How To Deal With An Angry Spouse? Sadhguru Answers

Sometimes a husband or wife is at the receiving end of their spouse’s sharp tongue. One such husband asks Sadhguru how he can deal with his wife’s tongue lashing.

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[ICEcoldJT]

“Love the person, but give the person total freedom. Love the person, but from the very beginning make it clear that you are not selling your freedom.”💚

[djames]

Both the man and the woman should conduct themselves in a manner that is kind and respectful of one another. This makes for a happy and successful marriage. Love is kind.

[curious-abc-xyz]

01:53 never saw sadhguru thinking that much before for speaking on anything else. That gives you an idea how complex the question is.

[artishahrrt]

The sweetest person outside the home can be the most bitter one inside the home. it is the tragedy. No matter what you do to make him happy, he will find another reason to stay unhappy-angry just with you and may punish you by neglecting you, doing complete opposite things than what you have wished or requested for. It is his strong negative, prejudiced and closed mind set for his spouse. He is blind to see you as a wife, as a mother of his children and as a person. He will try everything in his power to make you unhappy. You can defeat this mentality by changing focus from him to you. you must stay happy. You must stay good person and do good karma. You must stay strongly positive. Mainly you must stay detached from his negativity, prejudiced and closed mind set. Intelligence, affection and empathy brings peace in the family. Ignorance, arrogance and ego brings disaster.

[BeyondResist]

“The greatest discovery of any generation is that a human can alter his life by altering his attitude.”
― William James

[GoldMeditation]

Repeat after me:
Thank you for my joy;
Thank you for my happiness;
Thank you for my success;
Thank you for my abundance;
Thank you for my wealth;
Thank you for my prosperity;
Thanks for my health.
Repeat every day and the universe will certainly serve you.

[RK-fiek]

A capable wife is a crown to her husband yet she must be treated with dignity and respect. She must be recognised for her unselfish deeds for her family.
A capable husband is like beautiful necklace for his wife yet he must be treated with sense of understanding and tender love. He must be recognised for his devotion towards family.

[CSL]

I have watched many many videos of Sadguru. I have been married 18 years. First time I didn't understand what he was getting at. His answer was very cryptic .I did have a sharp tongue and used to make the other person cry, but changed when my mother advised me at the time of my marriage. I understood and always try to make a conscious effort to not hurt anyone through my words. In the process of becoming more spiritual every thing which is irrelevant falls away.(Sadguru mentions this in another video) That is a guarantee. These material feelings and emotions will shed if we adopt righteous way of living. One thing I definitely liked about what he said was for 1 rose with 100 thorns, nourish it and make it grow 100 roses . Yes that is a very good way to improve the thorny situation.

[yeonluv]

My physically and mentally abusive dad needs to see this! He has been abusing a Beautiful Goddess he is married to🙏 Thank you sadhguru...

[ashanyasaxena]

Women who have sharp tongue because they are neglected by their spouse, by their inlaws, they are being judged. sometimes when spouse fails to understand a woman then what else she can
A woman who is treated nicely, prioritised and loved she will become more calm more lovable and more soft.
This nobody understands

[srinivasand]

You r 100% correct Sadguruji.

This is for all such unfortunate males who r like me got affected & in a swamp(DalDals).


I handled in two ways diagonally opposit to each other (only verbal).

One way is tell her
"If you continue to show your anger like this I have no other alternative except to leave you for ever." You can see a sea of change gradually in her attitude, infact she will
start realizing her shortcomings sooner than later.

Second you have to be saying regularly "I love you da chellam" you shud be remembering her birthday, anniversary, , festival days & give her gifts (nice saree, golden ornaments)
taking her out for dining, picnic, tours etc.)
Any ill-health of her, invariably she needs yr kindest attention(certainly no faking), if possible you cook a simple pepper, jeera rasam, rice, with some fried items & try to feed her with your arms around. In general she must b treated gently.
Be careful & forget about all her erstwhile love affairs(in case, if any) & be kind to her after all those r due to infatuation.

During & after menopause you must b very much supportive.

In case of forced marriage with you
ask her if she is not comfortable with you, if yes, then you should arrange a counsellor or a council of both parents & settle her with her old acquinttance.

Nowhere your violent behaviour shud b shown to her even if you r getting irritated by her words & attitude. Be patient, solve the issue amicably. Violence is the weapon of a weak, pl bear it in mind.

At no time you must involve yr friends between your wife & you during arguments, he can betray you by befriending your spouse.

Bye friends, please write your feedbacks down the line.

[roopaligupta]

Might sound silly but couldn't take off my eyes from the serene background ..what a feel😍😍

[venugopalAnagandula]

For complicated questions, there are no easy answers. Sadguru is very diplomatic when answering these kind of questions.Anyone who watched the video to get any answers, may have been left with even more questions.

[stevebajada]

Speaking of thorns and that is hurting your hand all the time just remove the thorn . if it is stuck in your hand and the pain is unbearable hide your hand and keep it away . In the mean time who placed the thorn will realize that now he is alone and there is no one around to hurt anymore .

[lodjinsabac]

Endless talking is one of the most horrible situations...🌻

[paritoshdutta]

Summary ( my opinion) - Focus on the good behavior of your spouse, work on improving/adding other good things in her life (like enroll her in dance/singing class, help her to learn new language, help her to learn new recipes, appreciate her on her good things. In a nutshell work on improving the roses and thrones will automatically become insignificant.

[geetanjaliadhikari]

When a woman speaks in anger still she wants good of her partner. Although shes in rage and anger because she gets underestimated, and this happens specially where the woman compromises herself for her partner. So ladies, have a life for yourself, love yourself first.

[borys]

"You must find another victim for her, and you get the wonderful part of her" LOL, after 30 years of being together and 25 years of marriage I have watched my wife destroy friendships with girlfriends, colleagues at work etc., I always watched from the sidelines, then to realize I was next on her list to be did I spend 3/4 of my life with this toxic person?

[raymondtendau]

Craving leads to suffering.The only way to be liberated from suffering is to be liberated from Craving.And the only way to be liberated from craving is to train the mind to experience reality as it is.

[basshead]

it just takes one relationship to make you or break you....i wonder how people manage to have multiple relationships at once