Creating Secure Attachment Part 3: Attention

CRAVE Consistency Responsiveness Attention Validation Encouragement
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[powerofroses]

Love your work. I am greatly appreciated at work and it seems to be working 4 me. LOL. Building relationships its what it is all about. Thanks

[dk]

I simply didn't have this as a child. My parents did not show up emotionally. They were there physically and my physical needs were met.
I was not allowed to show anger or sadness. I was not supported emotionally. I was never asked, how wax your day? Even if I was I couldn't complain.
I wonder if I would have turned out better if my parents were dead at an early age.

[aniabrandt]

Thank u Dr. Snipes and the husband! I really appreciate your videos

[sanamichael]

I am trying to learn to love myself. I always find myself putting others needs first and ignoring myself and that makes me feel disappointed.

[harmonyspacecenter]

So useful, great examples, and thank you for understandable structure of the given information .

[judithwallace]

Thank you for your videos. 2021 has been a demanding year and your content has been extremely helpful.

[kurt]

My mom and dad were very consistent in responding to my emotional needs. They were consistently absent and I had to figure it out by myself. When my dad was responsive it was to tell me that i was so stupid that i couldn't pour piss out of a boot even if the instructions were written on the heel. But I deserved it. I acted out a lot and did things to intentionally push his buttons. I have come to the conclusion that I have a fatal flaw and am not loveable.

[kurt]

And even though I believe that I'm unlovable and that people will abandon me, it's not cause of irrational beliefs but cause that's what I've experienced. I've been abandoned by everybody. My biological family wants nothing to do with me, I've never had a girlfriend and the few male friends I've had are very short lived, maybe a year or so and always ends up with them abandoning me. And I just don't understand why because I've tried to do right. I tried to be a good son. I never got in trouble, I wasn't a criminal, and I wasn't into drugs or alcohol. And I've seen so many kids reak havoc on their parents but yet those parents are right there to give them help. I've only got one thing on my bucket list and that's to understand what's wrong with me because I crave intimacy and friends almost as much as I crave food and water but yet nobody wants me, and I just don't understand why

[pauladuncanadams]

I had to learn all of that shoe "scaffolding" in one afternoon when I was age four. I hadn't mastered that skill before my father came home. My mom started screaming at him as soon as he walked through the front door for him to "teach your daughter how to tie a shoe!!!"

[joaquinromolor]

Happy & Kind = Joy.
Meaning -Happy & Kind
are sliding & splashing down this river pond's playing together in the water slides, like you said Doctor - A rollercoaster that might leave you paralyzed?

[pascalmoreaux]

Hello, I can't find part 2 of creating secure attachment, is somebody can help me ? Thanks ;-)