Does Playing Hard to Get Really Work?

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[whitemakesright]

As a man, 100%. If a woman isn't enthusiastic about spending time with me, I'm just going to assume she isn't interested and move on.

[YvetteP]

Being single works. I'm just gonna do that 😭😭😭😩

[jgil]

Matthew looks like what we expected Dan Radcliffe to look like when he grew up

[deinlebenleben]

Hahaha very true! Authenticity beats everything. And if you are honest to yourself you should expect other people who want to be in your live, to be honest as well.

[kv]

Let the man know you are interested. Be warm and receptive - but don't be available at his whim. If you have plans: meaning if you planned to have dinner, watch your show, shower, and go to bed, etc., then you have plans. Don't change them at the last minute. Let him know: I can't make it that night, what about...name a few other days. That's what I've learned. If the man is in his masculine energy and wants to pursue, as a man should, then he will pursue if you let him know you're interested.

[morighani]

when you need to resort to “playing hard to get” to attract someone it means you have no substance. That person isn’t interested in you, they’re interested in your exclusivity. If they found you interesting in the first place then this would not be needed.

[infinvision]

When they think that's what you're doing but in reality you're just an introverted HSP who carefully weighed out Life & just rather have your peace.

[Lynpink]

If you gotta play games to keep him/her interested.. you’re gonna have to keep playing that game forever.. 🙃

[RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light]

I actually can't play hard to get, I've tried, felt wrong....I felt REDICULOUS

[Ra_aradnE]

I second this, especially when you'd expect them to be more interested in you and the outcome is completely different.

Best advice is just be a decent and nice person to them(be nice to others too) and just be yourself(I know, cliche) then bond slow and steady.

[rhiannonh.]

I’ve had nine relationships in the last 15 years. How do you get one you might ask? Guys want to know your interested, but don’t feel pressure early on. They want someone who has a life, has passion, is driven, but also not available 24/7. Do not be so available you are there every day, that’s too much. You gradually let him decide about spending the night, you let him decided about leaving things there at his place. Why? It’s his space, his rules. You don’t live there. Same if a guy is staying over at your place. He doesn’t get to decide this either, your rules, your place. It’s healthy to have this boundary early on so you don’t blur the lines. Then let him decide it’s a relationship. I’ve never once asked a man what it is. Not once. Why? If he knows he’ll tell me. I only ever ask if they are sleeping with others out of respect for my sex health because I do not want an STD. Other than that, if a guy wants a relationship he’ll ask you or tell you. Push for one or dropping hints for one? Guys pick up on that and can tell you have an agenda. Don’t. You would t want someone pushing for something or indirectly dropping hints about something, right? Why would you do that to someone you’re dating? Patiences. Plus here is the red flag they don’t want a relationship & are keeping it “casual”… Listen, let’s go with the flow”, is the ultimate line of “I have no plans to flow into a relationship… with you, ever & string you along. Guys who want a relationship never utter this phrase, not once. Especially if they want one with you. 3-6 months is when guys ask you to be in one. I’ve never had one ask farted six months. By that point they have no desire to ever commit, just coasting with you. But the warning signs are there, you just probably talked yourself down from accepting the truth because of your feelings. Use your brain and look at it as if you were dating you, would you do what someone is doing after the six months of dating & not commit? Or would you not wait that long and make it official? See by that, it makes it far easier to realize HOW you’ve been ignoring the red flags for too long.


A lot of women like to over analyze, read into things with a guy, but it’s not that complicated. Guys aren’t as complicated about dating. They are pretty cut & dry. They either keep things moving with you when they want to keep you around for the long haul or they let it get stale, get hot/cold, make excuses so you don’t cut them off from easy access to sex, a warm body, & back rubs. You’ll know real fast once you keep this in mind, which category you fall into.

[MrHennerz]

Yep. Why plays games. For example…
If you want to text someone, text them. Don’t sit around not replying trying to play it cool. If they think you’re texting too much then they ain’t for you.

[CollinMac]

Playing hard to get is exactly what it sounds like. You’re playing games. If you’re claiming “I’m not playing hard to get I have standards” you’re messing with people and you need to stop. There’s a difference between having standards and wasting people’s time

[skylight_gameuse]

it doesn't work with someone who wasn't looking for something serious from the start, they just wanted to play

[palavi]

If you play hard to get then u would need to keep up with that image all life (which is nearly impossible) otherwise soon u become easy on that person, u will loose his interest. So be genuine.

[grazsts]

No-one likes to feel rejected. It may work for a very short period of time or for someone who only wants to play. Nothing puts me off more than a guy who doesn't know (or show) what he wants.

[a.m.thomas]

True facts. I could never play hard to get because when or if I am ever interested in a man I go crazy for him, but I'm so shy when I have intense feeling for a guy I just run away.

[happysmile]

That's true. I slept with my husband the first night. We were married for 28 years later. He passed away last year. When it's meant to be it's meant to be from God.

[markcollins]

Good advice. Participation is everything

[Vera-scud]

Sometimes it's not playing. You are simply not easy to get. All women that have selfrespect wait to see if someone really cares.