Can girls and guys be JUST FRIENDS?

Or do we always cross the line?

Gaz talks about how to be friends with the opposite sex dependent on your relationship status and how you feel about them. He thinks a good general rule is that the greater intimacy you have with your partner the less intimate that you should be with your friends.

Comment with whether you think ‘just friends’ can work

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[charliebown]

This is actually some of the best wisdom I’ve heard around this topic 🙌🏼🙌🏼

[letiashmercado]

Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity
1 Timothy 5:1-2 NIV

I think this is another passage from the Bible that can help on this subject. And honestly, I have to meditate on it more, personally. We are all in the same boat, dw.

[ashholland]

0:40.... this one stung for me to my friend. 😂... hang in there... one day God will pour His devine favor on us 🙏.
but very good video.. i agree and have implemented this "rule of thumb" in my life for a while now. but as a fellow single (cue the sad music.. haha) i find i can expres more and be more vulnerable to a female friend that i could a male friend. but i am aware that when i do find a partner in this beautiful life, the closeness i will share with them will be exclusive and as Gaz pointed out, the other relationships (with females) will be less in terms of being "open" with things... two 👍👍 from me

[martinarihova]

Well said Gaz, thanks! It gives me hope to see that men actually think about these things too…honour and respect are so valuable!

[jonsadler]

Yes they can but it's not advised not to spend time alone with people who are married that are the opposite sex just my opinion

[alexandertorres]

Good advice mate 💪🏻 and a great point of view

[oliverdyce]

I think most of the time men and women can't be just friends, when you're in your teens and 20s you may like to believe that you can, but as you get older you become wiser and more honest with yourself, attraction may not be there at first but can build with time, or it might be a new dress she wears that catches your eye and you start to look at her sexually. Most of the time guys do fancy the woman but won't admit it, and women do like the attention of a man, even if they don't fancy him.

[oliverdyce]

In the same way you can't serve 2 God's, you can't please 2 people. From a man's a good girlfriend will give their partner strength with their energy, but if she has a male friend some of the that energy will be sapped away from the boyfriend. Also a woman will usually submit to her man, if she is submissive around another man the other man could assert his dominance over her and may have influence over her, which will really upset the boyfriend (no man wants his girlfriend/wife dominated by another man). The men who are ok with their girlfriends/wives having male friends are usually weak man who the woman will eventually lose respect for, and then go to another man. This is because the man is effectively telling the woman "I'm ok with another man invading my territory".

[maisieannabellamatthews]

I believe you can be friends with the opposite sex. I have multiple close friendships with men and it's great!. I agree, there should be some sort of different levels of intimacy with your guy friends even before you get into a relationship because it's hard to watch someone get into a relationship after being so close and being able to talk about everything and them just not speak to you so openly anymore and you do think it is you and what have I done? so I would advise anybody to keep that in mind when becoming friends with anybody if you are really considering a relationship.
(If my spelling or grammar is off ... I am dyslexic 🤣)
Also... How are you single? 👀

[gottalent]

The goal is to be a person of honor with yourself and with others (ultimately, with God).

If you study a little psychology you will find the reason for this respect, and you will realize that sometimes without knowing it, believing that we do our best, the only thing we produce is evil, in ourselves or in others.

In short, the Bible is not just a sacred book, it is a set of knowledge that our ancestors (through God) have transmitted to us over time to protect us from the evil that we have within us and tends to confuse us towards sin (error or mistake).

It is a guide to the mistakes (sins) that were made in the past, to try not to make them again.

Sorry for Google translation. I'm from Spain and I don't know much English.

[yoxyz]

Please consider the friend who you used to be very open with and is now reduced back in time and vulnerability. Not a nice experience either when it happens to you when suddenly a lot of your friends get in relationships/marriages and you used to be one of their good friend.

[_keidrych]

😹 nope not a chance of man and woman just being friends - never seen it happen in any culture I've spent time with as strong men in God don't really think that way, and high value men certainly don't

Sure, there might be an edge case - but ladies are you willing to 1-risk it, 2-by hanging round your 'friend' put off decent men whom you could build a life with as the men will assume you are dating or friends with benefits

The most valuable thing a woman can offer a high quality man is her purity, passion, and trust in God that he will give her a man who will treasure her heart and build an estate past their grandchildren - are you prepared to risk loosing these types of men for <1% chance of having a male friend?
If your a man and peet of the 40% of men who choose to reproduce then friendship with a woman is just not on your mind.

The remaining men may not even marry, and these days less men are taking wives than any other time in history