What to Do On The First Date With Ex? by Clay Andrews

So finally its happening! You're going on your first date with your ex!
It's so exciting!

Wait but.....

Are you stressing out about what to do on your first date?
Are you looking for things to say on your first date?
What are the topics to avoid?
Should you talk about getting back together?
What if things between you two have changed?
What if it hasn't ????

GAH! so many questions! Now you're in a corner pulling out your hair over your first date!

Okay first breathe!

This is just your first date, you don't have to have everything figured out.

If anything you should have zero expectations on how you want things to go.

Most people write to us because they feel that things should go a certain way on their first date.

After the date they expect to have their exes back in their arms.

Confessing their love.

The truth is-- it probably wont happen and its totally okay if it doesn't happen.

A lot has changed since you both broke up. You're both at very different stages in your life.

So this isn't just about your ex figuring out if he/she wants you back in their life.

Believe it or not you get to decide too!

You get to decide if you want your ex in your life!
What if your ex's life is really messed up right now.
What if they got in to drugs!
Or what if they are just sleeping around right now and not ready to commit?!

What if you decide this person isnt right for you?

See what I mean? This is why first dates with your ex should be approached the same way you would approach dating a new person.

You wouldn't plan your wedding on your first date with a new person right?
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Exactly.
The focus should be on connecting and having fun
:)

I hope this helps to clarify things.

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Clay Andrews
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[roge]

You’re very unique apart from the other experts. You’re actually being realistic and how to approach these situations in the right manner

[asadgiku]

Tomorrow we're going to meet face to face after 1.5 months of NC

[Gansekommando]

I like how this was posted on my birthday lol

[owPapercutz]

Not sure if you’ll see this, but I’ve connected with my ex after about 5 months of no contact. Long story short, we were together for a short time before I got deployed and we tried to continue the relationship. A month and a half later, she said she couldn’t take the distance so I instantly went no contact.

Fast forward to now, I’m in the best shape of my life, I’ve knocked out some classes and I feel mentally healthy. I texted her last week if I could take her out for some coffee/food and she said she was down and it would be nice to see me again! I’ll be coming back home in a couple of weeks, so I still have to wait a little longer and I told myself I wouldn’t contact her again till I’m home.

Anyways, I’m trying my best not to get my hopes up, but it’s hard to not think about the day I see her. What is your insight on my situation? Thanks if you read this!

[brisk]

How long is a reasonable amount of time to pull back and disconnect? Days or weeks?

[Veltricia]

Hello mr. Clay. Yesterday my ex and i met up. We ate lunch and we roamed around the mall afterwards and bought some donuts. It was supposed to be a friendly meet up but he got intimate, putting his arm around my shoulder, or his hand on my waist, and being super sweet as if we hadn't broken up. He even kissed my cheek. I didn't expect him to behave that way at all. We had a great time together. My problem is... He's in a rebound (with our mutual friend) and when i got home, i realized i basically helped him cheat and now i felt kind of guilty (although they say theh currently dont have a label).

When he first put his arm around my shoulder, my thought really was "i could stop him but i just want us to have a good time." i am so confused right now because i feel like the "other woman" but at the same time i think i shouldn't feel guilty because the rebound isnt supposed to matter. Or should it??

[leadersimmondsgeneral]

Lmaooo I love your vid :'D ur hilarious

[KuysDonTV]

my ex contact me during no contact rule, and she was asking for a coffee date we had a small conversation through text do you think if we met she will open for a closure almost a month ago our breakup. and if she will ask for a closure do you think I still have a chance?she said earlier on our conversation its been a month since we last saw each other, we ended our 5yrs relationship before and the only reason she gave to me is she was already tired, no cheating issue or so on. ps.she dump me

[jayfountains]

i did 2.5 months of no contact and now i have a get together with my ex next week. i wondering if i should remind my ex a day before or day of to confirm are get together?