Managing Negativity Bias Using Your Core Values (Values Pie Chart)

Your mind comes equipped with a mostly outdated survival response called a negativity bias.

That’s why no matter how good your life is, you also seems to focus primarily on the worst parts. Your brain is trying to prepare you and protect you, but sometimes the process backfires.

You can manage your negativity bias by clarifying your core values, supplemental values, and hobbies. This helps put problems into perspective.

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[LauraMonk]

Our brains, like all organs, are not wired to make us happy. Our brains are only wired to keep us safe and alive. It does that by constantly scanning for threats and danger. It could care less if we are happy. It’s our soul/awareness that cares about being happy. We have to consciously and actively work at being happy.

[HeidiTeman]

"Brains are dumb"...I couldn't agree more. Thank you for the values pie chart visualization!

[rhonmc]

PLEASE READ DR SCOTT if possible.
I just wanted to thank you for this vid (and the others). You speak of your initial thoughts about how well you did podcasts and vids as you were only starting out in bringing your passion for helping those with mental health to social media platform.
I want you to realise 100% that what YOU are giving us hardcore cases is spot on and the best to be accessed. Please don't change your style and keep provoking us to do better. I should know as i have treatment resistant Agitated Major Depressive Disorder (for over 20 years). Meds don't work. I've done ECT, TMS (both sides of brain), DBT full day weekly for a year, too many hospitalisations to count (well over 25 extended stays), other outpatient programs CBT, ACT, Support Groups & others . I literally have enough books, workbooks, notes etc to pass as a psychilogist (just kidding but it feels like it). BUT I have never put myself first and hence at 70 I feel like I'm back literally at the start. Oh yes, i have a gazillion youtube vids in folders too, still searching for the Holy Grail.
MY POINT IS i have really been around the traps and seen just about everything UNTIL i found you 2 weeks ago. IF you ever second guess yourself, please read this and KNOW that what you are providing beats EVERYTHING I've tried hands down!! Yes, you rightly mention things I've heard before but each vid puts a different slant on it, mentions ones not heard of before (because it's YOUR personal experience and we can relate) and leave out some of the easy stuff. In other words, you really nut out the important stuff to us end-of-the-liners in well put points without all the waffle other add and your honesty / casual conversation but obvious caring manner makes us sit up, take notice and even go try again. If you've read any of my other posts, they were "I have no time left at 70, what's the use, I'm in a very deep hole in living conditions etc etc. I've just got out of bed for the first time in 2 days to get some food and this vid accidentally flipped on when my hand knocked the phone screen. So I listen (again) and realise I MUST see one every day. As I sit here, I have the stirrings of trying again. Hope they keep on but remembering it's not the end for bad days to still hopen.
I'm sorry I ramble so much. I can't seem to master the short to the point the young one's do. Maybe I'm trying too hard to impress on you just HOW MUCH your work is valued. Don't change a thing please although note your podcast interview = like a fire side chat with Chris was so raw, unabridged and unscripted it was the best thing since sliced bread. When Chris sometimes slowed a little or was thinking what or how to say something, you didn't jump in and try to keep things on track and timewise. Others would have. It made Chris' information so much more valuable to us and the way you summarised sections really solidified into our brains making it easier to remember.
So as an oldie who's see it all and still lives a life if pain and suffering except maybe 1 day a fortnight when I enjoy just being able to feel numd and if I'm REALLY lucky, a smile, I want to reassure you that you ARE THE BEST. You WILL be HUGE in media and famous. It's selfish I know to hope you don't get so big you lose sight of how we love what you are doing now and how much we treasure having you "talk the talk" we need to hear and see the man who has struggled like us giving hope. Thank you ⚘️
P.s. now all you need to do is run similar channell for the elderly for I can't find anthing or anyone focusing on that. Unfortunately we are overlooked and "it's just how old people are" and "they can't change" and too hard basket. I believe the stigma of mental health in elderly (especially those of us who are neither young nor old enough to not understand). We are standing on the precipice of giving up trying.
I don't expect you'll read this but I feel a bit more optimistic now ❤

[miguellle]

It's a lot of work to have a brain😂😂😂
I love your sense of humor as well as professionalism!
Thank you for your work Dr Scott🙏🏻

[Hannah-yz]

wow, I don't really know how to communicate this in a short comment, but discovering your channel has changed the way I think so much, I actually have hope for the future now and I've started making small and meaningful changes. I wish I had access to all of this knowledge several years ago, it would have saved me from a lot of suffering, I just haven't had things explained to me so well before.

