The Tinder Swindler & How the WOMEN Conned Themselves

What if I told you that because of advances in neuroscience and psychology, I can prove to you beyond the shadow of a doubt that the women featured in the Netflix documentary The Tinder Swindler conned themselves?

In today’s video, I will show you how physiology, childhood, society & culture created the perfect storm for the women who dated Simon Leviev, The Tinder Swindler, to unknowingly play a part in conning themselves.

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Hi, I'm Kenny, a Coach, YouTuber, Podcaster, and Author in Phoenix, Arizona. I make videos about the strategies and tools to help you heal from emotional hurt to elevate your life. I'm an advocate for truth and healing.

[apolloreed]

Yes, I heard it. When she mention beauty and the beast, I knew she was an adult woman living a child’s fantasy of love...perfect attitude to be swindled.

[misguidedpearls]

I'm glad you're saying it
Women gotta know its dangerous to just run with emotions and fantasy...
The world is not a joke... Can cost u everything including ur life

[MettleHeartsSlay]

This is why when I talk about my ex I make sure to mention that I allowed his treatment or behavior, until I “woke up”. I always hold myself accountable for what happens to me when I’m aware of it. And it’s another reason why my children will never watch Disney movies or read the books. And not to mention Disney anything is banned in child care for the reasons that it teaches victim vs villain and false romance.

[jrt]

I love how the first woman ALREADY makes herself a fool by explaining that Disney teaches her love. Mind you in that this is within the first 5 minutes. The first 5 minutes.😑

[kwoo]

I watched Tinder Swindler this week & know I'm nearly recovered from my recent narcissist relationship because as soon as I saw him..knew/sensed immediately he was a narcissist because of his eyes..cold & empty & you described them perfectly. Reading your book currently & it's helping me tremendously- thank you🙏

[kristinab]

She was head over heels about his appearance, you can tell that. Her eyes nearly bulging out when she talks about his apparent wealth, his business and status, , his Gucci sweaters and Prada socks. She thought she nailed a big game. She would not think of saving some broke drug addict or petty criminal, I guess. And the other one, I wondered if she thought of herself as a Champagne fly, like she thought of the other girls.

[donnao]

I watched the documentary today. I couldn’t believe the decisions these women were making. I thought about your videos and noticed the traits of codependency in each woman. Wow!

[Robertperezshow]

I always wondered why so many young adult women are obsessed with Disney. The Tinder Swindler finally made it click. There are so many women that have not grown up. They pass up all the guy hoping to some day meet their prince charming.

[zeeski]

She was on Tinder for 7 years. How many good guys did she reject or swindle herself in that time, and she's not to blame? Please

[evarosas]

I learned bad living thoughts with Spanish novelas! I grew up watching these novelas where the main character is poor, innocents and has to go through turmoil, living hell, to get the man she loves. I lived that life and went through unnecessary hell for lack of wisdom and no parent support. Now, as an adult, I refuse to continue to think and live that kind of life. Thank you for your loving knowledge and support you give. I continue to gain positive vibes thanks to people like you who share your information. 💚 Happily subscribed to your channel💚

[andile]

I wasn’t going to watch this but you said: “conned themselves”. Suddenly, I couldn’t stop laughing

[nineteenfortyeight]

The fact that she interprets nervousness as a good sign was what bothered me. Lots of bad things make you nervous!

[azra]

As a woman, I can agree with everything you are stating in this video. You are wise beyond your years! Thanks for sharing!

[AFFTFOMSICHTS]

As an ex over giver you hit the nail on the head. Over Giving is absolutely a shame wound response. I was full of resentment and it took me years to figure out why. I subconsciously over gave in exchange for loyalty and validation in short term, In long term, I expected at least the ball park of reciprocation of what i was giving. If the receiver wasn’t giving me what I felt I deserved I continued to grow resentment until I couldn’t take it anymore and would cut them off cold turkey. (In which they never did-they were takers so it was the same result every time)
I lead the start of all relationships/friendships with over giving which attracts toxic ppl (chronic takers) and makes healthy ppl run for the hills. A vicious cycle i continued until I went on a self healing journey at 30.
I realized I was just as toxic as the taker but in a different way.

In hindsight, it’s not ridiculous to expect the same energy back you put in, the issue lies that you started the relationship from a place of low self worth, over giving and not expecting the same back immediately, just hoping and praying that the person will do the right thing (bc you would and you’re projecting) & see your worth from all the giving you did and reciprocate when they’re not capable of that and never were bc they’re takers with low self esteem themselves. You didn’t require it in the beginning, that’s why they leeched on to you. You believed you had to give and prove yourself to be worthy of receiving. It’s a terrible investment. You delusionally believe if you invest in others first it will make them invest back into you, giving you the validation and feeling of worthiness you’re looking for. This is not how it works at all. Instead of seeing you a generous, kind person they see you as a fool that’s easy to take advantage of. (Not 1 person I ever “invested” in gave me even a quarter back of what I did for them)
Healthy ppl with healthy self esteem don’t lead by over giving. They establish boundaries and expectations immediately and allow ppl to prove themselves to them over time then give accordingly.

[kathyalex]

This was a very informative and balanced video. Well done! It is true that the swindler should face consequences for his actions, but everyone should also try to smarten up and protect themselves from falling victim to these scams as well.

[crislegaspi]

Childhood, society, and culture are right on the nose!

[flvssb]

Thank you so much for this video. I have been working on learning about emotional mastery as soon as I realised I came from a narcissistic household where I was “the golden” child but still dealt with enormous neglect when my parents separated. I got severely depressed 5 years ago and started going to therapy. Which helped me realising I was mimicking some of my parents behaviours in relationships and I had trouble regulating my emotions due to all the unhealed trauma. Your videos have been helping me to not only identifying the role I play in unhealthy relationships but also how to take responsibility and create change. So again, thank you so much. May God bless and protect you!!

[sbuceeh]

What a gem 💎 of a channel!!! I’m truly happy you brought up this perspective. No one ever wants to take responsibility of their participation. When you’re a victim in a situation, you’re likely to fall into the same situation again.

[PungiFungi]

I have often believe victim blaming, grooming, etc etc are all terms to absolve people responsibility of their own stupid behavior. This guy was half decent looking. It was the illusion of his wealth that got them hook line and sinker.

[xlaymi]

I really appreciate the depth and balance. Pure gold here!! Your channel is going to explode!!