'No Single Men in My Church' Christian Dating Advice for the Ladies

What to do when their are mostly single ladies in your church, but no single men...

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[TwiFiveGirls]

That was my exact predicament when I was single. No guys from church ever asked me out, even the one that heavily flirted with me and texted. I ended up going online and found my husband within four months. After 4 years of waiting, the internet was much faster. I was still frustrated for my friends because the church really does _nothing_ to help single people find spouses.

[mostagreeable]

This is exactly how I met my husband. He was very reserved. I just showed in each conversation warmth and interest and that gave him to confidence to pursue me. I never felt like I was pursuing him by letting him subtly know I was interested.

[divinityofblackness]

retitle the video to "no single men that fit a long list of possibly contradictory ideals in my church" 😅because that's typically the case

[m_jay]

I'm in the opposite predicament! I'm a 30s single Christian guy with high functioning autism and there's no single women in my church I'm interested in, but I love everything else about my church, traditional Bible and Gospel based, doesn't conform to the world and modern day woke society! I feel it'd be absolutely wrong to leave but it eats away at me knowing there's no single women my age there :/

[BethelGreeen]

Thank you so much for this video! I'm a new subscriber, and I'm really learning a lot from the videos. This is really good stuff! There's a single guy at my church, I would like to know, but I was struggling with how to be inviting. Now I have some ideas! Thank you!!

[marielugo]

There are no single Christian men at my church at all! This is very serious because I don’t want to settle for a non Christian. Some of my sisters are dating non Christians because of this

[candicecorbin]

There are single men at my church but all immature or not a good match, the 5 ive met, the more i get to know them the less i like them.. most are not financially stable enough to support a marriage and children and claim to want to have children... its not so much about his job and career but the lack of ambition seen that he would need to support a family and be the sole provider.

[puremercury]

As far as I know, there are no single women between college age and late-middle age divorcee/ widow in my church (Episcopal parish in suburban Austin). We single Christian men have problems, too!

[mante]

Hi, I was wondering if you could do a video about boundaries. How can both the husband and the wife make sure their boundaries are enforced/respected while staying Biblical? God bless you!

[worthybookjourney]

Do you have advice for single guys that can't find Godly wives? At 35 and 33 my sons find the pool really small. Dating apps are scary but trythey are trying them out of desperation. Church has women that are too young. Work is just older clients. Fearing God just doesn't have marriage in His plan for both of my sons. And they do desire it.

[BunnyWatson-kw]

At 0:26. The woman in this message just wants to stay in her comfort zone. The probability of some new man moving into the area and attending her church is very low. Plus her standards may be very high for a husband. She needs to get out of the comfort zone and date outside of her church. That would include live and online dating. She would also need to marry a "Mr. Good Enough" rather than "Mr. Perfect" as a husband.

[AudraT]

Generally good advice, however when you have 20 single women and only 2 guys (and most of the girls are probably interested in them), that doesn't help your chances. And this is true across many churches in my religion as I have traveled or networked to many. Lots of women and hardly any men. The math just says there are going to be a lot of leftover single women. Also, image the competition in that type of environment. You've got to be the prettiest, smartest, most confident, skinny, and of course, if the guy has the proper expectations, surrendered to Christ. And then think about what this could do to the men... a sea of pretty, talented, dedicated single women all competing for your affection. Some "Christian" single guys let this go to their head and they play the field. Get attention from one girl, with no intention, get bored, and move on to the next. And since there's so many women in churches across the US, there's almost no consequences for him as he could always find more unsuspecting women. Or, in a much less nefarious reason, if there are tons of single women, the guy doesn't feel like he's in any rush. Time is on his side more than the woman, especially when you consider child rearing. Men have additional years biologically to produce children. Women are a whole different story.
It just seems like there are always more women than men in the church. I don't understand it. I wish people knew why and knew how to fix it so that more men come back into the church.

[diyallthings]

Please what can you say about Alpha female and beta male relationship ?

[Joshuaeway]

Why should we ask men to help us in our Life with "our" purpose when our Purpose comes from God?
Why not talk to the Father in Heaven whom is only our Spiritual Father of the things we want instead of men?

[baj]

I know this is possibly the most offensive thing to say in our feminist and egalitarian culture, but the Moral Law of the Bible clearly permits multiple women to share a husband.

Perhaps there is a wise and godly man in the church who could possibly lead, protect, provide for, and cherish two wives.

I'll agree that it probably isn't ideal and that Christian men probably shouldn't crave it. Had Adam never fallen, it might have never been necessary, but in this post Genesis 3 world, the God Bible clearly treats polygyny as legitimate marriage and never ever treats it as adultery or sexual immorality.

Do an in depth Hebrew word study on the word "adultery" and you will find out that it isn't quite what we have been taught.

Take a look at what 1st Kings 15:5 says about king David.

"David did what was right in the eyes of the LORD and did not turn aside from anything that he commanded him all the days of his life, except in the matter of Uriah the Hittite." (ESV)

This is the same David who was married to Michal, Ahinoam, Abigail, Maacha, Haggith, Abital, and Eglah (plus some more). None of that was adultery. Those were all legitimate marriages.

When David took another man's wife (Bathsheeba wife of Uriah) he committed adultery and was severely rebuked by God. (2nd Samuel 12).

On the other hand God Himself had happily given David multiple wives prior to the adultery and would have been willing to give him even more (2nd Samuel 12:8).

Abigail was a wise and godly, woman and she happily married David when he was already married to Michal and probably Ahinoam.

It beats being an old single cat lady, or marrying a man who doesn't belong to Jesus Christ.

Praise be to God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit for our salvation in our Lord and Glorious Savior Jesus Christ!

[mante]

Hi, I was wondering if you could do a video about boundaries. How can both the husband and the wife make sure their boundaries are enforced/respected while staying Biblical? God bless you!