Breaking the Cycle: 3 Truths About Unrequited Love

If you’ve experienced unrequited love, you need to learn these 3 lessons:

1️⃣ Prolonged attachment can lead to a cycle of self-doubt and lowered self-esteem:

Holding onto feelings for someone who doesn’t reciprocate can start a harmful cycle of questioning your worth and desirability. You may start to wonder why you’re not “enough” for the other person to love back, which chips away at your self-esteem. The danger lies in allowing those feelings to define your self-worth.

2️⃣ You have projected a fantasy onto them, loving the idea of them, not the actual person:

In unrequited love, there’s a tendency to idealize the person you’re interested in, filling in the gaps with perfect traits and scenarios, making the fantasy of them more alluring than the reality. The emotional investment in this fantasy complicates the ability to see the situation for what it is. This truth requires acknowledging that the intense emotions you’re experiencing are partially self-generated.

3️⃣ Deep down, you fear genuine intimacy. Pursuing false hope keeps you protected:

Clinging to unrequited love can be a way to avoid the vulnerability that comes with real intimacy. Pursuing someone unavailable can be a subconscious way to avoid the risks of real closeness, where true intimacy demands openness, trust, and the possibility of real pain through rejection and loss. This dynamic is paradoxical because, on the surface, it seems like pursuing someone you love would make you more vulnerable to hurt. However, in reality, unrequited love keeps you at a safe distance from the deeper challenges of intimate relationships. Courage is required to move towards relationships where mutual love and vulnerability are possible.

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[Skeetoo]

Amateur psychologizing. People who fear intimacy would not feel love _at all_; that's the surefire protection.