POV: you did something very bad

[rubygiselle]

i have always been overwhelmed by guilt since i was a young child, it got very bad for a while. i’d feel guilty about everything. i’d still think about something i did when i was six. i’d stay awake at night thinking about all the things i had done that were slightly selfish, just a little bit out of order. it’s calmed down now, thank god.
edit: uh it got worse again lmao.

[rock-ujku]

Your channel really is something special to me

[tubaboytom]

Ya know, I did a really shitty thing years ago. I was set at a vulnerable state at the time, but my actions had hurt some people. I never thought I could love again without feeling guilt. Met a girl and decided to be completely honest with her about my actions. I was fortunate enough that she could trust me. I've had a moment where I could've ruined everything between the two of us, but I remember my past actions and chose to never repeat that. It's very relieving to know that my past doesn't define who I am. I can still be a good person.

EDIT: If you've done something to mess up beyond redemption, all you can do is wait. Guilt is just a mental imprisonment to teach us right and wrong. Your mind will determine when your sentence is done and when you can be a free person. Give it time and focus on yourself for a while.

[dramacomum]

spent the whole day literally on fight or flight response out of sheer guilt and regret for something that i did months ago. it feels like ill never feel peace again.

[somedudeooo]

We need a "POV: you try to control others by claiming the moral high ground" because that might be even more relevant to our time.

[ThatGuyMN]

It feels like a constant battle between wanting to fit into a very good morality, and knowing that you never will. You are flawed. Maybe you’re flawed beyond redemption. Maybe you really are the worst. Maybe you are the bad guy. But until you can let that title go, and the world around you let’s it go, you will always feel imprisoned in this version of yourself. Some people are beyond redemption. Some people don’t think they’ve done anything wrong. But truly repented people know they’ve done wrong and want to own up to it; but are held back by this idea that if they are forever stained, they might as well embrace being the “bad guy”

[CasuallyTrash]

HOly shit, this video is excellently timed.

I got into an argument earlier today with a long time friend. One of few in that category. I said some things I probably shouldn't have, and he did to.

To no help, I was left to think about this throughout a 5 hour close shift speaking to barely anyone. I bounced around from perspective to perspective, contemplating what had happened in such a short time trying to come to a verdict of whether or not I was innocent or guilty. But the part of this video where you discussed the capacity to live with yourself after the bad thing you have done really resonated with me.
To be honest, the las thing I want to be seen as is a liability. I dont want to be seen as someone who is likely to fly off the rails. To snap back and escalate things again. I can't confidently say I wont either. I guess to some extent I may be trying to justify my actions by imagining myself as the bigger person. Putting resonsibility on myself to make myself think that my emotional tolerance is greater than it is despite that not necessarily being true.

I don't know how to move forward, but at least you have helped me to articulate my thoughts. It may be petty, but I feel like I'm on the brink of total social solitude again. A point that I havent been at for years. I don't want to be here and I don't know if im right about anything.

[aksy]

Dr K, HealthyGamerGG (which I extremely highly recommend for anyone going through a tough time or just in general wanting to get better at life) recently made a video titled 'Can you change who you are?'

In the video, he explains that we tend to think in terms of balancing things out, but that's not how life works. Meaning that just because a surgeon saves 99 lives, doesn't mean he is gonna be let off the hook for running someone over while drunk driving. His 99 'good' deeds don't make the one 'bad' deed okay.

Every action has its own independent consequences. So instead of looking back trying to judge if you have been a good person or a bad person, focus on making your next action a good one.

And you keep repeating that for life.

[panzerplayz]

your channel has helped me so much. practically saved me from suicide. Thankyou!

[niklas]

I think it is justifyable to make (almost) any mistake, as long as you learn from it.

We are flawed beings, and society wants us to compare ourselves to something perfect, which is probably why many of us feel so guilty all the time.

But instead we should just see making mistakes as an integral part of life, one which nobody can escape from.

The guilt might never truly vanish, but it is just a constant reminder for us to improve ourselves.

[Yuckod]

you don't know how amazing timing this is for me. I always feel like I am an awful manipulative person but this really helped me recognize my mistakes and accept them and my ability to change.

[Callummullans]

Really important video addressing the ugly truth. You can’t take back wrong doings all you can do is try to make amends by recognising that you were wrong and work towards a better version of yourself. You can’t make people forgive you as it is ultimately up to them and trust isn’t elastic it’s fluid if they do then be grateful for that but making amends isn’t to be forgiven it’s to acknowledge the truth.

[rainershea]

The solution a lot of people come to is to hurt themselves, whether unconsciously (like through substance abuse) or consciously (like through actual self-harm). The mentality is that you deserve to be punished. But when you realize how counterproductive the rage you keep feeling towards yourself is, you can give up the self-directed rage, and with it the self-abuse.

[danielhuelsman]

How do you cope with being blocked for something you regret, because you can't apologize to the injured party?

[tearsintherain]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. Sometimes I forget I am not alone with the guilt I carry, and sometimes I too forget I am not absolved from it just because it makes perfect sense to me how I did not mean for things to happen the way they did

[thefisherking]

This comment section brings me so much comfort. I fucked up last week, big time, and in those moments it can feel like you’re the only one who has ever done something bad. That everyone else is good, and you’re the evil failed experiment. I think it’s because people are afraid of talking about their wrongdoings, coming across as bad people, even if just to strangers, so they never mention what they’ve done wrong. Hearing people make these admissions that they, too, do bad things is so, so incredibly comforting. It reminds me that I’m not evil, just human, and that’s all I can hope to be.

[whiterice]

I used to have a victims mentality even when I was the antagonizer. It took me very far down and I ended up having to hit rock bottom at a young age to realize this about myself. My parents took me to a counselor for almost 2 years before I ever showed improvement with my victims mentality. I think a lot of people never realize they have it, and especially today, nobody seems to see it as a problem. I still struggle from time to time, but I'm much better off and much happier being able to accept when I'm wrong, and more recently I've started to grow a back bone for myself and also understand when to stand my ground a bit better. It's a process that takes a lot of work and thinking about things you don't want to

[Regredt]

Thank you. Two months ago I did something really bad. I'm still trying to recover from that, to be a better person than then. Sometimes I feel that the trust I've lost from others is too much to bear.

[cIoudbank]

sometimes it feels like the only punishment for the guilt is suicde

[Ryan-Nowicki]

Its hard to fathom how many people can be helped by your content. Please keep it coming for all the people who dont even know how great your videos are or how much they need them