The Questions You're Too Embarrassed to Ask (But Must!)

In this video, I talk about what happens when you don’t ask the RIGHT questions in the vetting process…

If you want the easy, ‘done-for-you’ solution to find a pious spouse who ticks all of the important boxes?

…someone who you are proud to call your partner

…someone who you know will be an amazing parent to your future children

And if you want to know the best possible ways to vet your marriage prospects, so you can know between the ones who are genuine and sincere…

And the ones who are just putting on a show…

[yasswak]

I would like to add to the list asking about his/her health, are there any healthy issues or any inherited health issues, any health issues that effect you having children, ask about the health of her siblings and look out for health issues that could run in the family and ultimately could effect your children, do some research on what health issues run in families so you can spot them, this is so important and easy to overlook so take it seriously and dont be shy to ask its your right you will be shocked what people forget to mention. May allah bless us all with a healthy spouse and healthy children ameen.

[mohamedaboobaker]

If the Mahr is Unmanageable MOVE ON !!!!

[hassanx]

Demanding the girl be living on the same street and the same house and same room after marriage is ridiculous. The husbands responsibility is to take care of her her now. The family must allow her to be marriage and independent with her husband and kids. Not still on their doorstep .

[Illyas-yk]

Sheikh could u do vids advising us younger ppl like 21 and below Jaz.

[truthdisseminator]

Once bitten twice shy. Instant no, if a large mahr is asked for. Divorces are hard on men in the west - you lose the kids, half of your savings, half or more of your income.
The thought of marriage itself makes me jittery. Nikah is ok, but no to paper marriage. Too many legal implications. May be get a prenup.

[abubudgie]

Is it wrong to ask hypothetical questions to your potential wife? E.g. “if you wanted to do something and I said no, how would you react?” And then tell her your expectations

Is this okay? The purpose is to see how the other person thinks. Or is it better to just set your conditions directly and not ‘test the waters’.

[piqueny]

Personal family experience
The men proposal ask if my sisters have jobs money on the bank
The mahr was low because his idea was to move back into his parents home so they and his siblings will provide the extra income to maintain his marriage
These men wanted to marry my sisters based in they will live with his parents home after marriage
She may work if his moms allows her to
If she expects her martial rights if a marital home she is expected to definitely work

The fear of not knowing will they husband provide causes women to ask for higher mahr or she’s expected to earn the income to support her marriage

[mohammadmustafak]

Just saying, no girl with past going to open.

Girls are most crafty creation of God.
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[TheCorporateHijabi]

Of i am getting married again i only want the promise from him to lead in Deen. My makr will be the Quran.
This is not because i am disable, have low self esteem, or uneducated.

[MalcomHeart]

Salam bro @alromaani
I'm a new subscriber to your channel. Where do you stand on the pre-marriage agreement (prenuptial agreement)?

[NewsOfTheEarthOfficial]

50k mahr plus if she n family does fear allah then alimony too 😄