when You Become Ice Cold To The Narcissist #narcissist

[tlrcarroll]

The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference and indifference drives narcissists insane.

[ElvirasTarot]

Yes, when you've been disappointed over and over again, you come to the realisation it's just going to get worse. You feel there's no commitment, just pretense, which makes it much easier to detach.

[kruttikahegde]

Yeah. I used to feel so bad after arguments with my mother, and I would do my best to be cheerful the next day, keep myself small if possible to not aggravate her, to do everything she asked without complaining, even though she would continue to be aggressive or passive aggressive towards me. I would keep trying to not let the hurt continue, to not fall for her provocations because we had already had a big fight. For many years it was like that until last year there was this argument, which was completely unnecessary and i felt stupid for having spoken my mind, so i went to tell her that im sorry for having spoken my truth at all... but when i first said sorry her eyes cleared up so much, like there was this sense of relief in her that i was saying sorry, but I had seen her do that thing before that no matter how she provoked me and threw tantrums and gave silent treatement she would expect an apology from me only. And i saw that that day as well the relief that im apologising and i turned the table on her saying "im not sorry for what i said to you, I'm only sorry because i bothered saying it at all, when I know that you wont hear me" and her face shut down completely after that and she did not speak to me for a week. And it was at tht point in my life i realised why she would keep up that anger for days and why she would behave passive aggressive. She knew that if I came to say sorry then i would spend the next few days being my best behaviour, being obedient .. it gave her a sense of control which she likes a lot.. I realised that my whole life she has manipulated me in that way.. and to accept that was so painful to me.. I began to truly shut down on her after that. So whenever she throws a tantrum like that now, i dont go to her, nor do i let it bother me. I straight up tell my dad, im not going to apologise, she was wrong with what she did, if shes expecting an apology and shes going to be silent till she gets it well she wont get it, and she might as well keep up the silent treatement ..because its not bothering me

[SusanRenee]

Absolutely. Pushed to the point of indifference and there’s no turning back. ❤

[beverlytaylor]

Detachment, indifference, and the sense of self preservation.

[andrewsmith]

This happened to me after a massive blow up on the narcissist. Now I have no feelings towards a narcissist. No reaction. No contact.

[Empress_Energyyy]

Yes it’s exhausting. Like a kid that never grows up. Who has time for drama. We just tryna survive out here.

[Artlover]

Yes, it's a much needed realization and acceptance.

[shirlspark_stardust]

Yep I became indifferent to a point I kicked him out of my place and filed for divorce don't need no demon around me or in my life

[misspapillon]

That's how he knew it was over. He started pulling the suicide card and I finally told him I would call someone to help him but I wouldn't stay anymore.

[RKX_Errant]

My bags were packed and I was moving them outside the door. The narc stood 6 feet away and called out, "I love you." (Four hours earlier we were a screaming match) I never stopped moving my bags, I never looked in their direction. I remember thinking to myself that the narc saw the statement as the magic words they should say, and nothing more. When I did not acknowledge them, they repeated it again. I simply kept going. I surprised myself because I did not feel anything. Not even pity for them. But the narc had to be center stage in the last moments of the final act. Again, not surprising.

[alexismerrilldragonqueen]

Becoming INDIFFERENT to the narcissist is the biggest game changer. You no longer care about them! It's honestly the best place to be since the narc can no longer reach you emotionally anymore. You have cut the cord to their supply! The old narc I was dealing with hoovered me over the holidays and I said not one word. 😂 They don't understand how they could mean nothing to me anymore. They should have thought about that during the big discard.

[nabihahabibullah]

When you realize the reality of the evil Narcissist, it is unfair to continue with a demon who doesn't spare a moment to destroy you and damage everything you love . You might play the game of believing him till you save yourself and your children .

[RachelAnn]

I’m pretty embarrassed to say it’s taken me 30 years, but I’m pretty much there.

[theresaandrade]

I recently told someone in property management that I didn't have time for her excuses. I was going on vacation and she was excusing disregard for security breaches in the building and looking at me with disapproval. Well, I am paying for this, so why do I need your approval. I am fed up with users.

[maryakumu]

I love how everyone is learning how to walk away from people who DO NOt deserve us ❤

[dariusrao]

Dear Danish Sir, you have released me from the lifelong trauma bonding mentality that had affected my life ....from narcisstic parents to partner ...and made me think clearly for myself and start taking care of myself....in short, you have given me a fresh lease of life....and for this you will always be in my prayers....the fact that you managed to develop so much clarity inspite of having such a sadistic narc of a father is truly commendable....your vlogs have so much clarity, empathy and one can understand each and every point so clearly...the best vlog for narc victims

[desertrose]

Yes! Thats where I am now! Its like he's no longer my Narc husband but now he's more like an Annoying brother to me. Since I know ALL of his tactics now. I'm unFazed. He's like a bad weather. But thats it! I no longer personalize what he does. But you know what..I'm suddenLy Hungry for Life! I swear!! My body, senses have aWakened and I want to do sOoo many things, feel good experiences, meet new people, etc.

[mishaanton]

They remind me of Shakespear's "all the world's a stage". The path narc is always playing a part. Leave these people if your being abused. For your sake of your health and mental well being.

[pjmrees]

Yes. Definitely. I told him he's the boy who cried wolf. The behavior NEVER changes.