My Herpes Story | Overcoming the shame of genital herpes.

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In today's video, Dr. Becky interviews Bek Antonucci who discusses her story about being diagnosed with genital herpes. Bek explains she had limited sexual partners therefore STI's were not something she was initially concerned about.

Bek explains the symptoms she began to experience which led her to go and get checked by the doctor, where she received her herpes diagnosis. Bek explains the shame she felt after receiving her diagnosis.

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[velmasgames]

"You ruined your life with this man you dont even love, ".... I felt that so deep in my soul.

[lyledeyounges]

With ALL the people who have it, I can’t believe it’s not talked about more - thanks for sharing, it actually means a lot to many of us

[lsteiner]

I appreciate so much honesty of a topic that should be discussed more often. It is extremely common and manageable. So many situations get so much better when we mentally decide things are ok.

[RadagonTheRed]

This is extremely brave. I have a family member with genital herpes and they are extraordinarily sensitive about it, as you can imagine.

[angytingz]

Im watching this with tears streaming down my face, Im 24 and just got the news today that I tested positive for herpes..I feel like an absolute failure and like the one thing Ive always enjoyed and taken pride in (my sexuality and sex life) has now been ripped away from me and my life. I know deep down that Ill be okay and I can lead a normal healthy life, but..I just feel unloveable, guilty and betrayed too..I just got out of a 4 yr relationship and Im still mourning that relationship, and the minute I decide to get back out there, turns out the guy Im intimate with gave it to me. He didnt tell me he had it and he looked perfectly clean and fine downstairs..Im now getting suicidal thoughts after not having them for years..I know I might feel way better/differently in a month or so but its just how I feel rn. Thank you for this video, I needed to hear this

[MillieMoshpit]

And I’m here for anyone and everyone going through this. *hugs

[allans.]

Hi Bex -

Today I tested positive for HSV after having a horrible outbreak, and feel the same way you described in your interview. Listening to you share your overcome experience gave me the glim of hope I needed to hear. I am glad that there is people like you out there who just want to help other people who are struggling with the same issues. Your words gave me the courage I needed to hear today to know that it’s ok. I can still be myself and enjoy my life the way I am supposed to.

Thank you doctors beck for talking about these issues. Your video was just what I needed to hear today— and I am sure that it was god who redirected me to listen to you both because you had the right words to talk to me today.

[invisibleplanets]

Your story mimics mine. My partner at the time wanted her best friend to join in on our... sessions. I wasn't told that she had the hsv2 found out two weeks ago. I haven't had an outbreak for 10 years but it felt the same as you said. I'm going to be alone. I'm never gonna have a family or a lover. Now I haven't had a partner but I now know that I'm not in this alone. It's very nice to hear.

[namonox]

I lived in silence for 20+ years. Once I started talking about it openly, and just recently in the last year, my shame and low self esteem around it started shifting drastically. To anyone recently diagnosed, BE GRATEUL that its happened at this point in time. 20+ years ago we did not have extensive online community support like this (only some basic message boards with limited info), nor access to a variety of info for natural health and wellness practices to keep it suppressed and manageable, or many people talking openly and working to destigmatize having it. There is more awareness and acceptance now that you can live a normal life and have healthy safe relationships. I only wish I had this 20+ years ago, my life would be so different now. Bek, I relate sooo much to your story. I have had all the same feelings and struggles with this. <3

[mimizavz]

I just found out I’ve been diagnosed and it’s honestly hard to process and accept and it was because of a cold sore that I thought was gone, a complete accident but that accident feels like it’s changing my life, but knowing that there is a community out there that can relate to the shame regarding this issue really brings so much peace and I hope and pray that I can get though this along with others facing this issue. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[keishadow]

Can I just say how brave you are for posting and normalizing these things

[lynnfarris]

Don't know why I never thought to check out a channel like this. Truly help me . Thank you 🙏

[inkedenvy]

Your story made me cry. I’ve been though your exact story almost. But I still feel unlovable. Three years have passed and I still struggle with suicidal thoughts. I’m terrified that I will never know real love.

[ibytepopsicles]

I'm half drunk watching this. I'm scared and don't know what to do. I just got diagnosed this morning. I'm so distraught. I feel like I wasted my life with a man who didn't even love me. I have only had two partners and I'm not sure which one gave me this crap. I feel like he'll. And I'm so upset. I finally found a decent guy and now he might not want me because of this. I am watching this and I am feeling how you felt. I'm not sur what else to do. I'm hoping it gets better but right now I just want to die or be celibate for the rest of my life.

[persiancat]

Im 24 single and got Herpes and it's been just two days I noticed about it im on the first outbreak plus anxiety cz its sth new and i need time to accept this, Im living with family and keeping this as secret and dealing it all by my own is a little painful for me .I'm really sad right now but should accept it as a part of me now and live stronger .don't let your mind and bad thought weakness your body.I know I'm still young and I have a long way to go but when I'd prefer stay strong and keep going .we are bigger than some little viruses and red pimples :)

[hotsjc]

The key point in her story was that the Lord was speaking to her and telling her, “You don’t have to live like this. I know what your going through and I am here to help”. The attacks of the mind are from the devil. This is as much of a spiritual attack above everything else. Unforgiveness can bring on so many health issues. It will try to own you and consume you. This is a trick from the enemy, but you can overcome this through Christ. Don’t let those people take up residence in your mind.
As the Lord to help you forgive them, as He forgave us. He can do it. “Not by might, nor by power, but by the Spirit of the Lord”. Be free!

[Nidhi-llyq]

More power to you & your journey Bek ! As a training doctor myself, I'm in shock how less this commonly prevalent disease is less talked about. Thank you for shedding light on the mental impact of sexual health Dr. Becky !

[UniquelyMElife]

13:55 That's because alot of people don't know cold sores ARE herpes. People want to separate the two and you can't. They want to stigmatize genital herpes not fully knowing that someone can have HSV1 on their genitals. Just as someone can have HSV2 on their mouths

[pardonchipepera]

i'm still so happy i came across your page. you and the other followers have made my life so much better.

[HerpesIsReal]

This is how i felt when first infected by this virus, i thought my life ends. Thanks for this kind of video. 👍👍👍👍👍