getting a number.

Good luck

[aarom]

I never even thought about this but it’s so true.

[ezekielanderson]

The problem is, many people just want to talk for the sake of taking. They don't have a specific reason, they just want to talk.

[drgreenthumb]

Imagine right now if you'd comb your hair and wore a clean shirt? Actually visualize it

[joaopaulodasilva]

This is great advice. The problems is that I am not a Chad, so when I show sensual intention, women run.