[KittyBeats]

Wow! I love the Values Pie Chart. It so clearly creates a visual of what matters to me and what doesn't. I'm constantly battling with my brain on whether I'm doing enough for my family and friends or if I'm doing a good enough job. This is a tangible tool I can use to show my brain that "Yes, I am good enough and doing enough. I'm checking all my boxes!" Thank you so much for sharing! The illustrations about the dinner plate and misaligned vehicle were also powerful too. Can definitely relate.

[PURPOSEFULYOGA]

This is how my life needs to look to feel good and productive❤thanks so much

[isabelmorel]

according to how helpful your channel is (to me anyway!) you should have hundreds of millions of subscribers!

[attheranch]

My interests and hobbies ARE my core values!

[Crysta]

I have done core value activities before. Most recently in a partial hospitalization program in March. I still don't really know though. My #1 value I came up with was stability. This is because I've never had it, but its all I want. My core value has always been family, but I feel miserable trying to support them. I want less chaos and more stability. I just want a peaceful enviornment of my own. I genuinely don't believe its possible.

[amasterofone]

What a simple and immediately applicable tool to be able to help evaluate what might be going wrong when you feel stuck/off/out of alignment. Fantastic. I'm creating mine right now and i ho estly think this could help. Thank you.

[Mgt]

This the absolute best explanation of how the brain works!
Your examples are so valuable to making the information crystal clear!
How you are able to say - this was my problem and this is how Negativity Bias and Rumination was the cause (14:26 - 14:59) makes this so understandable!
I am so grateful to you Dr. Scott!
You are helping me change my life!

[jomckee]

I love that you drew this pie chart! The messiness of it made me smile as its at the same level of my artistic ability.

[suerossiter]

I just stumbled upon you today. I watched one video, which led me to watch 3 more. I’m currently watching your video on how brains are negativity biased. This is blowing my mind (no pun intended.) i suffer from undiagnosed OCD, as well as the non-ceasing negative thoughts you describe here. It’s extremely difficult to deal with on a daily basis. Having you validate some of my issues immediately made me feel hopeful. I just always thought it was “my brain.” Thank you for giving me hope that maybe I can get out of my negative, frustrating thoughts.

[kalindmhatre]

Thank you very much dr. Scott for making this podcast. It was really insightful. You are a God's messenger. God bless you 🙏

[claireclaire]

You are so phenomenal Scott. Reaching every part of me and helping me so very much. I know you talk about the perfectionist thing like it’s not that great to be perfectionist, but most very successful people are perfectionist types. I found this out by watching certain biographies about great people. For example, great directors of movies… they shoot and re-shoot scenes over and over again to get it exactly right… you are really awesome… and I agree keeping things small and simple is best. If you try to do to many things nothing gets enough attention. And you can drive yourself to have to many pots on the stove, lol so to speak. Great work and keep it up. You have already helped me to feel so much better because you validate my feelings in so many ways. Thank you.😊

[hawkesmaine]

I am so grateful to stumble upon your videos. Just hearing that I’m not the only person sitting in this hole after a TBI makes me feel somewhat better. Thanks ❤

[gerimanchester]

Excellent presentation. Your talk is timely for me and will help me clarify my own thoughts and direct my time. Thanks. 0:12

[drgreat]

As someone who struggles a lot with this issue as well as the methods you mentioned at the beginning of this video, this is insanely helpful.

[Mgt]

PS you have a wonderful sense of humor ie: (18:53) "brains are a little bit dumb sometimes" ...this made me laugh 😂 and thanks to you, I'm understanding thungs in a whole new way!