Girl Talk : 10 Things To AVOID DOING IN YOUR 20s ‼️ | (( Must Watch))|

[gigijanae]

I honestly can't stand the people in the comments justifying having kids and raising them in poverty just to say "I have kids" or because of a fear of lower fertility as you get older and less chances of having kids.

I'd rather have no children than raise my baby in a small one bedroom apartment in some sketchy gang and drug infested neighborhood sleeping on some dirty mattress on the floor wondering whether I should pay my light bills or buy groceries with the very little money I have. I'd rather have no children than send my child to a low-income school where they are exposed to a toxic school environment. Stop thinking about the cute baby face for a second and start thinking about the toxic environment you could potentially bring a child into. I personally would want the absolute best of the best for my child.

[stellakamau]

Another tip is stop comparing yourself to other women. Heal your inner child and thrive in confidence, being secure and self love. Do that for yourself first instead of waiting for a man to validate you. Not every one has good intentions

[mikayacox]

Honestly having a child out of wedlock and when you are not financially stable is the WORST thing you can ever to do yourself.

[bratzlxxx]

My gurls remember the 4Gs
1. God
2. Goals
3. Growing
4. Glowing
Remember this focus on these things the best thing it will help you when you feel down 😉 I hope you have a good day my gurls ❤❤

[brittneysmith]

Do not waste your 20's in a relationship that isn't going anywhere! I've heard too many stories of women who decided to spend their twenty's in 10-year long relationships playing wife to a man who doesn't want to get married hoping one day he will change his mind. He won't! Save your time and energy and find a man who can't wait to marry you.

[Itsmarylynn]

I’m 22 and during this quarantine I’ve developed my own self care routine/regimen and it honestly has made me feel soooo good 💗🥺

[aimanose]

Having a strong relationship with God is key! ❤

[antoniamonet]

1. Take vitamins, work out, have a beauty routine 2. Dont send nudes 3. Don’t follow trends 4. Don’t blow your money 5. Don’t mess up your credit 6. Start a business 7. Understand that friends come and go 8. Don’t limit your job options 9. DON’T HAVE KIDS 10. practice femininity

[sophiejosephbrown]

For my ladies past their 20s, yes you can start your business, invest in yourself, etc. Success sees no age.

[taelahharris]

I'm 19 and a mother. Y'all have your babies laaaterrr enjoy your ability to get up and go! Everyone assumes young mothers don't have it together, but I do. a 730 credit score, 17 months until I graduate nursing school, and constant income all while keeping up with femininity and leveling up It is hard but I'm doing it, with a child!

[WinyMary]

Video tips:
-Take care of your skin and body
-do not send nudes/ record doing something (Save your reputation)

-Do not follow every trend (be selective)

- Do not blow your saving (save and invest)

- Do not ruin your credit (If you cannot buy it three time Do not buy it at all)

- start a business (selling clothes, youtube/ explore your dreams)

-Understand friends come and go (it's a part of life/ God making room for someone better)

- Do not limit yourself to dead end jobs (explore different careers)

- Do not have kids young (you won't have enough time for yourself)

-Do not forget to practice your femininity ( really set foundation for yourself/ start listening to podcast and read books/ watch movies with feminine characters)

[QueenStatus]

Honestly, having children out of wedlock is a disadvantage to any women whether in their 20s or older. There are so many advantages of a two parent household than a single parent household. This still proves true even if the two parent household is dysfunctional. Read the comments, majority of the females upset about the kid part are single mothers. Which is not surprising. If you are a women read and understand the statistics and try to defy them! Recreate your narratives. If you are a single mother seek wisdom from other women who were in your shoes. But don’t be in denial. Unfortunately, the negative stigma and outcomes about having children out of wedlock and young are seen every day.

[LovelyCeee]

I had my kids at a young age and I AGREE with this video! To each it’s own but this video is on point. There is no need to rush having children. Get your life in order first; finish college, or start a successful business. The struggle bucket life is not where it’s at !!!! Children are a blessing but become MARRIED, and Successful FIRST!!!

More MARRIAGES & GRADUATIONS, less baby showers, and young single motherhood

[AlexanderThompson]

Im 25 have my B.S completing my Masters in 2021. Been married to my husband 4 years now working on starting an LLC. Got a job at publishing company as a content analyst 1 years after college and i actually got the offer when I graduated but i was pregnant with my son and I kept in contact with the company. Now I work from home with a 401k/insurance in NYC. Look ladies. If you have a kid in your 20s you can still reach for your goals and more but its important who you have a kid with. My husband lets me still be me and do things that i want to do and just because i have a kid does not take away from my individuality. Be organized. Write down your goals. Dont fall into the stigma you have a kid your life is over people that say things like that havent lived life themselves. Keep in shape! Let your partner watch the kiddo and go get drinks with your girls its all about balance.

[nelit]

I’m 19 turning 20 in 3 months and I started my first business early this year and am planning to start my second business within the coming months. I also have great credit and am in in the process of teaching myself how to invest. All of these take a lot of self discipline, but I’m glad I’m doing it now and setting myself up to have a bright future. Big ups to all the other black girls and black women who are out here grinding as well! Please don’t let people discourage you from doing what you need to move up in life, black women we do not have to settle for mediocrity!!!Continue to make smart and wise choices y’all, we got this!!

[cendychery]

I really liked this video, as someone in my early 20’s, 22, I’ve learned that you can’t fall in love with every guy that treats you nice. They might not have the same goals or mindset you have about not being stagnant and they just might get comfortable with you working hard and providing that motivational energy.

[carmellabrown]

I agree with the majority of these. This is very good advice. The only thing I would say ladies is don't get caught up in trying to be the next Beyonce. What I mean by that is, she mention dead-end jobs. When I heard that, I thought of jobs that are not glamorous. Jobs that don't necessarily pay the most money. Of course we should all strive for our best, and live our best lives. But if you are not in that position yet; do not be harsh/downplaying yourself. Self-love is very important ☺️.

[kensigregory]

Advice I heard from successful elders:

Don't do drugs at all or consistently, or you'll regret it later.

Don't drink alcohol if you don't want your kidney to fail later on in life.

Be careful with the company you keep while you're young, because they'll either stop your growth or help it.

Make sure to or try to keep a clean record at all cost.

Be selective with the men you date or the man you'll decide to marry.

[cfam.o]

I'm 19 and I'm so happy to say I started all these early. I own a skincare line, make my money and have being in skincare for about three years makes me so proud of myself

[cleo]

Just turned 20 and at 19 i made the conscious decision to never give up on myself and to always cherish my soul as well as the body that I am in