The Sinister Core of Love-Bombing Explained...

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Love-bombing sets the foundation for all the manipulation and abuse that occurs during the narcissistic abuse cycle.

During the love-bombing phase, it will seem that you’ve found a true soul connection. This is when the manipulator lays the romance on thick. They’ll make you feel wonderful and loved beyond anything you’ve ever experienced.
But once they get an inkling that you’re in love and bonded to them, that’s when all the words of love and affection stop. Now, you’re flooded with messages that you’ve changed. You’re no longer attractive or interesting.

Whenever there’s a problem in the relationship, it’s always your fault somehow, even though THEY’RE the one who lied, cheated, and betrayed.
Without the love-bombing phase, the rest of the abuse cycle generally isn’t possible. The whole design of narcissistic abuse is to get you hooked on them, then suddenly withdraw and devalue you. This is precisely how they manipulate you and run the circus.

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Your friend on the journey. xo ❤️

Kim

[kirstyharkett]

Well said, this happend to me they make you feel so special than take it all away, sometimes you can loose yourself and it drains you

[dougd]

20 months of it. Not stupid any more. Thanks to this beautiful woman.

[Juliamh]

I was love bombed BIG time when I was 20 & began dating a man who was 25. It destroyed me in the end after 2 years of this.. 12 years later, I recently started dating a man and immediately recognized that this is exactly what was happening and I cut him off after just a couple weeks. The way he flipped his personality when he realized I wasn’t falling for his BS genuinely scared me and I’m so proud of my younger self for learning the lesson that saved me NOW. Love bombing has to be one of the most difficult forms of manipulation to not only spot, but to say “no, not good enough”.

[Queenofsarcasm]

He claimed he was Inlove with me and then one day decided hey ima break this girls heart today and I was devastated because I had convinced myself because of the attention he was giving that I loved him too. We didn’t talk for about two days after that, one of which I spent crying and the next I was like wow I don’t actually like him at all, I just liked the attention he was giving me and I was relieved we were just friends after that. Then he decided he was gonna play with me and pretend he was moved on and I said I support u with this other girl so then he put it back on me and hit me with the “ wow so ur really over me huh” as if he wasn’t the one who ended the situationship. Then after every time he made his own reality in which we were dating I told him no I didn’t want that and mind u he ended it first, he said he was gonna k””” himself if I didn’t go out with him. And from there on out it was basically I love u and then Im gonna ignore u and stress u out and then I can’t live without u to I’m busy ur bothering me and it was a vicious cycle for months until I couldn’t take it anymore and cut him off. Never am I letting smth like that go on for so long ever again.

[MarlonBrando]

Just got out of a relationship with someone who did this to me, she aggressively pursued me and wanted to move quickly, her being a pretty girl I gave in and quickly fell for her, at first everything was great, then suddenly her behavior shifted, she started being dodgy with me, would go days with no communication and would act like nothing happened when we would speak or meet again. I suspected there were other guys potentially involved but kept giving her the benefit of the doubt. I kept sensing her drift further and further from me but she kept insisting we were fine and she just wanted to slow down. Finally she admitted that in her own words "I wasn't the only player in the game", I felt gutted. Even though we were only together a short while it felt a lot longer, we told each other almost everything about ourselves, had almost everything in common as well, music, movies, etc... She intensely declared things to me early on almost as if she desperately wanted me to believe what she was saying. I won't lie I really miss her, but as I said to her in return "I'm not going to be just another player in the game".

[lamentate]

Correct. It is the beginning of the abuse cycle.

[kennethkunz]

very very wise observation; they only put in investment in the initial love-bombing seed-planting stage. It always profoundly puzzled me where she actually 'went' when the concerted devaluing stage started. That was a different devil altogether.

[lourdesmartinez]

This is a great reminder. Get to know ppl and don’t believe everything they say. Make sure that what they say is aligned with their actions. That’s how I got rid of one real quick. You know when they don’t care about you, because that’s how they make you feel.

[Silverlining]

Exactly the whole truth!
Well said Kim 💫

[bluntweirdo]

Nowadays if I have too much in common with someone, I leave. That is not normal.

If the person has documented proof of same interests that’s different, I am not paranoid. But the soulmate effect? someone’s lying most likely. either to themselves or me. 😅

[csc]

They feel they "earned " your life with paybacks to them.

[beautymuse]

Well said! Also, as a hairdresser, i love your hair and makeup! All well done!

I don't know what the early part of a healthy relationship would look like? At least now i know that the love-bombing is not the "good sign" i always thought it was!

[Mocheesemoeugene]

Loved your short .This is the complexity we are faced with in this world because to let your guard down and be vulnerable is a natural healthy process of getting to know someone. And then to have to second-guess them and scrutinize them oh boy. This usually when the love bomb talks you out of it mentally, so you go with the flow, even til the flow drifts you off the cliff.BLEZZ#KEEP DA CHANGE

[mammap]

So true, thank you...exactly what I needed to hear today <3

[billydeverauex]

YOU KNEW ALL OF THIS, AND YET HERE WE ARE 😊😊😊

[meanimeconingles]

My mother. One day she would even cook with me and the other day I'm a demon to her.
It's energy draining

[MayanPrincess]

I so wish I knew it was narcissism back in 2014 when the abuse was at its worse. It’s funny that I would say she was so different from everyone else. I couldn’t believe how she listened to me, nurtured me, made me feel like the most beautiful and sexy woman in the world. Then I got married and it all went away in the blink of an eye. It’s scary how fast the mask falls once they know you’re trapped

[m.e.]

100% accurate video, based on my personal experience with narc ex. She is a demon whom I allowed to destroy me.

[gumdrop]

i’ve been going on dates with him for like3-4 days he already talks about wanting kids with me and marrying me and he always talks about a life together & he already said I love you (HELP ME IM 19 IM NEW TO THIS? HES 21 WHAT DO I DO?) i like him but i don’t like his lovebombing AT ALL.

[Faithsavage]

The question is do they actually want to love in the beginning? (a diagnosed narcissist said they do) but then they get tired of it.