Our Son-in-Law Isn’t a Hard Worker

Our Son-in-Law Isn’t a Hard Worker

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[duvessa]

If your goal is to have a child and be a stay-at-home mom, you don’t marry a 27 y.o. guy who has never supported himself. Now he’s supposed to support 3 people? Not realistic.

[kimchikimchi]

As sad as it sounds, the parents need to simply let them struggle. They won’t figure it out until they feel the heat.

[vivianworden]

She picked a man's promised potential and not who he really is.
**** promised potential *** meaning his mouth cut a check his actions won't cash

[armandoweckmann]

Her daughter made a choice. Step back and let them struggle. Struggling makes people better. Handouts make things worse.

[KaysWorld]

We really need to start holding people accountable for their actions. Why would you have a child with someone that only works part time? Their finances were probably a mess before the baby.

[Kbechtel]

I will say as a Christian man, it’s even worse that he’s in ministry and doesn’t work. 1 Timothy 5:8 commands that if the man doesn’t work hard and provide, he is worse than the unbeliever

[jessiejoseph]

Let them sink or swim. Why did your daughter have a baby with a guy who does not know how to provide for himself let alone a family?

[joycejudd]

just a suggestion: don't allow your daughter to "vent" her frustration to you. Gently say to her, "there's nothing we can do and I'm so sorry. But you need to talk with your husband". If you allow her to vent to you, she's able to discharge her hurt and frustration, and you're the one walking around sick. Love her, but don't allow her to give it to you. she needs to feel it long enough and hard enough, so that she can face the truth, and and then talk with her hubby.

[Afton]

Your daughter doesn’t get to be a SAHM if her husband can’t solely provide for her and their child and save for their future 🤷🏼‍♀️ that’s just that on that. He either gets a better job or she has to work. Period.

[claytonmarkin]

This hits home because I was that guy at one point. We weren’t married with a kid yet, but my girlfriend (now wife) told me pretty directly that I needed to get my act together and get a job or she was moving on with her life.

I wound up getting the highest paying job I’d ever had a week later, and it was 100% because of that ultimatum. After two years, it was her who told me to leave that job because she thought I could do even better. This guy should know, you can go from bum to pretty darn successful in two years. You can go from being on the verge of being left to very respected in your field pretty quick

[Blue]

This is part of the mother’s fault. As moms, we need to teach our daughters that they need to consider the life they want to live when picking a husband. It’s not just about loving someone and hoping they will change and give you what you want. She knew who he was before they got married and had a child.

[Elizabethatthebeach]

My dad always said, "This is your house. It always will be. You can come home anytime." That knowledge of having a safe landing place, helped me leave a dangerous situation, and get to a place of safety and provision.

[kiesh]

If no one discouraged her from marrying and having a baby with him, that’s a shame. Daughter needs to step into reality. Forget a “dream of being a sahm, ” get a job and provide for your child. And don’t get knocked up again.

[darlayeates]

When I was CAREFULLY picking a husband, his ability and willingness to work was something I took a look at. As a result, I got to be a stay at home mom.

[DoraExploringg]

If he truly was in ministry he would know I Timothy‬ ‭5‬:‭8‬:

“But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”
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[kristencobb]

I was married to this lady’s son in law for 25 years. I’m a nurse and was the breadwinner and fortunately able to make ends meet with his salary as well. He always worked but never had any ambition whatsoever. Young ladies… choose wisely. Think about what you want for your future family BEFORE marriage. He’s 30 and wants his 22 year old wife to be the head of household. NO WAY.

[swennerb]

People always say “I would die for my kids! “But… they won’t get a job for their kids. They won’t save money for their kids or plan for their future or be financially responsible. Before you thought about “staying home”, you should’ve thought about how you would pay for the family you started.

[julieosmondson]

Your daughter married the wrong guy to be a stay at home mom. She needs to run to the work force. And your job is to mind your own business. The one bit of advice I'd give her is not to make a bunch of babies with this guy or they will be overwhelmed and in poverty.

[KathleenMcNe]

So the daughter married him, knowing he was lazy, and now wants him to miraculously become an ambitious man and good provider. Brilliant.

[andthatisTricemakeuphairlife]

22 and 30 told me all I needed to know . He strategized all of this .