Ace and Aro! #shorts #QH101

Welcome to #QueerHistory 101, episode 22 is about how Asexual and Aromantic being two completely different sexual identities!



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[whatever]

Thank you for talking about this! I’m on the asexual and aromantic spectrum and people so often mix these up, even in queer spaces. That or they completely ignore that these identities exist. Anyways this was the perfect feel-good way to start my day!

[Lil-Dragon]

As an Aromantic bi person I appreciate people pointing out the two being separate things as most people I know assume I'm AroAce and I'm trying to get them to understand that Aromantic and Asexual identities can be separate and don't always come as a automatic pair.

[annijaklamer]

As a romantic ace, thank you. There's so much people who try to be supportive, but just don't get it. My sister keeps insinuating I'm not interested in romance, even though I've told her several times that's not how it works

[YondaMoegi]

as an aromantic ace, I appreciate these videos. Fun fact, I love romance as a concept, I just struggle to feel it myself.

[moi]

I'm aroace so it's nice to see you spread awareness. Love and hugs!

[tootruesheep]

as someone who only recently discovered my asexual identity, these little videos are a big help, thank you

[marrykozakura]

I'm demisexual!
My boyfriend said to me that "the most important thing is being together, cuddle and love each other. Sex is not that important"
I fell even more in love with him

[toppletorch]

Thank you for saying this! I thought I was going crazy. None of my friends/family understand when I tell them I genuinely feel no romantic attraction to anyone, yet I still feel sexual attraction. It’s like there’s a void in my brain between platonic attraction and sexual attraction where romantic attraction should be. It’s hard to explain, but thank you for helping me understand that I’m not alone and I’m not going crazy. 🥰 I love your videos!!

[rachael]

My husband is a romantic asexual. It took him a long time to figure out that he was asexual, partially because he didn't understand the term and partially because of societal expectations that men are highly sexual. I tried to help him, but I knew he was ace because he told me he didn't like sex. My attempts at explaining it weren't helpful, but asexual people on the internet explaining it actually got through to him!

[loviebeest]

im aro/ace (cupio romantic - asexual to be exact) the best way for me to explain how it works for me is to say that I'm not attracted to people but I do want friends with tax benefits.

[-nyxhenderson]

There is a recent show that came out in Japan called Two People Who Can't Fall in Love (恋せぬ二人) about two Aroace people who move in together to start a 'relationship without love' and make a home together as they both feel lonely in a world where you are expected to fall in love and be in a relationship and it is really excellent. In one episode the main girl even goes to a meeting of aromantic and asexual people and there are loads of people who identify differently. Two are ace lesbians, one is an ace gay man and so on. I really recommend it, it's an excellent show!

[Lin-rhqs]

Aro here! I'm so happy to see aro and ace people being acknowledged by some of my favorite queer YouTubers! Especially for the aromantic spectrum, there's so little information. For a lot of years, I thought I was asexual because I didn't even realize that romantic and sexual attraction aren't always going to be exactly the same. And, when I finally did learn about the two being separate, I still didn't even know about being aromantic, I only heard it in terms of being asexual doesn't mean you don't have romantic feelings. The whole a-spectrum is so underrepresented and misunderstood that it was nearly impossible to know anything about it until I stumbled upon the right people in college. Truly, having people like you, Jessica, talking about these things is such a wonderful sight. I'm so happy to know the next generations of young people will have more rolemodels than I did to help them in their journeys of self discovery.

[ace.of.space.]

thank you for covering aromatic and asexual identities! I am both aro and ace and very happy to see education about the intersection and distinction of the spectrums

[ladyicondraco]

Aro/allo here, thank you for talking about the difference!

[tobybartels]

We don't often distinguish romantic and sexual orientation outside of the ace/aro spectrum, and we should do that too. (There are people who are biromantic but homo- or heterosexual, for example.) The difference becomes more obvious on the a- side of things, but it's always there.

[emeraldvalkyrja]

Very true and important!
I'd further expand on this, that the asexuality-spectrum and aromantic-spectrum respectively refer to a lack of *attraction* in those regards, not a lack of action. Meaning that some ace people do have sex, just don't have sexual attraction, and some aromantic people are in close relationships which other people might think are romantic in nature (whether or not they are, or if they are queer-platonic-relationships depends on the situation and the people), they just don't experience romantic attraction.
I'm allosexual myself, and I'm on the aromantic-spectrum (can't nail it down more than that), and interestingly polyamorous at the same time.
I'd like to joke that while I don't know what love is and feels like, I do know that I want lots of it with a lot of people, so there's that. ^^

[CassianGray]

I'm so glad you did this! It's so validating to hear someone talk about the aro and ace spectrums! Remember, the A in LGBTQIA stands for ace, aro, and agender!

[gnadelein]

Thank you!!! 💚 I’m alloaro, enjoy being in emotional/sexual non monogamous relationships and we alloaros and/or polyamorous aros get little representation, so this post makes me really happy

[APerson]

As an ace aro person it is always nice to see someone bring more awareness about this part of my identity.

[LadyAhro]

Delighted to see you talking about Asexuality and Aromanticism since I know some corners of the LGBT+ community have been trying to give us the boot for years, regardless of the fact that we’ve been around and recognised as LGBT+ for decades.