4 Great Conversation Starters | Small Talk Tips and Tricks

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Aaron Marino of alpha m. says that small talk is the key to managing the act of conversing with new people and a critical component of interaction. We need small talk. It's like boxing- you start by feeling him / her out. It's a dance, not knocking someone out. Small talk is peppering them with punches.

Four Favorite Conversation Starters

1. "When you're not working, what do you like doing?" - hobbies (passion) are something that people can talk about all day long and they get excited doing it. Conversation will get rolling, and eventually they reciprocate the question.

2. "How's your day going?" - hopefully they elaborate more than 'fine'. If not, go to #3.

3. "You have any plans this weekend?" - if they haven't engaged at this point, this person 'sucks' and find someone else.

4. Lead with a compliment; however, the only appropriate aspect to compliment is something that they're wearing otherwise it could be taken the wrong way!

[Salvage]

"Dude, you have the softest hands"

Sounds like something you should say to a policeman when you're being searched.

[MrJimmy]

If you really want to have an interesting conversation with someone, ask them about their religion and politics. Usually always ends in an argument

[olly_evans]

For most teens its just, "Did you do the Homework?"

[bexxxify]

"How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice. Hello, my name's Andrew"

[Mr.MSTER]

I met a new person today. I done a little dance in front of her and jabbed her a few times. She slapped me and walked away. What did I do wrong?

[Vlr]

As an introverted person with little small talk experience, I was really needing something like this :D It's not that I am nervous around people, but I don't have any conversation subjects to think of.

[qhr]

Step 1 : choose the girl you want.
Step 2 : knock her out.
Step 3 : put her on your shoulders and run !

[ChaozDealer]

i like to start my conversations with nr 4
- wow you got really nice skin, i would like to wear it sometime..

[cyberboomgaming]

Me : "Nice clothes"
Other person : "We're wearing the same uniform"
Me : "Oh"

[ludacrisdt]

Thanks for being a mentor to young men and many other men on becoming the best version of ourselves.

[KozaiDesign]

Summary:
1) So when you are not working, what do you like to do?
2) So how's your day going? (Hoping for a better reply then "fine") if not then,
3) Got any big plans this weekend?
4) Lead with a compliment (possibly something she/he's wearing)

[diegoyanez]

I've always fancied the FORD method. Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams. You don't have to hit them all in order, but it's a good way to remember how to get people to talk, especially women.

[jaeric]

1. My hobbies include binge watching Netflix for 8 straight hours and maybe going hiking 3 or 4 times a year (neither carry much weight in a conversation, unless they binge watch the same shows)
2. My day is usually pretty average, not much to talk about
3. I almost never have plans, and if I do, it's probably something small and bland with family members
4. compliments (even the small ones) usually make me uncomfortable and self conscience.

I'm also a very quiet person, so my approach is a little different. I stay in the background of a small group of friends and maybe interject a few small words here and there, then once someone else starts a conversation I can piggy back on it. The nice part about being quiet is that people are usually pleasantly surprised when I speak. The downside is that people with short attention spans write me off as boring as soon as we meet and some people never hear me at all because they don't expect me to have anything to say.

[GaryLiseo]

Asking what they're doing that weekend sounds more like an initiation to ask them on a date that weekend rather than just having conversation

[ketaman]

Video on how to talk to a person you already know all about?

[thenotsew]

Person 1: "How's your day going?"

Person 2: "Fine"

Person 1: "Got any plans for the weekend?"

Person 2: "No"

I am person 2 :(

[paragon]

It's called FORM.
family
occupation
recreational hobbies
message(what you really wanted to ask or talk about)

[LinnaGORE]

i know this video is about conversation starters, but thing is, people complain about being tired of small talk, about the usual, daily conversations, about the routine, but when they get the opportunity to discuss deeper problems, to talk about philosophy, to think about arguments, and to express themselves, they get intimidated and limit themselves to "i'm too tired for this", or "i don't wanna talk about this right now", or even "they wouldn't understand, so why even try?". why don't you understand that there is no perfect time for anything, the world won't open up unless you do. get any opportunity that you can and talk about anything, as much as you can. don't be scared, open up, give yourself a chance to shine.

[Mtmessick]

This is three years old and STILL absolute gold. Thanks Alpha! Really appreciate your videos, it has helped me in life more times than none!

[caiheang]

What's your hobby? ---> "Sleeping."
How's your day going? ---> "Going fine."
Big plans this week? ---> "Nothing much."
Your shirts fits you real well! ---> "Okay thanks."

Do you believe I'm going to slap your face now? ---> "OUCH!!"

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