Before & After Shaken Baby Syndrome

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[sweetxiuga.]

Please remember that if you are THAT frustrated with a child, you need to take responsibility and put the child somewhere safe while you take a moment alone to calm down. Nothing is worth ruining a child’s life like this, and I’m really sorry for your loss. Thank you for spreading awareness ❤

[neverknowsjess]

My mom was a social worker for 25 years. She always told moms that if they were overwhelmed with their babies there was nothing wrong with placing the baby in their crib and stepping away for a moment. She’d tell moms to scream into a pillow, sob on their beds and just let it all out. As long as the baby is in a safe location, its okay to let them cry for a few minutes. Sometimes they can sense mom’s stress and won’t calm down until mom is calmer too.

[lovmibyz]

Everyone told me "No you HAVE to hold him if he is crying! He NEEDS you!"

I became overwhelmed one night when he would NOT stop crying no matter what i did and found myself gripping him too tight as the stress began to become too much.

I immediately set him down in his crib. Walked out and closed the door to sit in the living room to cry and breathe for a few minutes and when I got back he was not crying as bad and I picked him up again and tried again. Turned out he was just overtired and was struggling to fall asleep.

I always say to new moms, "if you feel overwhelmed even a little, put baby down in their crib and walk away for a minute or so to breathe. It will be ok. Baby will be fine."

[Shannon-ej]

The biological father who did this to that innocent baby should spend the rest of his life in prison

[emeliedeery]

A baby cannot die from crying, they can die from your frustration. If it feels to be getting too much and you fell that anger coming on, put the baby in a safe place, take a moment or call someone to help out

[SenegalSunflower]

A baby cries because it is the only way it has to communicate. Precious angel, I'm so sorry.

[katieedwards]

When I had my son 14 months ago the hospital reiterated SO MANY TIMES how important it is to put your baby down somewhere safe and WALK AWAY when you’re frustrated. It’s better to let them cry it out for a short period than to become so overwhelmed you do something you can never take back.

[randomvintagefilm]

I can't handle abuse of kids, seniors or animals. These people should never get out of jail. They are too dangerous to be in our society.

[abbycadabbie]

After I had my son, the doctor literally told my ex husband and I that it is far better to do everything you can for the child and if they are still crying to the point it upsets you, make sure they are safe, and go take a few minutes to yourself outside to breathe and calm down. It gets overwhelming being a new parent, but you have to understand that you are still doing your best. It is the responsible thing to step away when you get that stressed out. Reach out to people and be honest.

[bethkelsey]

My grandson cried much, and he was clearly distraught. I bought him a sound machine that you could put by his ear. It made the same shh shh sound that people make with their kids. It gave us all a chance to breathe because it worked like a charm! Most important is to walk away and come back settled!

[ariannakirt]

I have a similar story. My oldest brother Trenton was shaken when he was baby and was later adopted by my parents. We had ten years with him before he passed. His life was very difficult. He couldn’t do anything on his own. He had a ton of health complications and my parents had to take shifts during the night to stay up with him. I’m grateful for the time we had with him and I miss him everyday.

[caw]

It takes a person with a profoundly kind and generous heart to share details of such a painful, personal loss in hopes of preventing another from suffering a similar loss. Your baby daughter may no longer be physically with you, but it is obvious that she graces you with enormous strength and love every single day. I'm sorry for your loss, and thank you for your strength of character and commitment to do what's right and good in her memory.

[thislittlethingcalledlifea]

Unforgivable…..From mother to mother I’m so incredibly sorry for your irreplaceable loss. What a beautiful sweet angel…..

[jojodogface]

Id like to have a few moments alone in a room to shake the father

[soulstice]

The best advice I was ever given as a new mom was "it's ok for your baby to cry" it was another mother that visited me after my first baby was born she explained that if I ever felt overwhelmed by the baby crying it was ok to put him down somewhere safe and step out of the room to take a breather until I felt safe enough to go back in.
To any new parents, please, if your baby is crying and not stopping it's so much better to put them down to cry than to keep trying to calm them down and getting worn out. Especially when you haven't had a lot of sleep. There are several studies that show sleep deprivation can make your brain act the same way as someone who is intoxicated. If you are sleep deprived you need to take extra steps to take care of yourself so you can properly take care of your baby even if that means the baby is left to cry for a while.

[rachelpound]

Beautiful nurse at the hospital after I gave birth to my first: “when you’re frustrated and sleep deprived and you’re on your last nerve and you’ve tried all the things, set the baby down I’m a safe place, walk away for five minutes, reset, come back and try again. Crying for a little bit won’t hurt your baby, you being frustrated will. Set him down and walk away.”

Two weeks later I’ve had maybe 45mins of sleep scattered over three days and I felt the frustration and helplessness rise in my chest - not at my baby, but at myself because I felt like I was failing cuz I couldn’t figure out what he wanted. I felt my arms tense and then I heard that nurse’s voice in my head and felt my whole body lock. I bent at the waist to put him in the bassinet because my arms were locked and walked away for a few minutes.

Turns out he was stressed cuz I was and as soon as I left the room he straight up went to sleep. (Didn’t happen every time but did happen that time.)

Please have kindness for yourself and your babies, you both deserve it. Take a minute- cry, scream, get it out. Then go back and try again, because you do love that tiny bean, you’re exhausted and it’ll be okay.

[tbubble]

I just had a baby. He's 4 months old. He wines allll the time, he doesn't like pacifiers, he doesn't know how to self sooth himself to sleep but his smile is my everything. He is a high needs baby. I get frustrated all the time, but not once have I ever been verbal or shaken him. That's the most evil thing you can do. They don't ask to be here, but they demand your love and attention, as any living thing would do. God bless that child.

[ErinEspada]

Your picture with her at 3m old is so precious, I’m am so sickened her biological dad is the reason her life was snuffed so short.. She’s with you as a guardian angle, that baby girl loved you so much and I am so sorry for your loss!

[Chanatx]

Infants and small children can definitely cause stress. What parents need to know is that it's normal to have these type of feelings, but when you feel this way you absolutely need to leave the room, walk away, call somebody, or whatever it takes until you are able to get under control. I think this mother is doing such a great thing bringing awareness to people showing the reality of what happens when you don't walk away.

[AliceArnaud-zssq]

it is very difficult when a baby is born with a disability, but so much more heartbreaking when it is caused by abuse. Rest in peace little angel.