What to do when your boyfriend seems to have more fun with his friends than with you

It sounds almost like you are jealous of your boyfriend's friends! And understand, because he has this camaraderie with them that he doesn't have with you. The way you should look at it is, those relationships are completely different. While he may be whooping it up with them, with you, he might be able to open up more, be himself. With them, he can let off steam and create a bond. Whatever you do, I wouldn't complain about his time with the guys (unless it is seriously cutting into time with you.) Give him the one night out a week, and you do the same. Bonding with friends is important.

[Myself_dmj]

He is spending everyday with his friends. He is more interested in spending time with them. He will not care me at all. Only at night he will talk to me. I m stressed due to this problems

[curiousgal]

I used to be my boyfriend’s priority. Everything was about me. He drove me to class, picked me up from school. It’s been like this for 1.5 years. Until his old bestfriend moved in beside his room, he then spends every single day with him, drinking and smoking and working out and playing video games. He’d show up to my place at like 11 pm everyday.

It hurts a lot because whenever I tried to plan fun things w him, he never seemed excited and his friend doesn’t even have to try and he put him above everything else, including me. He even forgot his promises with me.

It hurts so much to see how I went from being his VIP to basically nothing.

He still tried to contact me and said he miss me and love me which I dont even understand.

He even blamed me for “not being able to be himself around me because I don’t allow him to have friends”. Meanwhile he always asked me to choose between him or my friends, constantly.

[ninetailedlion]

Hi Marie,
I went to a party with my boyfriend, after 8 months of dating, I was expecting his usual quiet and introverted self and I was really nervous. When his friends pulled up he was so excited to see them and throughout the party he was super sociable, making conversations with everyone and having a ball of a time. However he left me alone, I feel terrible I couldn't get along with everyone like I should but it almost felt like a betrayal of trust because he has such a hard time socializing with me and he has told me that I shouldn't expect anything more(which I haven't, I accepted that) but it's just it's almost seems that he lied about how he is in a way. Help please I don't know what to do!

[lanadelgay]

You mentioned that if he’s hanging out with his friends but never you that’s completely different from what is going on otherwise, sadly that’s the issue I’m facing, I brought it up to my bf and all he said was sorry and that he’s been busy, I don’t wanna sound like a creep but every so often I’ll check the sc map to see if any of my friends r in town and I can see that he’s basically always at his house and sometimes his friends will be over, and I told him I have no issue what so ever with that but I miss hanging out with him, but nothing has changed I feel so ignored, please help

[JohannyVeigaviolin]

I used to be first priority and I don’t care about having friends and he was like that too until he made a friend his best friend now he is always with him for workouts, trips, hangouts and with me is only when he needs sleep of food or anything else

[BigTroubleD]

It’s so exhausting. I have to compete with his family, his friends and when not those, his hobbies.

Sometimes I figure I may as well be alone cuz it’s how I am already…

[PokeyMonstarr]

Thank you soo much I’m hurting atm and you made me see things from a different perspective

[swrilll]

Thanks women, my boyfriend dosen't talk with me alot. He told me he's a busy, but his friend told me that he's with his friends, he's everytime with his friends because he have alot of them, i really miss him, i don't know what to do. But i'll be fine, he even ignores my texts, but he will miss me and text me I hope.

[trashchildjpeg]

The thing is is that he talks and plays video games with his friends every. Day. For many. Many. Hours. And he always says to me that if I want him to get off of his game and hang out with him, he'll do it. But why this kind of thing up to me? Why does he need to spend every single day with his friends? I don't do that (granted all my friends live a state over but even then, I don't talk to them every day). It just seems like he spends more time with his friends than with me and we live together.

[rachelreid]

I give him 3 nights with his friends. They drink, smoke and play beer pong. Most of them he met while me and him were separated. He agreed to 3 nights a week which is more than other women he was with did.
Little by little it's going into everyday again and the days that are supposed to be spent with me... well que sera sera. He finds ways to say, what's wrong with going out, I can't help it if my friends like being around me... stupid shit like that. We are supposed to be remarrying in March but I'm strongly considering against it. He fixes what bothers me for a little while and goes right back

[zulanova]

Thank you. I really needed this advice, like a lot.

[sofiaoropesa]

my boyfriend spends every friday and saturday night with his friends. weekend days he spends with his friends or his 16 year old daughter. we only get to see on week nights past 9pm. i'm feeling like a bootie call and i did mention it to him. i like him, we have chemistry and compatibility, but just cant seem to have his prime time. dated him for 10 months and this setup seem to not change. is this still healthy or should i move on?

[beegee]

I think being arounds the boys brings up nostalgia and he can lose himself. With you he can find himself.

[vanessalemus]

This was by far the wose advise ever!!! Really onces a week! Then there more issues in that relationship

[mariedubuque]

DeadstarMusique, try coming up with a plan. If you are ever stuck in a rut, you can take control of the situation by coming up with goals and working toward them. Really wealthy people say they were happiest when they were dirt poor, but on their way to success by working towards their dream. That's what you should do, whatever it is. But if the depression persists, see a therapist.

[mariedubuque]

Spa, I know that is hard, but believe me, it is just the newness of the relationship. She will come around, especially when she realizes that she misses you! Just give her a little time. But if she keeps dropping her friends every time she meets a new guy, just realize how she is and put her on the back burner a little bit.

[mariedubuque]

Jake, I know it's hard, but you have to treat your crush like a normal person. Because if you act at all weird, it will make you both feel uncomfortable. And for all you know, she probably doesn't even know you like her! We all have to face people that make us uncomfortable, so this is good practice. And while you're at it, talk to her! When you are serving, just ask how she'd doing and what's going on in her life. No harm in that. And she might actually come in more often!

[kimorajohnson]

what if you’ve known him for 4 years and he’s known his guy friend 6 months and it still feels like he’s happier with his guy friend.
they talk every day and text each other to make sure they make it home I hate that.

[natwouldliketobattle]

my boyfriend never calls me. only his friends?? and it hurts me?? we haven’t called in months like i fr haven’t have heard his voice in so long.

[katetefft]

Excellent advice. I've been together with my boyfriend for over a year, and knew him for three years before, and I thought this until I watched your video.  I do have one question, he always seems to be playing video games when I go to his house... seeming to ignore me, although he claims to not be, would you believe this to be an issue or am I being insecure? Thanks!